i just can not get off. i cant have an orgazan when i have sex with him. so what can i do? do i tell him, brake up, ignore that,..... what?
2006-11-16 01:36:13 · 21 answers · asked by Sexy lady 25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why can't you have an orgasm with him? Is it something he is doing or not doing? In that case tell him. If not, maybe it is in your head.
2006-11-16 01:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't unusual for this to happen in the beginning of a relationship. Not everyone is on an even playing field. You need to learn what pleases each other. Teach him lady. If you show him exactly what you need, you could be having the best sex of your life in a very little time. Remember, a little patience could have a big pay off. Good sex comes from good communication. Don't belittle him,start by asking what he likes and to show you how to please him. This should open the door for you to ask the same of him. Make it fun, allow yourselves to learn.
2006-11-16 01:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting on top the next time. It'll give you more control of 'what goes where and when' and it should help you.
Other wise, suggest a little more foreplay or maybe a little oral sex going on before the actual sex.
It sounds like you aren't getting enough stimulation before hand and need a 'helping hand' or 'mouth' to do the job.
There's more than one successful way to get the results you want and you should talk to him about them. You both could then try new and different techniques and see what works for you.
2006-11-16 01:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it is normal for girls to not have a orgasim every time they have sex. If you have had them before on a regular with other guys, then maybe it is because of him. Just let him know what is going on and suggest maybe different positions or maybe some foreplay or toys.. You need to let him know. Good luck~
2006-11-16 01:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 22:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OFF A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT SUPPOSE TO BE BASED ON SEX. SO NO U SHOULDNT BRAKE UP WITH HIM. UNLESS YOUR IN THE RELATION SHIP JUST FOR THE SEX THEN YEAH YOU SHOULD. U SHOULDNT OF BEEN TOGETHER ANYWAYS. BUT NO YOUR SHOULDNT BREAK UP WITH HIM U SHOULD TRY NEW PASITIIONS. GET TOYS SOMETHING.
2006-11-16 01:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by slick_chik316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ignore it...dont brake up if you like him. Deal with it. Be sensitive to his ego and im sure (if he is a nice chap) he will be sensitive to your needs. Im not a sexologist so any more advice than that would be egotistical and ridiculous.
2006-11-16 01:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by tomytiptoes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's what you need to do...not trying to be gross but you need to spice it up hun. try a position that always used to work for you or a totally new one may work ... add some romance if it's lacking... or maybe you like more foreplay or hell, try role playing or toys if you got to. Life's short and you got to be comfortable enough with your guy to talk about these things and make it enjoyable for both of you... tell him u want to spice things up.. hope this helps...
2006-11-16 01:47:37 · answer #8 · answered by feelingfroggee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him whats wrong but put it in a gentle way so as to not hurt his feelings and maybe you can make some suggestions on what you want him tod do...
2006-11-16 01:45:28 · answer #9 · answered by Joey_D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him. you know your body and you know what it takes to get you off. maybe there is something that he can do to help you get off or maybe there is something that he's not doing that you need him to. the only other reason is that you really like him but there's just not chemistry there in that aspect.
2006-11-16 01:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by Rebel Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him,i remember when i had problems with my new boyfriend,and i told him,so i told him stuff that could work and we tried it!It was fun,we tried all types of things to satisfy me,and he really enjoyed it too...plus he'll know for next time!lol.
2006-11-16 01:40:49 · answer #11 · answered by Shana T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋