things get damaged things get broken why did i thought we would manage?

Question

I had my life figured out i would be with my girlfriend i would leave my home town it was all planed i planed it out so well so perfect but slowly by little everything got damaged girlfrined left me i am now a looser got no true friends i am in college getting my education but got no friend just my family and got no girl

why is it that when u think u got your life figured out things get broken and damaged

Answer 1

Since you posted this in religion and spirituality I will say that the life you had planned is not the life God is planning for you.
His plan is perfect for you. Just be patient, trust the Lord and you will see.

Answer 2

Crap happens. Get used to it, and you'll be much happier.

Perhaps your expectations of the relationship were different than your girlfriend's expectations. In building a relationship, communication is the key.

Also, all relationships are temporary. Either one of you dies or one of you leaves. So, don't worry about the ending of relationships. It happens. Instead, just enjoy the time you have with the person while you're with them. If it ends, keep the good memories.

I'm sure you've had friends in the past, so you will probably have friends in the future. You also have family, which is a help. You've had a girl in the past, and you'll probably have on in the future. However, don't obsess about it or you'll be a basket case that nobody will want to be around. Concentrate on yourself. Find out what else you wish to do in your life and do it.

Once you are happy with yourself, other people will notice and find you more interesting. Also, it is good to make plans, but don't obsess about them. Keep yourself flexible.

Answer 3

Because life isn't always meant to be what we think it should be.
Try to look at it in a positive light, I know it's hard to do when everything is so crappy. You may not have a girlfriend now, but try to think that now you have an opportunity to meet a great woman who will make you happier than your last one. You are going to college that is good.. True friends are hard to find, so don't be so hard on yourself. Just get acquainted with people at school and try to have fun with them. Be happy that you have family, that is important and not everybody has that.
Good Luck Man!

Answer 4

I know it hurts right now, but think of the good things you do have. You are off to a great start by being in college. It is actually going to be good for you to not have the distractions that a girlfriend and other friends would cause to your learning process. Just try to relax, get to know yourself better, and absorb all the information from your classes. Love and friends will come into your life naturally, all by themselves. All you have to do is smile at those around you and seek out the activities you enjoy. Inevitably you will meet friends and possible romantic partners amoung those who share your interests in places that lend themselves to those activites. Just be yourself and be positive in your outlook on life, and you will be noticed in a good way. Good luck :)

Answer 5

Ah, fine Depeche Mode lyric there…

I am in a similar boat, but in my case I left the girl as she turned out to be someone other than she led me to believe she was. Either way, we share the same situation: alone, without friends or family in a strange place.

The trick in both our cases is to make something out of the crap we’ve got to deal with. There is only meaning to this if you impose a meaning on it, otherwise it’s just life splattering you with offal. Sounds like it’s a good time to look inside yourself and see who you are, who you want to be, and how to get from here to there. I’ve been reading a lot of Henry Miller and enjoying the way he felt deeply and intensely in the moment. Although I’m not following in his footsteps, his words are still provoking me to go out and do things, feel things and be intense about it. Take big bites out of life and savor every moment of it. Have a ferocious appetite just to feel, to experience, to live. Damn right I’m hurt and wounded. But I’ll be good and goddamned if I’m not going to feel a hell of a lot of other things too.

Answer 6

I have come to find out by painful experiences to not make plans. Plans are made to be broken. It is hard to live life on a whim sometimes, but I have come to figure out that if you don't make plans, then you won't be dissapointed later. Sorry that everything has fell apart on you, dude. Good luck.

Answer 7

you are not a loser. you are going through a down period at the present time. soon things will start looking up for you as I " have been there done that. " please start going about this with a positive outlook. get good grades in school and if you start having problems talk to your professors and get tutoring. the professors have the attitude " I've got mine and I'm here to help you get yours, even though you will work for the degree. " there are many young ladies at college and suggest you look around for a lady to date. if things are really starting to get to you see a counselor and get help. please remember when GOD closes a door then HE opens a window.

Answer 8

Just because your girlfriend left you does not mean you are a loser. Concenterate on your education and plan on having a good career.

Answer 9

Why do think you have things figured out?
You seem young. Give it 30 more years then maybe you'll know more.

Answer 10

I'm sorry things are going so badly for you.....but they will turn around again, you'll see. God bless you, take care.