How do I sort my sister out?

Question

My sister is younger than me and really difficult. She talks to me like dirt for no apparent reason. She thinks I fancy everyone she likes although I'm in a good relationship. She cuts herself I have tried talking to her and taken her docs but she still does it. Its seriously stressing me out. Mum and Dad thinks she is the perfect child and won't listen to me. Please help!? x

My sister is 18 and I'm 20. Mum and Dad do know about her cutting herself but they are at the end of their tether aswell. She is stunning aswell - I just don't know. xxx

Answer 1

i think she has a lot of issues! dont take this the wrong way but i think she is mean to you because she is jealous of you! she is not mentally well that is why she self harms! she will grow out of it with time (wel some people do).. i think the self harming is the worrying part here and not her attitude! if you get her some counselling for that first then her behaviour in other aspects of her life and attitude towards people will change!

sisters are supposed to be evil! you should meet mine :)

Answer 2

Perhaps talking to her hasn't worked before - try writing her a letter about how much you care for her and the pain she is causing to her family. She is insecure for some reason, you will probably never understand why she is. Maybe you should give her some space - if she talks to you like dirt it might be because she is fed up with you. Back off a bit after you give her the letter (keep the letter short and positive) She may be having problems with friends/boyfriends or not enjoying college/school. There really isn't much you can do as she is going through this on her own, but as long as she knows you are there for her and will support her then i think that might help. Your parents should listen to you, talk to them once more about your concerns, if you approach this in a calm way then maybe you can all talk about it together. Good luck, i hope your sister gets through this.

Answer 3

Sounds like your little sis has some rejection issues. She doesn't necessarily have to be rejected in her life in order to have feelings of rejection. Rejection or the fear of rejection will cause a person to become rebellious (thus the way she speaks to you) and will also build walls inside of her. This may be the reason that you cannot get to her. Rebellion will lead to anger. All of this rejection, hurt and anger is building up and it is manifesting into her hurting herself. These days a lot of young kids are trying to get an outlet by cutting themselves to try to relieve the pain that they are feeling on the inside. What do you do? I would find a good christian counselor in your area. Regular doctors will not be able to remedy this problem (they will probably mask it with drugs). This poor young lady needs a healing from the inside out and the only way to do this is through the power of God. If you need more help please feel free to e-mail me. This is very serious so please act quickly. I'll say a pray for both of you. God Bless!

Answer 4

Your sister is needs to get help, because there is obviously some problem and this is why she is cutting herself. Do you parents know that she is cutting herself if not you have to tell them and if they do know but are choosing to ignore it you have to make them face it. I think that all of you should sit down as a family and try to get to the root of your sisters problem, find out if anything is worrying her or if there is something that you can help her with.

Also it might be worth you speaking to a doctor or nurse to find out what you can do about her harming herself. You need to do it know before she gets any worse. Also it isn't fair on you, but I think that the reason she is being so horrible to you could be all connected to the self harming. Bottom line you need to get her to talk to someone and if its not you or your parents a doctor or nurse either way you need to make her realise that what she is doing isn't right

Answer 5

It's terrible that you are in this position. I don't know how old you are but it seems you are still reliant on your parents so I would pass this problem on to them. If she is cutting herself, there is no reason why you should be the only one that knows - I admire you trying to take her to the doctors but it is not your responsibility; your parents must be made aware of this. I know it's hard, I've been there, but believe me it is such a relief afterwards. If your parents are worth a damn, they should love you all equally and listen to what you say otherwise, be brave and ring ChildLine and tell them that you are being abused because that is what is amounts to. Be brave, you can make your life so much better.

Answer 6

I got the feeling while i was reading your question, that your sister has relied on her beauty to get through this world. She is now 18.
She has to use more than beauty to get through this world as an adult. As a child you can float through on looks alone.
I think your sister, just doesn't know how to make it when the focus is on something other than good looks. I would say she needs real serious help. My daughter is "stunning" too. That's the problem. She does not know how to converse socially. She, (your sister!) Is missing something. She's jealous of you. Help her please.

Answer 7

For some reason i can't believe that your parents understand the depth of her problems. Have a talk with mom and dad and let them decide on how to best solve this........if your parents fail to do anything about it then why not bring this to the attention of social services? Hope this helps

Answer 8

Do your parents realize that your sis is in bad shape ? If not, they really need to know. If they won't listen, tell them to look (wherever she cuts herself) and tell them to ask her what happened. She sounds like she is dealing with serious jealousy problems. Can you talk to her school counselor ? Or a mental health professional ?

Answer 9

Try to show your not intrested in her life or about show that you dont care and maybe she mite stop the attention seeking from you, if she wants to hurt herself only thing i can suggest is try talking to your parents about that the only other thing i can suggest is sit down with her one night on your own and try talking to her if she goes all nasty dont rise to it and just keep talking let her no you care too much to see her hurt mite stop her being how she is

Answer 10

She's got psychological problems if she cuts herself--talk to your parents about getting an interventionist to help sort her out. You cannot do this alone.