Here's the thing... I've begun to crush on a friend of a friend.
I'm a little prankster so I started talking to him through the Internet without him knowing who I am. I eventually told him it was me and since then we've kept on talking.
The problem is that recently a female friend of mine told me that she has a crush on him. I didn't tell her from the beginning that I'm crushing on him, too, and she's kept on talking to me about how she feels and what happens when they cross paths.
So now I'm in a strange position, where I'm helping my friend conquer my crush.
On some level, though, I feel it's unfair, because my friend has already got a boyfriend and she's mostly looking to cheat on her current boyfriend. I have no boyfriend and my motives are pure.
So, since I talk with my crush regularly now, he gives me the impression he doesn't want to get involved with my friend.
I would've liked to eventually ask him out, but I'm afraid I'll be betraying my friend.
What should I do??
2006-11-16 00:52:21 · 15 answers · asked by christilef 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way, my crush and I have continued talking, but not through chat, we talk every day at school.
My female friend has done and said things behind my back in the past, so even though I've forgiven her, I still don't trust her fully so I wouldn't say she's such a good friend.
2006-11-16 01:15:21 · update #1
Hmm I didn't tell her about my feelings for him because I don't like to tell people who I'm crushing on.
2006-11-16 01:30:03 · update #2
Personally, I don't think it's right for your friend to be looking for ways to get closer to that guy when she already has a boyfriend.
I think perhaps you could wait for sometime to observe if your crush likes you? You can tell him your feelings and see if he feels the same way. But I don't think it is entirely right to keep ur friend in the dark too. You should tell her how you feel about him soon. Yeap. If she is really your friend she will understand that you have a right to crush him too :)
good luck!
2006-11-16 01:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has someone, so go for it. Plus, if you care about him as much as you say you do, then you wouldn't hurt him by letting her get to him first - just to use him. I had the same exact thing happen, and I let my friend have the guy, and hated it the whole time. Now, none of us talk anymore. Think of what may come in the future. Good luck.
2006-11-16 01:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already betrayed your friend by not being honest with her. You need to let her know what's been going on. If you truely like this guy then you need to express that to her. Make her aware of her boyfriend and that she needs to handle that situation before moving on to another one. Talk with the crush and explain the situation. Who knows, he may not really like either one of you. You need to be open and honest with your friend, or you are not a friend at all. Good luck.
2006-11-16 00:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your friend the truth...its hard but the best thing to do! I think tell her that actually you've been chatting with him and you haven't told her yet cos you didnt want to upset her and now you admit you should have told her from the beginning and you're ONLY telling her now cos you know that he isn't interested in her and you don't want to see her get hurt by trying to persue him and lose her current man. that way you come off looking caring about her needs (which is true anyway) AND you get the guy :)
2006-11-16 00:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How good a friend is your mate?
Is she worth loosing over a guy that might dump you in a month?
Or is that a risk your willing to take?
Im a guy, and I dont think men go looking for a LONG TERM relationship, so stick with ya mate I say.
2006-11-16 00:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gonna have to come out to your friend about everything. Your crush, your communications, all that. Yeah, shes probably gonna get mad, but you can tell her that she is already seeing someone so she really has no right to be angry.
It is you who is risking your friendship for this guy. Only you can know whether he is worth it or not.
2006-11-16 00:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you also has a crush on him, then the two of you can conquer him together.
As for her boyfriend. That's her own business, just tell her that she should be nice to her boyfriend. As for on how to be nice, that's for her to figure out.
2006-11-16 02:01:45 · answer #7 · answered by E A C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should tell your friend that you like him too and you been talking to him for some time. Also remind her she does have a bf
2006-11-16 00:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by andyramvzb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is looking to cheat on her boyfriend, She's the betrayer, not you.
Go for the guy. Tell your friend to learn what committment is.
2006-11-16 00:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by JediKnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the bed now you have to sleep in it. You didn't communicate your feelings to her about him..AND started helping her...finish what you started and hope for the best.
2006-11-16 00:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋