I am from Ohio and my fiance is from Wisconsin. I moved to NC a little over 2 yrs ago and met my fiance in the state after I moved here. We both moved here for our jobs. Neither of us has family here. I thought to be fair we should have the wedding in NC rather than in OH. I know typically the wedding is held where the bride is from, but I would hate to leave out his family and friends. Is this a good compromise?
2006-11-16 00:43:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This info might help - we are planning a summer wedding and we live near Myrtle Beach. My thinking was it might also be a good vacation for people who have never been here.
Also, this is our home now. We have our careers here and no intentions of leaving.
2006-11-16 02:27:05 · update #1
If your family can afford the trip then I think having it in NC is fine. Remember you can't please all the people all the time. If you start making unreasonable compromises now, then you will be destined to a life time of just that. If your family can't afford the trip then maybe yo should be prepared to pay for them your self, if you can.
If money isn't an issue with your family then you have nothing to worry about, It is YOUR and your husband to be wedding, don't lose sight of that. Let them know ASAP so they can plan accordingly. I have a son and daughter that are of marrying age (wish they would hurry up and do it!!!)...lol...but to the point, I would never expect them to have their weddings to convenience me, in any way shape or form.
Try not make it too complicated, just tell em you can't wait to marry this man you love and the wedding is on such and such date and that you wanted to let them know early so they could make plans!!!!!! good luck and have a great life!!!!
2006-11-16 02:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having the wedding in Ohio doesn't leave out his family in Wisconsin...I'm sure you both have family or friends from states other than Ohio and Wisconsin who will have to make the trip as well. It is always better to have the wedding at home because you know the venues around the area etc. Ohio has some great locations for ceremonies and receptions...or take a look at both and compare.
2006-11-16 01:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one will be left out no matter where you have it. You could look at it for the point of view that you will only make half the people have to travel. You could also pick a place that's in the middle of the two states that way everyone will have to go the same distance. Lastly, you both have friends in NC so maybe your best choice would be there. You should price all three options and make an informed decision. There's no etiquette here just personal choice.
2006-11-16 02:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have the wedding anywhere you like, but you should do what you can to help travelers such as reserving a block of rooms in the chosen town.
One solution that I've seen is to hold the wedding in a popular vacation spot such as a nice beach resort. That way people who need to travel for your wedding will get more out of it than just the wedding - it will be like a nice vacation for them.
One thing I learned from my wedding is that as long as you are gracious people don't tend to care about details - or even remember them a few years down the line - so do what YOU want because it is YOUR wedding.
2006-11-16 01:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, yes you're right, the wedding is in the bride's hometown. Nowadays, it is acceptible for the wedding to be where the bride and groom both live. It's still odd to have the wedding in the groom's hometown.
I would think that his family, being in Wisconsin, would much prefer for the wedding to be in Ohio than in North Carolina, because Ohio is closer to them.
2006-11-16 01:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your problem. You stated that neither of you have family in NC, so why would you want to hold a wedding there. You need to think about accomodations. Where are all of the people invited to the wedding going to stay? The plane ticket is going to be expensive, the hotel, and the gift. Why would you expect so many people to be put out like that? I hope you reconsider and share your special day with your family and friends in the state you are from. Good luck.
2006-11-16 00:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-09-01 13:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by leng 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't it be better, and nicer, to make only one half of the guest list spend money and travel? Get married in Ohio, then your family, your mom, can really be involved in it like they have always dreamed. I think you will have a small, grouchy wedding party in NC -- and most of the money for gifts will have been spent on tickets....
2006-11-16 04:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the wedding in NC....but out of courtesy, see if his immediate family will be able to make it. If you give folks enough time, they will make arrangements to get there.
I've traveled from Pennsylvania to South Carolina for my cousin's wedding.
I got married in PA and I had people as far away as Georgia, so it could work!!
Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-16 00:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by Wife~and~Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have your wedding wherever you want to. I'm from Toronto, but my family is in Montreal and my grandparents are getting older and don't travel very well. So, we're thinking of getting married in Montreal because I really want them there with us. Otherwise, we would just get married here.
2006-11-16 01:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋