will my 14 month old miss me?

Question

i need to work overtime so i can get my son christmas presants and i am worried will he forget who i am and will he miss me i know this might sound really stupid but i am a first time mom and i dont want him thinking he is not loved i want him to have a lovely christmas and i cant afford anything unless i do overtime i love my little boy so much i just dont wont him to forget me and start thinking someone elas is his mom

Answer 1

That is so sad, but I know a lot of mums have reservations about leaving their children for the first time. He wont forget someone who loves you so much. He is old enough now to know exactly who you are. Make the weekends more special, spend lots of time together and good luck. You seem like a fantastic mother who wants the best for her son. He is lucky to have you.

Answer 2

No he wont forget you, your only doing this for a short while. He will miss you. Make sure you spend extra time with him when ever possible. If you dont make enough money, why dont you sign up for toys for tots, call the salvation army. Some one turned my name in one year and the fire department brought my daughter christmas gifts, and gave me 3 bags of grocerys. It doesnt hurt to ask for help when you need it.--- To be honest he wont remember this christmas anyway, don't be soo hard on yourself. I have a 1 month old son too by the way.

Answer 3

He will not forget you, but he will miss you. I think it's important to ask yourself which HE would want more for Christmas- a mom who is around or new presents. If my dd at 14 months is any indication, I know she would have rather had me around. Unless of course you're getting him stuff he needs like if he needs a coat or something.

This year I'm making a lot of my daughter's Christmas presents with fabric I got for very cheap. I have also bought a few things at thrift stores. She's 2 1/2 and I know she will love them. Sometimes we need to ask ourselves if we're "doing Christmas" the way we are for our kids or for us. Toddlers don't care if they get one present or fifty, if their presents are brand new or used, or if they are expensive or cheap. It's we that want our kids to have the best things money can buy, but our kids don't care (at least not at this age). You could probably find him a good selection of gifts at a thrift store for less than $5, then stay with your son to help him have the merriest Christmas he could imagine.

Answer 4

No he will not forget you. You two formed a bond while he was in the womb. As for his presents, remember he is only 14 months old. At that age, they aren't interested in the presents. Go to the dollar store and pick up several items in the baby section and wrap them in boxes. He'll have more fun tearing apart the paper, than he will with any toy. Kids at that age don't understand the allure of Christmas yet. Don't fret.

Answer 5

I too have a 14 month old boy and have just increased my working hours slightly so he's had to go to nursery. I now really make the the most of my time with him with cuddles and fun, but feel more fulfilled going to work too. Don't over do it though, he'll just be happy to have you for xmas and won't care for all the expensive toys. He's a lucky boy to have a mummy that cares so much!

Answer 6

honestly, i think that your son would enjoy spending more time with you rather than getting a lot of presents for christmas. if you have to work over time to pay the bills and keep a roof over your head, then you gotta do what you gotta do. but if you are going to work overtime just so that you can get him lots of presents for christmas i dont think you should do it. when your son gets older he is not going to remember getting a lot of presents when he was a baby, but your time spent with him will leave a lasting impression. christmas is not all about material things, its about spending time with family and friends. thats just my take on it though.

Answer 7

You sound very sweet. Of course your son will miss you because you're his mummy, but he will not forget who you are. You're doing this for all the right reasons, now if you were out partying every night of the week & weekend & leaving him with other people you would get a very different response but you're doing a good thing so feel proud, well done.

Answer 8

Forget the fancy gifts..hes to young to miss them really. It is more important to his well being that you are there and he doesnt miss you. If he starts to miss and resent you the gifts wont even make up for it. Just spend the time with your baby thats the best thing you can give him. Dont worry about being poor.

Answer 9

You have all the right feelings and instincts. You know the answer inside yourself. He will miss you. He doesn't need all those Christmas presents - but he does need you - every day. The presents are as much for you/society as him. If he's got two things to unwrap (cheap, in crackly paper) he'll have the best time. Trust me. Go on, trust me.

Answer 10

At 14 months, he is well aware of who his mum is and to him, you are irreplaceable. Children are quite capable of being left for periods with others - as long as they understand that you always come back with a big cuddle, they are fine. He might be a bit clingy to start, but he will get used to a new routine and will be fine. You are doing your best for him, and he's going to love you regardless of what you do.