all the girls in my country go for older and married men for money and other goodies and younger guys are seen as kids. i dnt feel ok with this but if you are not a part of it, people see you as a jerk. is it true
2006-11-16 00:35:43 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh................NO!!!!!!!!!!
Thats a no brainer
2006-11-17 12:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by lollipop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never OK to date a married man unless you are the woman married to him. Marriage vows are not made to be broken. I can not imagine an entire country where it is acceptable for young women to date married men strictly for the monetary gain. If this practice is common where you live, but you feel uncomfortable with it, I would suggest you go with your true feelings and don't be a part of this. If others think of you as a jerk, what harm does that do? Let people think what they want, what is more important is that you are following your true belief and being true to yourself. Plus, if you begin to stick up for what you believe, there will probably be other young women who see you being brave enough to put an end to this home-wrecking behavior and will also stop doing it as well. There are probably many very nice younger men who may not have the money that married men do, but they will have much more in common with you. Dating is not about getting money and expensive things, it is for going out with someone you can have an enjoyable time with, have good conversation, and perhaps find someone who is destined to be your spouse. How would you feel if you were an older married woman and your husband was seeing sweet young girls on the side and giving her money and things that are taking away financially from you and your children?
2006-11-16 00:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but if you already made up your mind do you really want my advice? He's married so don't be upset when you realize your the 2nd fiddle, and or if he gets you pregnant and chooses his wife over you. And finally you just overall stand the greatest chance of losing in that relationship. What a bummer to get heartbroken and cant do nothing about it. don't be surprised if his wife goes psycho on him or you. Maybe I'll see you on that show cheaters.
Look at the bright side, if you do gt him in the end, and if he has children he'll be paying child support, that means you and your man can live on a partial paycheck,
You mentioned in your country this behavior is accepted? Must be a third world country, so what country is it so I can warn my sons of the lurking danger.
2006-11-16 00:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by cruizer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that they are jerks for being so shallow. I don't understand people who go after someone elses partner. Why not find your own? That's not a very good goal to have in life. It can also get very messy. Wouldn't you rather find a man of your own instead of having to hide your relationship and know that they go home to another woman every night? Don't follow the crowd...stand up for yourself and have some morals. I honestly believe that what goes around comes around and the people who are involved with married men will end up alone one day. Be your own person.
2006-11-16 00:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Think more on what you'd think and feel if your boyfriend or husband sees another woman. Then, it is your choice to try to content the others or your own soul. Also you should be aware that it is impossible to content all persons, you won't be yourself anymore, but a model of what the others want. Try to be yourself, respect you and the others and express your own wishes and opinions without fear and make all see your true "essence" and people will love, appreciate and respect you for what you are!
2006-11-16 01:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Gospel of Thomas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the jerks are the ones who follow the crowd...even though they are all going to fall into a pit. Why would you want to date a married man unless you yourself are afraid of commitments...married guys date cuz they don't have to give anyone a committment...they are already committed (or supposed to be) and you will never come first...
2006-11-16 00:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well everyone has a name for it but i call it stupid and excuse my rudeness but unless you like a whole lot of drama and people looking at you like a home wrecker why in the world would you think that would make you a jerk? If you don't think it's OK then i would say that you have a whole lot of self respect and morals.
2006-11-16 00:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd love to be a jerk for all the right reasons. Leave married men alone, they belong to a married woman!
2006-11-16 00:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not ok to date married men. They belong to someone else. If the want money, get a job. If they want goodies, buy it after they get that job.
2006-11-16 00:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lori 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are selling themselves for stuff, isn't that called being a prostitute?
Sounds like you are a person who thinks a little deeper and is concerned with being true to yourself. You are not a jerk, you are a person with self respect.
Doing the right thing is usually not the easy thing.
2006-11-16 00:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ni its not ok. put the shoes on the other foot, say you were madly in love woth your husband, and you find out that he had a mistress. How would you feel? absolutely crushed. It doesn't matter what other people feel, or do, its the type of respect that you have for yourself and other people. Marriage is sacred and an outsider shouldn't interfere with it.
2006-11-16 00:45:55 · answer #11 · answered by shronda s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋