6 yr old daughter acting like teenager, what to do?

Question

I'm sure alot of parents go thru this, however I do not know how to cope sometimes. She drives me nuts. She's often mean to her three year old brother and talks like a baby to him when I've told her time and again he is learning to talk still and she needs to speak correctly, and then she has him say words like "poopy" which aggravates me more. She mouths off to me, doesn't listen. I don't spank but I do send her to her room when she gets out of control which usually ends with her telling me no she doesn't have to. Then she'll scream she hates me and run off. I've tried talking to her about it. I don't know what else to do, I don't think I can send her to her room for the entire day, and I don't think I can send her to bed without dinner. She does listen to my boyfriend though, and my ex-husband (her father) never disciplines her and never has since she was born. So I know she CAN listen and behave, but how do I get her to behave for ME?

Answer 1

you have a alot of work to do and you have to be willing to follow through. She needs consistansy!
When she is misbehaving or mouthing off you need to put her in an area where she can sit down and reflect on what she did where she doesn't have access to toys or distractions
Once you have found this area give her a set time to sit and think explain to her you are putting her here to think about what she did wrong. Ask her what she did and if she is willing to tell you you can say now I want you to think about it and think about how you make mommy feel when you say these things
When you have given her sometime you can go back to her and ask her if she did some thinking
See what she has to say and encorage her to apologize.
Keep doing the same routine everytime she does something. Don't give her chance after chance. She has no respect for you now. She needs to know that you are her boss.

Answer 2

Wow! That is crazy! I have a 7 yr old, and can't imagine her even thinking of doing those things! I really feel for you, but sorry to say somewhere along the line she got the impression that is was okay to behave like this! You have to be extremely Firm with her! You must show her you mean business! It' sad to say, but if you do not nip this in the bud now, she may get worse! I do not believe in spanking myself, never have done it with my own. But in this case, I would consider it. Did she get like this out of no where or has it been a pattern with her? Check into other things, like classmates and grades, maybe there is an issue there. You have to lay down the law, scare her into acting the right way! I hope that you have success with whatever you try with her.

Answer 3

I Definatly Know what you are going through. I also have a 6yr daughter who thinks shes Hannah Montana lol. She was born with spina bifida she walks good but we really never displined her much because of that. But i will say lately shes been getting alot of spankings, But she laughs anyway appartenly they don't really bother her . The only thing that works for us is i have to raise my voice (which i hate to do) Then she will behave. Also try the time out chair that sometimes work. We don't even bother sending her to her room anymore as a source of punishment she has so much stuff in there it doesn't even phase her, and its too much stuff to take outta there . 5-8 yr olds are so influcenced by what they see around them example school, friends ect .. or what they watch on tv its getting really hard to bring them back down to what a normal 5-8 yr old should act like .. Good luck to ya .

Answer 4

Instead of you "can't" send her to her room for an entire day or you "can't" send her to bed without dinner sounds to me as if you WON'T do these two things. If you WON'T do what is necessary to discipline your child then don't whine about her behavior. The probably reason she listens to your boyfriend is that he actually DISCIPLINES her and is in control of the discipline. She is 6 years old and is going to do all that she can to get your attention whether it be good or bad, to a child it doesn't matter what KIND of attention they get as long as they get it and she has learned (or you have shown her), how to push all of your buttons. She's in control when you try to discipline her because you won't take control. Until you do you'll always have problems and it will soon start with your son as well.

Answer 5

Put your foot down, and hard. My four year old did the same thing with me, and I popped her rear end and sent her to her room. She came out long enough to go to the bathroom and eat supper. That's it. After a day of nothing but staring at the walls of her room, she's been a different child ever since. And I know all about the daddy not disciplining. My ex doesn't either, and it leaves me and my husband to be the "bad parents." At least, that's what her dad tells her.

Answer 6

I have a 5 year old that is pretty much the same, until she knows that I am upset with her.
You need to put your foot down. You need to be stern and strict with her. If she wants to act out, then send her to her room. Take away TV priviledges. If that doesn't work, try this method. It has worked for MANY kids I know....CLEAN OUT HER BEDROOM. Take away all her toys. The only thing you leave in her room is her bed, blankets and a few changes of clothes. And make sure she knows EXACTLY why you did it. That way when you send her to her room, she won't have a thing to do. And if she has things taken from her for bad behavior, then she will want to work harder to be good. As she gets better and better, give her one thing back at a time. And if she has a relapse, take it all away again and start over. It will work. It's not cruel, it doesn't hurt them, it's not physical. She still has all her necessities, just not the stuff she loves!!! Try it!!! It worked for me as a kid, and my daughter, as well as a few others I know!!!

Answer 7

I have been helping out in my 5 year old kindergarten class and there is a group of girls that are 5/6 going on 17. Most children do not listen to their parents. The only thing I can recommend is follow through with what you say.If you say no dessert if you do x and then she does x do not give in and give her desert.

Answer 8

Sounds to me like you need a time out chair..
let her sit there for awhile until she learns how to behave.
When she calms down let her off the chair.

If she gives you a hard way to go, I'm afraid a
spanking is in order. It won't be the end of the
word but with some children only a spanking
works.

Answer 9

She's pushing your buttons, big time!
If your current forms of discipline isn't working, change tatics. Make her stand in a corner, sit in a chair, etc... if this doesn't work, remove her toys, no tv, etc...
You have to be firm with her. Right now she's getting away with whatever she wants and you have to put a stop to it.
This is a battle of wills and so far, it sounds like she's winning.
She doesn't look at you as an authority figure and she needs to know you mean business, when you tell her to do / not do something.

Answer 10

Okay first off she will not keel over from a spanking . A good old fashioned spanking will suit her just fine sounds to me. I spanked both my boys and they turned out just fine. they have never been in jail ,they are both college educated and have wonderfull wives and they are both very well adjusted. so if you ask me you need to implement either a spanking or a time out chair I used both. Since her father is involved he also needs to implement these tactics as well. If he wont then I am afraid it will all be up to you. believe me when I say i think you will notice a change in your child for the better. good luck and god bless and happy thanksgiving.