Im really torn at the moment between following my heart or head. Yeh I know its vague but I'm just trying to gauge what the general consensus is.
2006-11-16 00:12:10 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think u should ever stay in a relationship out of companionship and security. Those two things without love are nothing, and in the long run they don't cut it. You need to take the risk away from security ........that will come again don't worry, and if you have love u will gain the companionship too only only a much higher level. Don't look back at your life years from now and think "o my God when was the last time I was happy?" Take the risk and go for love everytime.
2006-11-16 01:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is an age thing. Obviously companionship shouldn't be mutually exclusive from love but if you were forced to make a choice then I would go for companionship. I have seen many people getting married because they are 'in love' and once the first flush dies they realise that they aren't really even friends with their partner. If you're under 35 go for the mad rush but it might not last after all it doesn't for 50% of marriages. As the options thin out as you get older I would much prefer to go for someone who I had a lot in common with and who I loved spending time with. That grows into love. You haven't mentioned the option of being on your own - if you are always hankering after true love/infatuation then you will just punish your companion for not being the one.
2006-11-16 00:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by gerkin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'll put it this way, a saying from my old pal Victor Hugo goes a little something like this, The greatest happiness on earth is to be loved, to be loved for ourselves, or rather, to be loved in spite of ourselves. Meaning if someone loves you, despite that you're a horse's patootie or not the handsomest or richest in the world, but loves you for you, well there just isn't anything better than that. Security is great, companionship is too, but honey, if you can combine that with a great love, you better hang on, cause its going to be the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE! Anything else is just a rehearsal for that relationship! No reason not to have all of those things. You can learn how to make your life have security if you are financially stable and know how to save, you can have great companionship with someone you love, there is no reason to not have security and companionship with someone that you love. If you have drama, well, once the drama fades, you're just left with someone who knows how to push your buttons, and its not so fun anymore. Think about it, hope this helps you!
2006-11-16 00:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is good when its brand new but when things begin to get rocky in the relationship you wish you were never in love so companionship and security definitely has my vote but thats speaking from a 35yrold divorcy
2006-11-16 00:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love includes companionship and security. But I'd go with the first answerer after my recent heartbreak.
2006-11-16 00:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a company and secured, and you got all the things in the world, but without love everything still worthless. Love is the best thing in the world. Even if you choose money cause you love money.. So love runs everything!!!
2006-11-16 00:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by Simply_Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you should really ask is whether or not someone is willing to be wholly commited to you and you to them. Love, I believe, is a commitment not a feeling and as we all know feelings come and go. It's much easier to say you love someone than it is to actually do it. I think that being attracted to someone is important but looks can change. I also think that if you genuinely care about someone it's easier to commit to that person.
2006-11-16 00:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by brcrro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love should provide companionship and security. If you love someone - you want them to feel that, as well as safe and protected. Are you sure you don't mean Lust?
2006-11-16 00:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love guides the heart and the mind.
2006-11-16 00:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by bethanybuilder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i saw your question, i thought Security immediately. then i thought about being in a secure relationship with no love and being with someone who isn't a good companion and i sulked..
all three are so important and i dont think i can totally ignore the lack of any,
2006-11-16 00:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by Angie Pastrami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋