I have been involved with someone for 7 years on and off now in a real long distance relationship (continents apart). I had caused some friction in the relationship 2/3 years back by breaking up with my bf and things have not been the same though we are really in love with eachother. He had become very bitter for a while as I had left him for someone else and I had decided to close the chapter and move on. He is too insecure and unsure of our future. I went back home last week (same city as him) and it drove him insane that I didnt call or get in touch and I was too busy to see him the first 2 days. We ended up spending a night together and it was the most amazing thing. When I asked him what it meant he said he needed more time even though he knows he wants to spend his life with me he's too insecure and I am just trying to look out for myself. I dont want to get hurt anymore and even I dont know what I want I just know i love him and miss him very much. I need direction...
2006-11-16 00:01:22 · 3 answers · asked by Curious George 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk the talk or walk the walk, stop jerking him around...he obviously feels more for you than you do him. Take him or let him go..we don't need another pussy-whipped male getting around.
2006-11-16 00:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by firecrotchlindsay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love this guy, but yet when you were in the precise same town as him you ignored him 2 full days. And now you are wondering why he is upset and insecure? Never mind the fact you were the one that broke up with him to date other men. Time to either give him your all, or leave him and let him get on with his life with a woman who is more than willing to give him 100% of her, not just whenever she feels like it. And if I was apart from my man and flew home, trust me, my family / friends would be highly ignored until I got to see my true love.
2006-11-16 08:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you like being with him, and he with you. you are not assured of a secure future with him, and so it is with him unto you. That's what I can make out from what you write here. In order to have an answer, let us see what is certain and what is not between the two of you. Both of you love being together - that's a certainty. The future is - UNCERTAIN. Now, will you trade off somethuing that is already certain for something which isn't? For all you know, the two of you and THE LOVE for each other may very well bring you to a secure future. Tell him this, and see if he is UNCERTAIN!!!
2006-11-16 08:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by seeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋