Most step--parents only have to see/deal with/interact with their step-kids on the weekends and/or a few holidays and/or over the summer months. But what if a step-parent has full 100% custody of a child with the kid's biological parent? What is that stepmother/stepdad called? A "fully-custodial step-dad/step-mom"? Since there is a drastic difference between every two-week visits and full total complete custody with no breaks...what is the correct terminology to use when referring to the full-time custodial step-parent? Is that it? "Full-time custodial step-parent"? Or is there some other term?
2006-11-15 23:55:59 · 7 answers · asked by zoe_southernusa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Woooow...that's a crazy situation! Sounds like he or she should be called ,"Mom, or Dad...good luck!
2006-11-15 23:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by every woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In New Hampshire we have two types, physical meaning where the children spend most of their time living, and the parent with physical custody has to provide the children with a roof over their head, basically. The second, is called LEGAL custody, meaning who makes the decisions, etc. This can either be JOINT or SOLE (with one parent making all the decisions). The visitation is another matter completely. For instance, I have physical custody of my children, but my ex-husband and I share joint legal custody, but he has scheduled visits, although I am filing for SOLE legal custody but I'd like to still have him maintain those visitations with the children. And child support is paid to the person with PHYSICAL custody. It's always so complicated, I know, but I hope this helps answer your question, although the answer might be different in another state!
*EDIT** I should add that also in NH if a parent remarries it is assumed that their spouse shares the same legal rights as the parent they are marrying
2006-11-16 00:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A step-parent is a step-parent no matter what the custodial conditions are. But the individual situations may differ - the step-parent could bond with the child (rather than see/dealwith/interact) so much that s/he is more like a parent. If the non-custodial parent is out of the picture or otherwise indifferent and the child is close to the step-parent - then mom or Dad it is!
2006-11-15 23:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see where the situation you describe is so unusual. Any time the custodial biological parent remarries, the new spouse would fit your scenario. I remarried several years ago and my husband now shoulders much more of the fathering duties than my ex does. He is still just their step-dad. No big deal.
2006-11-16 02:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by jurydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt study your different question yet I even have had some experence with step mom and dad. the only problem I see with step mom and dad is that in case you weren't stated by utilising them and the youngsters are already 7 or 8 by utilising the time the mum and dad get remarried, the toddler is meant to settle for that individual as "mom" or "dad"....and it only doesnt artwork that way in a kiddo's innovations... I accept as true with the female above tho, you will desire to ascertain as a kin what you're and to who. seems such as you have been there for the toddler, yet dont be bowled over if he usesthe "your no longer my mom card" down the line as quickly as he's sufficiently previous to ascertain a diverse in bio vs step. only be there for him thats the perfect you're able to do:D stable success.
2016-10-15 15:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by feliu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I adopted the little girl when I was in this situation and I am just called MOM
2006-11-16 01:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by momof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mom or dad or whatever the child is comfortable calling him or her....my husband takes care of my son who is not biologically his .....but my son who is 5 doesnt feel comfortable callin him dad so he calls him by his first name....his real dad calls every few months.....and my son still calls him daddy....so i guess its too confusing for him to call 2 ppl dad.....even though my husband loves him as his son....
2006-11-16 04:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋