they are only 3 n 6 ,,,,
2006-11-15 23:51:21 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
they only see her twice a year when i take them to her,,,this is our 3rd year on our own she has never visited once,,,,im just geting mad lol
2006-11-16 00:00:30 · update #1
Don't tell them,just try and make it extra special for them,they are too young to understand why this could be,l know it's hard to bite your tongue(my kids dad is a waste of space)but when your kids grow up they will remember things like that and will have nothing but respect for you and know all you did for them was protect them and made sure they were happy.Leave it for their mother to explain why she wasn't there.
l feel sorry for them and you for having to deal with that kind of pressure especially at this time of year.
Good luck!
2006-11-16 00:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by Jacqui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't need to be caught in the middle - I'm sure it's so hard for you... They won't understand whatever you tell them if it's anything near the truth. Go easy on them and yourself, and don't expect them to understand what's happening.
You need to make an excuse, you'll know what's appropriate... and be strong for the kids. However, Give them Credit, they'll know that it's an excuse, but they'll work it out in their own minds once they're ready to think about it.....
Also, You never know, there's still a long time before then, the situation might change????
2006-11-16 00:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by My_Name 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not demonize her. Just let them know their mom is busy - whatever. If this has been a regular thing then the 6 year old will catch on and realize no matter what you say is a lame excuse anyway.
I go through this every birthday and Christmas when my daughter doesn't recieve even a card from her birth mother.
2006-11-15 23:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them the truth. Kids usually, don't make a big deal out of things if us parents do not. Plan something fun for them to do...with you or someone else. I will never understand some woman. I could never be away from my kids!
2006-11-16 01:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be genital with them,you have two choices ,you can lie to them,or you can tell them the truth,This puts a lot of stress on you but i,m sure that you will make it a nice day for them,whatever you decide to do make sure that you tell them that there mummy loves them i know how hard that this is going to be remember you are doing it for your kids i wish you luck and a Happy Christmas
2006-11-15 23:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invent an excuse that you share with their mum, making her share your feelings. If you are telling that she cannot make it because... These things always end up being clarify with time.
Try to make the best for your kids, I am sure their happiness and laughter will recompense your efforts.
Happy Christmas with the company of your VERY and beloved nuclear family. Have a good one without stress!
2006-11-16 00:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by Díscolo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not inviting a concentrated visitor shouldn't stop your mom from coming. That being suggested, she is your mom. Of absolutely everyone, she could be allowed to have a concentrated visitor. in the journey that your worried over who she'll carry, see in case you may meet him previous to time. even in spite of the actuality that you mustn't could fret, you're assuming she's bringing a worry maker. that couldn't be so. you may continually have someone you've faith, searching out for the first signal of a subject matter. If some thing starts, he will be civilly bumped off. i will't imagine that he would want to reason a subject matter, on purpose, for his pal's daughter on her wedding ceremony day.
2016-11-24 22:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that she will see them soon, and this year will be special just you three or your family. Make sure you keep telling them that their mum does love them. so later on when they are old enough they will come to their own conclusion about their mum! bad/good remember you are the strong parent dont tell them the truth they are so young wait until they are older to understand
2006-11-15 23:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by jules 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bring it up yourself, but if they ask you where she is or if they get to see her: tell them that you are sorry, but mommy can't make it. If they ask why just tell them that she has something else she needs to do.
Don't give them more than they ask for in the way of an answer.
Don't give excuses for her. Don't lie.
Let your children know that you are there, and that you love them, and that you guys are going to have a wonderful time.
2006-11-16 01:46:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell them anything, they will probably so excited at christmas that they might not even notice too much.
If they do ask where she is, just tell them she is busy and will try and make it another time, or she is not well or working.
Just make sure you are there for them and try and keep their mind off it as much as possible.
2006-11-15 23:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by emmo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋