How do you become a great parent w/out being too mean?

Question

I was wondering how you can be a strict parent but still be able to have a fun attitude. Like, what kind of attitude/rules you need to keep your kid and yourself happy at the same time.

Answer 1

I simply react to what my daughters do.If they do something good I encourage and let them know I am happy about it in different ways according to the age of the child .
For wrong actions I simply look them in the eye and say what was the wrong action they did and show them the right thing (I try to control my temper at all times and be patient).
I also have to control my voice tone very carefully.
Kids understand everything and are very clever.

I do not confuse them by disregarding a wrong action I have made a notice upon it once before.

We play with each other as much as we can and share the activities they like. I try to give them a lot of my attention and listen to what they want to say. Being freinds is the best way.
I think now they begin to know what would be my reactions to their actions and act accordingly.

Answer 2

I agree with a lot of what has already been said, but I would like to add the I believe setting boundaries is really important.
If boundaries are already in place- behaviors or actions that kids KNOW you simply will not tolerate kids know what you expect, they feel secure, and less likely to cross the line. Those boundaries are not up for discussion- make sure the kids know that. Also, consequences of "crossing the line" are well defined clear and you have to be willing to enforce the boundary. For example- being late- for every 15 minutes they are late- my kids lose 30 minutes of time with friends/outside activites. Period.
Humor is a wonderful parenting tool- silliness included. This varies with different children of course.

Answer 3

Be you're kids friend but also enforce discipline.My mom and dad have very playful attitudes and are fun to e around.And when we get in trouble they always see our side of the story before they discipline us.
I would say some good characteristics is;
love
compassion
patients
and its very enjoyable when a parent has the attitude of a kid and is playful but not to the extent when you actually try to be a KID,
It is sometimes embarrassing to us when our parents try to be like us but its awsome when they can have fun and not be embarrassing,

Answer 4

Being a strict parent does not mean you a mean one. Strict means you have certain rules that you think protect your kids. But we do let the kids have fun and we have fun too with them. :)

Answer 5

I don't agree with the recommendations to be your child's friend. Yes, be friendly with them, but treating them as an equal sets you up for a BIG power struggle when they are teens. BE THE ADULT. Just be a nice adult. Learn to get in the habit of laughing with the kids. Consistency is most important. Inconsistent parenting breeds insecurity and obnoxious behavior in kids.

Answer 6

It is possible only if you are transparent enough with your family members. Be a friend rather than a strict Head Master. Let them know your commitments and capacity to be generous. Do not postpone answers to critical questions . Face them squarely and truthfully.Honesty and transperency always. Do not distrust your kids. If it is established that they lied to you express your grief to them .Do not scold them

Answer 7

Breastfed toddlers not often get constipated. they'd bypass ten days or extra without a BM. the only thank you to tell if a toddler is constipated is that in the event that they have a BM and it somewhat is extremely stressful and pellet like. i does no longer supply you toddler something extra in any respect as there is no longer a want for it. HTH

Answer 8

be a supportive parent ... be friendly but not friends with you kids ... let them know that you are always there and will always be there for them but also let them know who has the final word ... Instill good qualities and values in your kids for which they will thank you for the rest of their lives .. but the best thing to do is to be a good example and role model ... happy parenting .

Answer 9

Always talk to them if you are wrong go and chat to them and explain. Do not give too much money, money does not buy love show love to them show fairness and keep a good eye on them and what they are doing who they mix with, do not judge . Remember your own child hood. .Your biggest most rewarding job is to bring your kids through to adult hood.

Answer 10

By being loving, yet firm and consistent. These are 3 things that all children need.