My other in law wants to take our 3 yr old?..............?

Question

Over to my grandmother in law's house to visit with her alone and wants her to spend the night.She is staying 5 minutes down the road.....I'm wondering why she needs to be alone with her for one,but thats not a BIG deal...but I'm also wondering why she needs her to spend the night(she specifically asked if she could).I dont see the necessity........Does anyone else agree?

I did but I wasn't specific enough....

Answer 1

Unless there is a reason that YOU NEED for the child to be away from you overnight (say being in the hospital) then personally, I would wait until the CHILD ASKS to stay the night away from you. Then you will know that she is ready. Let her go spend time with the Grandmothers, but have her come home prior to bedtime.

Answer 2

I think my daughter was almost four the first time I let her go anywhere alone with my husbands mother. I was super worried about whether or not she could handle doing the car seat properly, etc, and it wasn't until just recently, my daughter being six that I have let her spend the night with her grandmother, and even more recently, and I can tell you I was waiting by the phone, I let her grandmother take her from where we live in NH down to CT for the night. I won't be doing that again though because she said she'd call when she arrived in CT but didn't call and of course I was flipping out wondering what the hell happened, but I finally got ahold of them and everything was fine, still I think I'll wait til she's older before I let her leave the state again.

But I'd have to agree with most here.. the grandmother probably just wants to spend time with the child is all.

Answer 3

I'd want to know who else was going to be at the house. If there are going to be just grandma and great-grandma, that sounds like nice bonding time. If it's going to be a big family gathering (with too many people to keep track of), I would be there to supervise. Usually, molestation is by a family member or trusted family friend or acquaintance. It can even be an older child who has been molested, who can in turn act out what's been done to them on a younger unsupervised child. A child of three can't protect herself. Once you know the details of the planned visit to the grandma-in-law's house, you will know what you should do. (I invited myself to many family functions on the pretense that I simply could not be apart from my child. He was simply "too young.")

Molestation is usually perpetrated by a male, though sometimes females have been predators as well.

I did love staying the night at my father's mother's house. She was my favorite grandmother.

Answer 4

No, it sounds like you are saying the childs grandmother wants to take her to spend the night with her great grandmother. That doesn't seem like an odd request at all.

Does your mother ever ask for her or had her sleep over? That's totally normal.
Are you and the babies father together? Not to sound nasty - inlaw's can be ALL SORTS OF FUN!!! She may just not want to hang out with you in order to spend time with her grandchild?

Answer 5

My mother in law often takes my kids one at a time and in a pack to spend up to a week at her home... She plans activities such as knitting, sewing and other crafts... She plays tea party... She has a special trunk called the "Grandma Trunk" filled with boas and dresses and outrageous feathered hats etc. The girls are allowed to rummage in and wear what they like (My youngest 9 actually wore a beaded evening gown, a boa, and a feathered hat out to dinner one evening while there)..

While a visit at your house can be fun a visit at grandmas house can be spectacular.. Grandma can stay up ;ate braiding your childs hair with ribbons while eating popcorn and watching a movie.. Grandma and grandchild can wear matching sequined night gowns (On of my daughters favorite outfits at Grandmas... she made them with grandma during one visit, Grandma let her pick any fabric she wanted and silver sequins it was)... They also do hair and manicures...

My 9 yr old thouroughly enjoys visits at Grandma and Papa's house... I thouroughly enjoy a few hours or days to myself now and again as well..

My daughter spent the night with Grandma even when they lived nextdoor..

Answer 6

There's nothing weird about a kid staying overnight with their grandmother, I used to like staying over at my grandmothers house cos I got really spoiled. Grandmothers like to spend time with their grandkids, also if the woman lives on her own she might be lonely and just want some company.

Answer 7

Because that is what Grandmas do. My 3 year old grandaughter is asleep in my bed now, and has been here since Monday. I would not trade nothing in the world for being able to have her come running to me in the mornings when she gets up to be hugged and cuddled. Be glad that she wants to spend extra time with her.

Answer 8

I used to go and stay the weekend at my grandparents house all the time when I was younger. It was always fun because the grandparents always want to spoil the kids. I'm sure you probably spent alone time with your grandparents too. I'm sure the grandma just wants to spend time with her and have the time to be a grandma to her...I wouldn't worry about it unless she has done something before to betray your trust....I hope this helps...good luck

Answer 9

Why do you have a problem letting your mother-in-law (child's grandma) take her to see her great grandmother?

You should be so lucky.

And would you feel the same if it were your mother wanting to take her to spend the night at your grandmas?

I doubt it! Relax and let your child get to know her family.

Answer 10

I think the grandma just wants to spend some time alone with her granddaughter my mom does that all the time . I dont think you should have to worry unless she gives you something to worry about. Just let your daughter spend some time with grandma its good for the both of them