Will the doctor think I'm stupid?

Question

What do you call depression?

If you think about self harm or actually doing it? Of even worse if you think about killing your self? I feel I can't talk the the doctors because they don't seem very helpful where I go... What can I do to make myself feel better and stop thinking of bad things?

Would moving away solve my heartach? :(

Sometimes I just wish I was in heaven so I could live in peace.... Instead of living in misery

Answer 1

there are a number of things that may improve your general mood. But if you have depression you need to deal with it as well as the cause of it.

If you feel like you can't talk to your Doctor about it, register with a new one. Explain what you are feeling and they will support you.

Answer 2

Its only a problem as long as you think it to be so.


Theres nothing innately wrong with self-harm. You're not doing anything that won't eventually happen to you anyway, and if it brings you any resolution or satisfaction to do it then its perfectly alright to continue.
As for killing yourself.... I would only recommend doing that if you feel you are ready for death. Don't do it to escape life, as death should never be charged into backwards. If you seek death, then you must face it and accept it with open arms for its own sake... not merely as the "lesser of two evils".

Of course, everyone else is advising you to seek professional help and whatnot. They're all such compliant little pawns of society, thinking you so defective that you need to be put back together.
They're misinformed. Depression doesn't make you any less of a person. In some respects you might be cracked, but sometimes it takes cracks in the glass to split the white light into the full spectrum of colour. Depression can let you see the truth of how hopeless your life is, but can also show you how trivial and superfluous your various endeavours might be... It shows you how much less is what you really need. To lead a simpler life is not a bad thing, and maybe being depressed about not being able to climb to the top means you should learn to appreciate being at the bottom.
The key to contentment in life is learning to appreciate whatever you have, rather than yearning for what you have not.

Answer 3

If the doc thinks your stupid then he /she should have their license revoked.
You know if there is something wrong.

I have exactly the same problem. I am in college in second year. Everyday for the last 3 weeks I have gone to college but not the lectures. I just never feel up to it. Instead I email friends, look up totally stupid stuff on the net and go home.

When I was 14 I was told I can never give birth to a child. I have been depressed ever since. I often have bad dark thoughts.

I haven't been to a doc about it because I feel I can deal with it myself. (I am a very stubborn person )
I put myself down all the time. I tell my self I'm stupid , fat etc.

I try to do things I love to do. Watch funny films. Play with the dogs. Listen to my favourite music. Read my favourite books.

However, luckily not everone is as stubborn as I am. There are people you can talk to.

Parents
Guardians
Friends
Councellors

or in my case...

the dog !!
I find him very understanding , he's not gonna tell anyone and no matter what, he will still love me !!

Some times it doesn't matter if the person you tell can't understand you !! If find that when I say what is bothering me out loud I feel better.

Try any of the above and get those bad dark thoughts out of your head. Even if doing that means moving away. Do what ever makes you happy and feel good about yourself.

If you need some to email you can go to my page. I think my address is on there ? !

Answer 4

No, you are not stupid. And you are not the only person who feels this way at times. Many people out there willing to help you face the sun again........ hang in there baby!!

If you have a depression -or anything like it- you need to talk to a doctor, or a social worker to begin with. Would be best to get into therapy as soon as possible. If you don't trust your doctor, find a new doc!

Problem is, it is part of the depression that you kinda lose the vision of what is good for you. That is why you need to talk to a doctor real soon, before you lose sense for wanting help.

Moving away doesn't help, your problems will follow you inside your head. But a temporary change of scenery might be a good idea. Like some internal training, or therapy, just to get your feet back on the ground.

Sending you a hug!!!
Go take care of yourself now......

Answer 5

The doctor won't think you're stupid.
Doctors work everyday with people in all kinds of situations.
They are trained to give impartial confidential advice and if they make you feel awkward, visit another doctor instead or explain how deeply you feel this way and they will realise that they make have underestimated your situation.

Depression is not determined by your thoughts on self harm but it is definately worsened by them.
Thinking negative thoughts will make you feel worse and when you feel worse you will think more negative thoughts. It's a vicious circle.

To keep away from negative thoughts find an outlet for your sadness or pain. Painting, writing, drawing or going for walks often help people relax a little and keep the bad thoughts away.
When you feel down, concentrate on the things in your life that you like. Your friends or family, your best features, hobbies you enjoy. Try to accept that even though everything may feel bad right now you still have things going for you and I'm sure the people you love would feel heartbroken if you ever did anything drastic.

The most important thing is to find out why you feel this way and how to change it. Have you talked to friends or family about it yet? What did they say?
Is the self harm caused by you wanting to punish yourself or you wanting to gain control of something in your life?
Working out why you feel this way could help you find little ways to feel better.

If you are already self-harming it's not too late to help yourself cut down or stop. Find ways to transfer the pain. For example if you want to hit yourself, hit a punchbag instead or if you want to hurt yourself through cutting, try twanging an elastic band against the inside of your arm or leg. The scars self harm can leave you with can make you feel worse once you are in a better mood so it is much better to aviod scars altogether.

Don't avoid the situation. Try making little changes now. It could make a huge difference in your life and the way you feel.

I hope you find ways to improve the situation.
Good luck. x

Answer 6

WHY do you feel like hurting yourself? Or do you have no logical reason for feeling depressed? I have found that it is always slightly better when there is an excuse that makes sense because you have something to blame.

I was depressed for several years, and came close to attempting suicide several times. Nothing that should have made me THAT depressed, just lack of friends and upset about poor grades. Unfortunately, I found myself holding a pocketknife to my wrist just the same.

The trick, for me at least, was doing the exact opposite of what I wanted to do. I really just felt like shutting myself in my room and crying or sleeping or playing computer games all day. It was a cycle: I would do this, my life would suck, I would be so depressed about how I was such a loser that I would do this. I doubt you are in the same cycle, but most depressed people are in some sort of emotional feedback loop, whether they put themselves there or not.

One day I said "%$#@ THIS!". I gave away all my computer games. I began approaching people and attemting to socialize, even though I lacked social skills and this was incredibly painful in ways I can't begin to describe. The truth is I have still not completely cured my natural antisocial tendencies, but I am A LOT better than before.

Identify your feedback loop. Break it by any means necessary, and you will be free.

If that didn't help, this website will do something. It brightened up my day when I saw it for the first time: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vr3x_RRJdd4

Answer 7

No, a good doctor would not think that you are stupid, and obviously would care to really understand your problem. But there is something here that you have to understand. Yes, probably you are depressed, or hurt by someone or some situation, where your mind may not accept certain things beyond what you have set it to accept. Therefore, I assume that you have met a doctor / cousellor before, and obviously you are not feeling that you are helped, simply because you may not be accepting certain things that they have to say. Perhaps, sometimes, you have been so hurt that you do not want to hear anything beyond that what you feel, cos' your mind has already been pained, and having assessed you, probably you need a lot of love and understanding at this moment. And it seems like none of them do understand and cannot help you. You have to keep your mind open. You have been hurt, and pained, and you have to accept that. The next thing would be to really go through what they have already told you, see what is common in what they said, and find out a better doctor, and check on what he has to say. Have you told the previous doctor about your feelings of self harm and suicide ? If not, perhaps that is where they are missing out on your problems, and you are not helping yourself by not telling them. You must, let it all out, as much as it may hurt, to them, in detail and see what they have to say.

The fact that you were honest enough to understand that you do thnk of self harm or you have suicidal feelings, is a good start. Now the next thing will be to tell them about it, if you have not. And the third is to accept that you have been pained, and in this situation you need to control yourself, and not let go or give up on the one life that is gifted to you. No, moving away could be a good solution, but then that depends on waht you are moving away from. Physically changing places will only bring you a very temporary relief because at that point of time you would be moving away, and you would be involved in the excitement of shifting places, getting settled in another place. But then the pain that you have not healed would come back.

Trust me, if you can conquer this one moment, and if you can really come out of it strong, you are a winner. And for you to conquer this moment, you have to heal, and to heal you need to have faith in yourself, keep talking to yourself, ''this will pass'', and faith in the person who is trying to bring you out of this. And during this time, I would suggest that you are surrounded with positive pple, freinds, family, brother sister, whoever...that would really help.

All this now is in your hands. And I hope you would atleast try and say to yourself that ''yes, i survived this pain, and i have learnt to live''. You will find yourself breathing happily, and as if you have been set free.

good luck

Answer 8

First things first. Every single person on the planet has the same thought at some point in their lives so you are not alone and your GP will not think you are stupid. It might be that there are a lot of different stresses in your life at the moment so think about how you can get rid of some of them or are they really worth making yourself feel miserable about...probably not! try and look at things rationally and not from the I hate the world and it hates me point of view which can be easier said than done I know. you dont have to go directly to your Docs either, there are a lot of different agencies which can help you just pick up the phone. Best of Luck to you, I know it can be a horrible feeling but things will get better I promise you.

Answer 9

Firstly, sorry for the heartache you feel. Then, If you think that the doctors aren't helping, it might be because you are not accepting their advice on a conscious level. You need to start realising the difference of whats good & bad in your life. Try to decide what would make a difference in your life & make it your goal to acheive that. Give yourself a realistic time frame in which to acheive those goals & I think that once you do that you will find your depression lesson as time goes on. Good Luck

Answer 10

Your question hit a nerve with me when I read it. I've been where you are now and I even keep returning to it over and over again. First thing to do is change your gp surgery, you really need a gp who will LISTEN to your need and emotions. Ask for a referral to see a psychiatrist who can then recommend counselling, a cpn (community psychiatric nurse), someone you will be able to talk your problems out to.

Unfortunately, I thought moving away would solve my heartache, but it just came with me anyway, it's inside of you. You need to talk it out with someone who will let you express it in your own way. Just remember you ARE NOT being stupid, you have an illness. If you want to talk things over with me just email me at [e-mail]. I've been where you are and I won't judge you in any way, I've done things like cutting myself and taking overdoses etc.

Please take care and remember I'm available to "talk" to.