Am married but not happy with my husband what should ido?

Answer 1

Try a trial separation and see if that cheers you up. If it does, divorce him.

There's nothing worse than feeling trapped in a bad marriage.

Answer 2

To many people now days are rushing to the attorneys office. He's the only one benefiting from marriages these days. Young people treat marriage like a game, that's to bad.
I've been married for 48 years, it hasn't been easy at times, after five kids it's still a job and you have to work at it everyday, you don't give up. I still think of divorce and wonder where I'd be if I would have that time or this time, I put the thoughts out of my head and started over again. Marrying again would just bring up new problems, wouldn't it? then what, run again?
You have to work at marriage, you can't run from it, it's a job. hang in there and try and make it work, it isn't easy, but try. Good luck.
By the way, I have a sister-in-law that was married six times, she never was happy and at 76 is now the most crabby person you'd ever saw, she's very lonely and alone, wishes now she would have stayed marries to one of them, doesn't even know which one. they are all happy, have nothing to say about her.

Answer 3

happy is such a vague word. no one is happy all the time. what do u mean by not happy? are u sure u just r not feeling a little depressed. how long have u been married? two weeks after i got married, i began to feel a little on the down side, all the changes i went through just hit me. i felt crushed and unhappy. i felt like i lost my freedom and i was too young to be married. i think it might be normal in the beginning to grieve for the simpler times. u know the hot dates with your husband when he was your boyfriend.
marriage is not about being happy all the time, it is a union. its about working together making a commitment to one another. treating each other with respect and there is lots of compromising.

Answer 4

Make it work, because you are married already. You should not have married him in the first place. happiness is wanting what you have and not having what you want. The grass maybe greener at the other side of the fence but it is not true. It just seems greener. Happiness is a choice, a state of the mind. Be happy with your husband.

Answer 5

You need to sit down with you husband and tell him that you are not happy. Maybe the two of you can work things out and things will improve.

If he agrees to this then that is good, unwise if could be worth having some time apart and then seeing how things stand after a trial separation

Answer 6

First, identify for yourself what is really making you unhappy. Be sure to separate the real issues from the little ones (which seem bigger if there are real issues floating around unfixed).

Then, discuss them with your husband. Listen to his point of view too, and try to talk out your problems and find solutions. You both have to work at it, and give the solutions time to take hold.

Finally, if things still aren't better, seek marriage counseling.

Answer 7

are you not happy with your husband or not happy with yourself. some counseling might be good, get to the root of your problem. if you loved him enough to marry him you should put forth a little effort to try and fix things

Answer 8

Talk to him try counseling if there are children do everything you possibly can to make this work even if you have to put up with a little crap, but if there are no kids just try to work it out but let him know your not putting up with his crap so he better start treating you right if he wants to make this work.

Answer 9

Why are you unhappy with him, maybe you need to figure that out before you do anything you'll regret. Sit down and talk to him, tell him what you're feeling. If there's kids involved you need to consider them, you need to do all you can to make it work.

Answer 10

I you love him you will communicate to make things better. First identify the problems and then you can fix them. If you or he isn't willing then you weren't meant to be!
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