There was this, and i don't mean in a derogatory way, retard at the theme park when i went there. I felt so sorry for him. He seemed like such a good person, yet i didn't say anything to him. Is that wrong? I feel so bad now.
2006-11-15 21:44:12 · 14 answers · asked by ? 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Jacee B got what i was asking
2006-11-15 22:00:11 · update #1
Jacee B got what i was asking
2006-11-15 22:07:23 · update #2
Sorry guys my internet keeps messing me around. I usually end up posting something twice. Tony123. I feel bad about it. OK and yes i know retard isn't a nice word, but i can't call him mentally challenged, because that to me seems so wrong
2006-11-15 22:12:29 · update #3
I am so sorry hannah. I didn't wanna call anyone anything that made them feel bad about them selves. I wanted to be his guys friend, because i know how people can be. I wanted him to know that there is someone the world that cares for him.
2006-11-16 00:39:09 · update #4
Chill out fella.
You cant do everything.
Did you eva think maybe God stopped you from saying hi to one of his gifted so you would learn how to when you come upon the same situation again???
2006-11-16 01:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place, "retard" is derogatory no matter how you mean it. Secondly, yes, he is a human being, you can talk to him just like any other person. Third, guilt comes from the fact that you KNOW you did something wrong, and later feel bad about it. If you were not feeling guilty, then I could understand you asking this question, as it is... Have a nice life, retard.
2006-11-16 06:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Disabled is the correct term. And you've angered me at using retard in referring to this person. So use disabled from now on. As for ignoring this person he/she probably has thick enough skin to not care what anyone things of him/her.
I went to a school that had a program for students with disabilities that's why I really really hate it when someone uses that derogatory word to refer to disabled people.
2006-11-16 12:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a retard and I dont want people to feel sorry for me.
I would like to make more friends but not with some one who calls me a retard, dont feel sorry for me and then call me a retard!
2006-11-16 07:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You treat 'differently abled' persons the same as you treat 'temporarily abled' persons like yourself. If you find yourself sitting next to them on a bench or waiting in line next to them, you MAY say hello, but it is not required.
If the 'differently abled' person is just minding his/her own business, their disability does NOT give you permission to assume that your intrusive attentions are welcomed. Imagine yourself with your leg in a cast, riding a wheelchair. Would YOU like it if every stranger in the theme park approaced you, making your day into an ordeal of dealing politely with uninvited attentions?
2006-11-16 06:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some things and some people we find in our day to days life that can not be changed by us. we can only feel sorry for them. it is O.K if you that way - remember there was nothing more you could have done to that particular person.
BUT if you really like it then go to these institutions or homes and help them out by giving your love to them.
I am sure it will make YOU happy atleast.
2006-11-16 06:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you feel bad for not talking to him or what? Well in that case don't worry too much attention on him also might make him feel awkward of his situation. They prefer to be treated like the other normal people not as people who require extra sympathy.
2006-11-16 05:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jessiefer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget the word "retard", the correct terminology would be either mentally challenged, disabled or handicapped. If he was paying attention to you, for example, looking at you, yes, you should have spoke to him. If not, don't sweat it. Next time, just say Hi.
2006-11-16 06:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by rosey 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not necessarily wrong as such,,......... maybe next time you see someone a little different, instead of shying away, say hello. they deserve to be treated the same as everyone else, dont you think?
2006-11-16 08:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by melfromhell001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If he tried to talk to you but you just ignored him, then yes, that wouldn't have been very nice.
But if he wasn't talking to you, then that's different. If you wouldn't have talked to him if he wasn't mentally disabled, then you didn't have to talk to him because he was disabled either. You treated him just like you would have treated anyone else -- which is what most people with disabilities would probably prefer.
2006-11-16 07:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋