I started seeing this guy when I was 18 and we were in a long distance relationship (I live in Europe and he's in Asia) for 4 years almost when I moved to states for 6 months and started seeing someone else. It was too difficult to maintain the long distance and I didnt feel as strongly about him back then. He was devastated and he saw someone for a few months and a year and a half later I went back and it was like nothing had ever happened. He was so good to me and things were just great and I fell in love with him all over again. He asked me if there had been anyone else and I had told him for a year that there was no one else cuz i didnt want to hurt him but when things got serious again I told him I had kissed a guy and that threw him off and he completely changed. I feel like his insecurities were just growing and he needed an excuse to get out and protect himself. He's so in love but so insecure to committ. I am fed up of being hurt for no reason and just dont know what to do...
2006-11-15 21:43:32 · 10 answers · asked by Curious George 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't know what to do?
That's painfully obvious if you're asking for advice here.
Do the opposite of what most people here recommend and you might get out alive.
2006-11-15 21:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Minmi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a little confused, you said that you told him when you were in the states you were seeing some one. Now was there someone other than that? Not that it matters, just wondering. He is most likely hurt, that you didn't tell the truth a year early, That's lying to him.If you knew that you would tell when the time is right or if the time didn't come then he didn't need to know. Then that is not honest. He may take honesty very serious as to you dont. If you meant never to tell, there would be nothing to gain or lose and now you just felt he needed to know. then that's honest. and he needs to know that. Give him some time, he will be find.
2006-11-15 22:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it's not going to work out with this guy anytime soon. Regardless of how in love he is, he's not able to be a good partner for you.
Are you really happy with the way he has been able to love you over the years, or can you instead imagine a relationship where both of you are secure and honest with each other and fully committed to each other?
You won't be able to have a good, secure, intimate relationship until you give up on the one you have with the current guy.
2006-11-15 21:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by liz_in_adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some canine want to circle and %. now and again yet yours looks to have higher the habit to a neurosis. would want to confer with a behaviorist. when you're literally not waiting to break the habit through distracting the canine from the habit, your canine would want professional help. Please do not brush aside this habit or take it gently. that's really equivalent to OCD in a human, and your canine is probable feeling very irritating. further: Oh sure ... canine CAN develop behaviors that very a lot mimic ADHD, OCD, etc.
2016-11-24 22:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only human. Remind him of this. Maybe he can get over your lies, maybe not. I'm sure he had this in the back of his head for some time, and now that he knows it to be true, trusting you will be difficult. You can't apologize enough to make it go away, but time heals all wounds.
2006-11-15 21:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven years is too long to be caught up in such a relationship. If you're not happy move on.
2006-11-15 22:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what to do it's just that you don't wanna think about it or you are to smart to think about what you want and not who is gonna end up hurting. Either way someone has to get hurt.
2006-11-15 21:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by onzaiy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he were really in love with you, he'd know after seven years whether he could commit or not. if i were you i'd keep my eyes open for a guy who would treat me better.
2006-11-15 21:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey its time to move on, nothing more nothing less just put this one behind you and look to brighter pastures and start again.
2006-11-15 21:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by pebblesandkara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just 4get him and move on in ur life there r loads more people out there
2006-11-15 21:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by Claire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋