I get online dates and every so often I meet someone nice, as sometimes I feel just one meeting isn't enough and would like to spend more time with them to see what they are like. some girls are good and text to say thanks enjoyed it but no chemistry which is great as I know where I stand. Many don't text at all, not even thanks so, have no gauge of how the night went. Before you ask i dont go pervy or jabber on about stuff that obviously holds no interest to them etc during the date, the date it self aways appears to go ok, no awkwardness.
2006-11-15 21:32:48 · 16 answers · asked by budda m 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The women are in the 25-35 bracket.
2006-11-15 21:33:35 · update #1
I do what many of you suggest, simple open texts, so i'm thinking maybe texting is the problem. Perhaps phone instead.
2006-11-15 22:38:11 · update #2
I don't think you should expect a text from a woman after every date that has gone well. I'm a fairly typical woman. It would never occur to me to send a text saying "thanks I enjoyed it", since I would have said that in person at the end of the date.
Just call her again and ask her out again and see what she says. The worst that can happen is that she says "No thanks." After one date, you don't have much emotion invested in her, so it's not a big deal.
If she does want to go out with you but can't accept your offer of a second date because she already has plans for that time, she'll suggest that you go out another time.
If she says she can't make it, but doesn't suggest trying again, she's probably not interested. You could ask again in a week or so just to be sure before giving up.
2006-11-15 21:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by liz_in_adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it stands to reason to say that women who respond positively with a text after a date are interested. So I know that some of us women read more into things than necessary but if you'd really like to see your date again (a good woman) would welcome a text by the following morning. And all you need to say is Thanks for a great night, would like to meet again sometime . Speak soon. Or something like that. Try it and I think the majority of mature women would appreciate it.
2006-11-15 21:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by geekiegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its bad manners not to say thank you for an evening, even if there is no chemistry. To be honest, I would hate to have spent the evening in someone's company and then to be only worthy of a text message and not a phonecall. Call me old fashioned, but I prefer it when a man calls me to ask to see me again.... it's very off putting getting a SMS or email, as I think he simply cannot be bothered to pick up the phone to me... and if he can't be bothered to do that, what else will he not bother about.
2006-11-15 22:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by Stripper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking you want to know what to say in a text. Just a simple, "Had a great time. Would like to see you again. U?" would most likely get the desired response whether they want to see you again or not. If you don't get a response, maybe call ONCE. After that with no response, they aren't interested.
Good luck!
2006-11-15 21:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you had a great time and enjoyed their company and would like to see them again if they feel the same. If they don't feel the same or don't reply, assume they're not interested and never contact them again. That can in no way be construed as needy or stalkerish.
2006-11-15 21:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
from the sounds of it...it seems you have a complex when it comes to dating..im no phycologist or anyting but due to the fact that you feel that HAVING to text or saying somthing suggests that you plan these things and they go a certain way etc etc..personally, i tink things happen best when you are natrual and you KEEP IT REAL HOMIE! just be your self..dont be to laid back but keep it chilled and interesting..if the dat goes well, it will feel right to text or even call to say thanks..if it went crap you will feel it...so dont worry to much, just think of it as a fun date where you are becoming friends...dont think too long term..peace out SA
2006-11-15 21:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the date, slap her bum and say ' I've had a cracking night, give me a ring if you want to go out again' You might think that a bit crass, but some chick like the forthrightness!!
Good luck
2006-11-15 21:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by matt g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being a little bit less nice to them, I know that sounds crazy but I have been out with girls in the past that have admitted to me that they didn't know how to take me in the beginning because I was being nice genuine and honest, attentive and a gentlemen and they thought I was putting this on and being fake just to get in their knickers!
2006-11-15 21:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just text and say you had a nice time and hope that they had a nice time as well. Ask the person would they like to do it another time and leave it like that. Its up to her to get bck to you.
2006-11-15 23:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say it naturally... as if you're talking to a friend. if you make it too wordy, the girl might think you're trying too hard... if you don't put enough feeling, the girl might think you were bored.. just say something like.. "ei! i had a great time tonight.. hope you enjoyed too! maybe we could do it again sometime.. take care! goOd night! ü"
2006-11-15 21:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by secret_goddess87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋