this guy has been chasing me for ages and ages. he asked me out when i was in my serious relationship.i obviously said no. i do like him tho. anyway, i ended my serious relatonship a few months back(not cause of this guy) and have since meet up with this guy "by chance" out in town. we have only kissed eachother. why wont he ask me out on a date?its always by "chance" that we meet.is he afraid that ill reject him again?
he says that he likes me etc....
2006-11-15 20:11:12 · 17 answers · asked by XCuteX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he does know all about my serious relationship as he knew my ex. they are not friends tho and mre ex has moved away.
is he just giving me space?
2006-11-15 20:12:09 · update #1
It mite not be the fear of rejection, thats holding him back maybe he's taking it slow getting to know u be ur friend making sure ur comfortable around him.....
Maybe you should ask him....
Because he knows your ex he probably wants to leave it a while it doesnt matter that he's moved away this guy may genuinly acre for u but is giving u space until ur ready...are u ready for another relationship?
These chance meetings are they really or chance or is he making sure he's in the right place at the right time...
You've nothing to lose, ask him bite the bullet and go for it whats the worst that can happpen he'll say no and then your even!
2006-11-15 20:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by Zoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question: what do you mean 'by chance'? Anyway, there are two options; The optimist would say that the guy does like you, but is worried that you might be rebounding on him, and that if you get together, he will be 'filling in' for your ex, (esp. since he told you that he had feelings when you were still together. AND you didn't break up with him when you found out). In this case, you can sit him down and tell him honestly how you feel. The cynic however, would question how worthy this guy is if he asked you out when he knew you were taken; he may like the thrill of the chase and going after someone else's girlfriend. Only you know the truth though....go with your instinct, and good luck!
2006-11-15 20:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by Marianna S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see both sides. If he asked you out when you were in a serious relationship, it may have been because you were "safe". He could have a fling and not worry about it being serious because you were already committed to someone else. Now that your free, he may be called upon to make a commitment that he doesn't want. On the other hand he may feel that you are devastated by the break up and he doesn't want to be your rebound guy. Or he may be in the early stages of a relationship with someone else. Next time you see him say " hey, we should get together sometime" and see what he says.
2006-11-15 20:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he might be giving u some space as u just broke up with u ex and he doesn't want to rush in, if i were you i would ask this guy out. He obviously likes you so talk to him and ask him out that way you will know how he feels.
Hope all goes well
2006-11-16 05:38:06 · answer #4 · answered by Chappers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he is just giving you space. Maybe he's being cautious now because you turned him down before and he doesn't want to feel like a consolation prize. Maybe you guys should go out on a group date, and after it goes well, try to get him to ask you out. Like say, 'I had fun tonight, its pretty cool to hang out with you, maybe we can do this again...' or something like that. See what happens and take it from there.
2006-11-15 20:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by stormsandblues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a question you should be asking a group of people, not enough details, too many holes. theres are at least 20 differant possibilities and no one but him would know the true reason.
he could be dating someone, he could be afraid of rejection, he might've gotten over you, you might've accidently thrown him a sign that you weren't interested without even realizing it. the possibilities are endless
2006-11-15 20:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by jackstrider55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of guys just like to be single and live a little. Maybe he knows you are a settling down kinda girl and he wants to just play around. Or maybe he thinks its to soon for you. Why don't you ask him out?
2006-11-15 20:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by onetopdesigner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's just having fun. No obligations, no strings attached.
He likes you but has absolutely no intention of you being 'the one'. If you want to have occasional fun - go with it. If you're looking for a 'partner' forget it.
2006-11-15 20:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, i think he's a little scared of being rejected again. Ask him out, that'll boost his ego and confidence no end.
Good luck.
2006-11-15 20:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by Grizzly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes probaly giving u space and hes probaly afraid that you don't like him thats why he thinks u keep rejecting him
just give him hints that u DO like him and u really want to go out with him
2006-11-15 20:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Laura S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋