I was with my boyfriend for four years...we were engaged to be married, but we were having problems. We ended up breaking up, but we kept seeing and sleeping with eachother for another year after that. He ended up dating a mutual friend of ours and gave me a whole talk about how he loved her so much. So I figured it was over, and we were just friends. I felt SURE that things were over between us, so I started feeling more comfortable around him when we hung out. Then, about two months into their new relationship, we slept together again. I told one of our mutual friends, and she went and told her. I was totally pissed, and now he is really pissed at me because he thought I told to break them up. But I swear I didn't! I wanted him back, and I still want him back. I don't want any "other fish in the sea" advice either, cuz I want that fish, and no other fish will do.
2006-11-15 20:01:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you cant stop sleeping around together, you both have a problem. he cant sleep behind his new girl friend's back & pretend as if you guys are finished! Give him time to cool his head & then reason with him. If he is sincere about his new relationship please bow out gracefully & stop fishing!
2006-11-15 20:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mock-mast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok....
Take it slow sit down talk to him make him listen but dont hassle him, explain u needed to talk to someone about it, he's messin with ur head by still sleeping with u anyway its not ur fault u were slightly confused if not very....
Explain how u feel about him the situation and what u want to happen if he knows everything then the ball is in his court and he cant blame u for messin with his head or not telling him what u want.
However, he's mad at u and hes hurt, he shoudlnt be but he is (he was getting the best of both worlds and dont u forget that, but u were letting him...) and because he's mad it will take him time to come around.
Are u sure this is the guy u want though? he did this to a friend of urs he did it to u who's to say he wont do it again? He is more than capable he's already showed u that....
2006-11-15 20:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by Zoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one because i WAS going to tell you you were too good for him and there is plenty more fish in the sea.However i do know that the soon as he thinks your are NOT interested in him he will become much more interested in YOU.Get your hair done,create an new image for yourself.Go out and enjoy yourself and make sure HE hears about it (but not from you)Bump into him purposely by accident and NEVER seem too interested in him.Make sure whenever you see him that your looking gr8 and smiling from ear to ear.He will be shocked by your new image and run after you like a puppy dog because you are not interested!Don't fall into bed with him this time because you ARE too good for that and he will have no respect for you and go back with HER!!If he wants you this time (which he will) then it will be on your terms without any other girl in the background (that's the only way it will work)Never be second best to any girl!!!Sit back and watch him grovel!!LOU xx
2006-11-15 20:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by loulou30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably thought you were slowly getting back together and developing a new kind of relationship. And you shattered his dreams by telling him about that other guy. Guys don't like to know their woman has slept with someone else. Makes him feel like less of a man. Which then makes him angry at you.
2016-03-28 22:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell the truth and stick to your story truthfully however i really think the guy isnot worth you or your time i was in the same situtions and every two years he would come to see me and we would stay together for a short time and he would go back to her and well to tell you the truth it just makes for a long mess he has children with me and her i was with him first know we are together and he pays her child support and he never did this for me and alot of the stuff that goes on just makes me jealous you can go on before your make things worse for your self sounds like you deserve so much better good luck
2006-11-15 20:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by spoiled b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are confusing sexual intercourse with love. They are not one and the same. In any relationship, trust/like/respect has to be present. I don't get the sense it was present at all in your relationship with your ex. I think he keeps you around in case he gets bored with another girl. Sexual satisfaction takes a lot of work too, just as much as emotional satisfaction. I don't think you had either with him. The last thing in any relationship to die is hope.
2006-11-15 20:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by olivia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then i guess, you got to hang back a bit, see each other socially, have a platonic relationship, that means no sex! then if in a while you still cant get over him, you gotta hope he ditches her and chooses you again, but 4 years is a long time, so maybe he is ready for change.
2006-11-15 20:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your loss.....are you sure you dont want him back because he found someone else to love?????? i would just step out of the pic....if he truly loves you then he will come back to you....if not then give up leave them alone...if you did love him then you would let him be.....you two slept together simply because you had been together for a long time and you were testing the water again......you may have something for him but he obviously dont if he got pist because his girl found out that you 2 had slept toghether recently.....let him go...if it comes back then it was meant to be if not then set it free
2006-11-15 20:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with someone who not only dumped you but also started dating one of your friends and then on top of that slept with you while he was dating one of your friends? Are you that desperate or just that ugly?
2006-11-15 20:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is mad because you told, and it ruined his plans that he made for playing you both. I'm sorry to say it, but what makes you think that he wouldn't do that with your friend? Be seeing you and her on the side? Your way better off if you don't take him back.
2006-11-15 20:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋