if you got beat as a child will you beat your own children?

Answer 1

No, beating will not help in discplining your child - it will just trigger rebelion on the part of the kid and this will only bring anger in his/her heart. Love, concern, diplomacy, constant talking and explanation is still the best tool in discplining the child - this will build respect and not fear.

Answer 2

My God, no! I was physically and emotionallly abused as a child/teenager, and I suffer to this day from the consequences. A swat or two on the behind isn't detrimental, but hitting a child in the head, and belittling a child with insults teaches nothing but hate, distrust in others, and fear. I have 2 kids, and even though they sometimes make me very angry, I have never and will never beat them.

Answer 3

hello

no one can beat a child, it doesnot matter own or some one else, child always a child,

if we got beat as a child, this was our parents fault not ours at the time of childhood,

if we are good parent we will never beat them, so many things they do which according to us wrong, but that just a fun for them, which for some time, after that they get another fun to do, or forget to do so

bye

Answer 4

Not necessarily. If you are aware of yourself and you strongly desire not to repeat the history that you had, you can stop the cycle. The problem comes in when an incident occurs with your child and in the chain of events, you do not allow yourself a moment to stop and think and weigh your reaction; the most natural response is to react the way that you know, the way that you learned. The key is to be hyper-aware of the issue (in order to change it) and decide to make it different. If you have difficulties managing your anger, even after attempts of doing it by yourself, you may want to try an anger management course to help you out.

It is best to be able to develop communication with your child and make him/her understand what is expected of them and what boundaries and rules you expect them to follow. In order to discipline them when talking does not work, you will need to find the "currency" in which to deal with them. By "currency", I mean a loved toy, a loved television program, a particular activity that they like, which would be taken away if they don't conform to what you ask of them. It is a very effective method.

Answer 5

Spanking Yes
Beating NO

I was never beat as a child, spanked yes, beat no.
Yes I do spank when necessary, our spanking while considered old fashioned, couldn't be mistaken for a beating.
People who beat the crap out of their kids need HELP, anger management, anything, just don't take your stress out on your kids.

Answer 6

sorry to tell u but it is the most strongest possibility .. and not just beating anything that has happened to u in child hood has strong chances that u can also do as a parent ... try to remem that how u felt that what had happened and how u had felt ... then only u can be good parenting ...

Answer 7

everyone I know who got beat as a child beat their children,they never went to counseling so they still have alot of anger.

Answer 8

No. I was emotionally and physically abused. The emotional abuse was more frequent but I suffered both. I have two kids and I don't treat them in any way the way my father treated me. I'm expecting my third child. If I thought I was anyway like my dad then I'd not have kids.

Answer 9

I was an abused child and I would NEVER hurt one of my kids. Yes, I will spank but only on the butt, and hand. I never let myself lose control and go over board. If the do something really bad I walk away and let my husband take over. So NO, not all abused children abuse their children.

Answer 10

Great Question, I was never spanked as a child, my husband however (we are 25) had to pick his switch from outside or decide if he wanted them to use the big spoon or fork that hung on their kitchen wall. SO to me spanking was not a option, but it is a constant battle w/ my husnabd if our daughter acts up he wants to spank & I want to send to time out. He has been getting better w/ sending her to time out w/o a arguement however I think disapline even if we did not like our parent method is a taught trait.