I called the police on the man that i was seeing only because he started to become physical with me. i had to protect myself... i asked him to leave and he didnt... 30 minutes later he left... as he was walking out the door i got his things together.. i asked him to take his stuff, he fliped out on me again. But i was really nice to him that time. I said please just take your stuff, so then there is no reason to come back here. thats when all the name calling started and other stuff. my daughter seen him hit me through the window she was looking through.... when i came inside she said mom i called them boys on him.... at first i was upset, but then i said ok.. i will wait till they get here..... I feel bad.... because i hit him too. now the court put a 2 year no contact on him.. what do i do. this has never happened before to us... what can i do??? should i leave it the way it is....
2006-11-15 19:21:15 · 16 answers · asked by Be wise 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hard situation. Hard question.
Heart of hearts, some part of you will always want someone you liked to be back. But you have a kid. And violence at a small provocation is a dangerous indicator in a relationship. You dont want repeats, you dont want it to be more messy.
There are many good folks out there. Just calm down and let things be the way they are. If you want to feel better, pray for the guy for a few days - sincerely. You cannot do more. Accept things and slowly move on.
What you did was not wrong - and feeling bad is not wrong either - just shows you are a nice person. Feel happy about that. And about your wonderful child.
All the best
2006-11-15 19:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by c_ravi55 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just let this whole mess settle down first. The court has the guy for two years and theres nothing we can do about that, and that will help the man understand that hitting anybody has consequences and he'll learn from this.
I suggest that you just concentrate on your daughter, reassure that violence is never the answer and you were just defending yourself. Its also great that your daughter knows what to do in times of trouble, spend time together and just enjoy each others company.
2006-11-15 19:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by stormsandblues 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you were very smart to call the police. I understand that you hit him and that you regret it, but I think it's best that you don't see this man.
Why? Because you have a daughter, and your #1 priority in life has to be to protect her. Your daughter will grow up and find a man of her own one day, and she is forming her opinion of men from the ones she sees with her Mom. If your daughter sees men hitting you and abusing you, she will grow up not trusting men and that will cause all kinds of problems in her life. Not only that, but if this man gets really out of control and hurts you or even kills you, who will look after your daughter?
Even if you didn't have a daughter, I'd say that it's a good thing you can't see this man for two years. You deserve to find somebody who will treat you right and won't lose his temper and get physical with you. There's plenty of guys out there who will treat you right!
2006-11-15 19:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Veronica 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look abuse is not cool no matter what. if he hit you in anger once there is a good chance that he will do it again not 100% but a chance and that is not cool. as to the other part "you hitting him" it depends if it was in self defense than you go beat the crap out of him but if it was in retaliation then that you have to live with. violence is never the right answer but sometimes it is the only option but you should always leave it for the last one. i hope everything works out for you and yours try to move on spend time with your daughter it hard for her too. good luck.
2006-11-15 19:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by jerry_prive 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like a bullet out of a gun, once you pull that trigger it there is no stopping the bullet. Once the cops are called and they take him he is Fu%$#@! He was, if what you say is true, wrong. and now he is marked for good or bad forever. The state will pick up the charges even if you do not press them. He is Screwd!!!
You were not arrested too?
2006-11-15 19:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by Fear and Bullets 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get away from him. Someday he may abuse your daughter. And your teaching your daughter it's alright that a man puts his hand son you.Break the cycle now,so she want have to let it continue in her life. And you both need counselling.I am a mother and wife my self,,,,,But I am a mother before I am a wife,because we are the woman that teach our girls what to accept from a man. And i believe love isn't suppose to hurt.Leave him for the well being of your innocent daughter.
2006-11-15 19:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mother of 2 girls 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hit you once chances are he will do it again. You have a kid to worry about. She doesn't need to see her mom get hit. I think it is for the best. Stay away from him.You are better off.
2006-11-15 19:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by kitten 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not the type of thing your young one should have to see, trust me he will keep hitting you and they it will gradually get worse each time. Stay away from him and hook into the singles market, Goodluck!!!!
Call police if he comes back.
2006-11-15 19:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by N. Andrews 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u kno what i was in a bad relationship and my husband hit me many times and u kno if they hit u they will hit u again it wasant ment 2 b and its not right 4 ur child 2 c that beleave me i know what u r going through plese it scars ur child! my son will always hav flash backs and i live with it every day. email me if u need me im here misitcdawn@yahoo.com im on now im me girl.....
2006-11-15 19:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put the hysteria down and back away from the fool.
He hit you, what more do you need to know?!?!?!?
Good riddance I say. Hopefully the paper will keep him away. If not, call again.
2006-11-15 19:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋