Okay so here is my situation: I am 20 years old and have been talking to this guy (24) whom I was introduced to online from a mutual friend. We instantly clicked when we talked online and have so many things in common (like the same music, both drink green tea, both want to keep our heritages and pass it on to our kids, and we often say the same things (like twins we say the same stuff at the same time)). (through our chats I got the hint that he was into me). After about 2 months of talking online we met and I found out that he is majorly into me. I am majorly shy and am scared of where this could go. He is also shy but is really wanting to ask me out (my friend told me). My issue is that I dont even think that I like him...we have too much in common..we are the same person sometimes. I dont think I am attracted to his personality...will that change?
2006-11-15 19:05:32 · 9 answers · asked by Some One 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How can you tell if it will change? Only by meeting him. We don't know the answer because he could change in the future, something could happen and his personality might become something else. Just having you in his life might change his personality. People are dynamic, and unpredictable. The hardest thing to do is predict what they will do, even people know swear they know someone like their own self, will be surprised when that person does something unpredictable. Its what makes life interesting. Try it out, and if you don't like it don't buy it.
2006-11-15 19:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Empty Skies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find out that he likes giving anal sex and you tell him that you hate receiving it, that should make for a pretty interesting conversation, haha. Half-kidding there. Well, to be honest, I agree that having too much in common makes for boring entertainment, but I don't think tea and music are deal-breakers here. What if he preferred death metal while you preferred opera? Can you see yourselves taking a car trip anywhere?
Some things you mentioned are more down the line than day-to-day activities anyway. I always felt inadequate if I was starting to date someone but couldn't introduce them to something new that I had an interest in, either because they tried it before and didn't like it or had already done the activity more times than I had (all non-sexually). One instance was with a beautiful woman (I miss her, can you tell) who was into Weird Al Yankovic. I liked his old music but she liked everything he did, and even met him on a few occasions. So we were into the same things but to a different degree. I was into getting mp3s whereas she didn't know squat about it, so I managed to dig up some bootleg and rare stuff from Weird Al and make a CD for her, and she introduced me to some of his newer tunes which I took a liking to. We both won in the end and didn't bore each other to death.
From experience I can give you subjects that may show some differences: politics, religion, songs one would want to dance to (my gf finally realized that shes more outgoing than me on this due to our last dance incident at a club), Mac vs PC, sporting teams, drug (ab)usage, how to spend a million dollars, pro life vs pro choice, etc...
2006-11-15 19:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by Eric B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it. Ya'll have a lot in common and you don't like his personality. Does that mean you don't like yourself either. Personally I mattered a twit that I have nothing in common with that I can think of and I totally hate him. If it wasnt for kids he'd be gone, well that's kind of a lie, he'll be gone soon enough. Anyway I think that maybe you are just making excuses because personally I think any women would love to be with someone that has stuff in common. Makes for lots of conversation. Or could it be that he doesn't meet your standards in the looks department and you are using the personality crap as a means to not sound "superficial". I think you should at least give him a chance and see what happens. If it starts going farther than you want it to then tell him to slow his roll.
2006-11-15 19:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, maybe not. If you dont like his personality, then why are you still doing this to him. It's like you're leading him on and that's not cool. As for the "twin telepathy" like thing, maybe you two are better off friends for a while. It can be creepy having TOO much in common with someone. I say dont do it.
Good Luck!
2006-11-15 19:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by Kaylie Reanne - Born 08-06-09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, i imagine opposites have a a lot less danger of attracting then similar personalities do. Opposites can get off the incorrect foot, because of only a normal warfare of words, as for similars.......it will be very appealing once you both agree on something.
2016-11-29 04:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say at least give him a chance. you never know. sometimes, people who think like you understands you the best. trying doesn't hurt.. it would only make sures your "rejection" would be the right choice. so date, and find out.
2006-11-15 19:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r in love with him baby
2006-11-15 19:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe
2006-11-15 19:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably not
2006-11-15 19:09:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋