I've now been seeing my girl for about seven weeks. We've had a fantastic time so far. I'm seeing her tonight and on the weekend. I'm worried that as I become more of myself (being the knight in shining armour so far) that I can't reassure her that I want to be with her as much. I also worry that I'm losing that loving feeling at times. Am I worrying and analysing too much at this early stage? And is it normal to have these cycles of emotion at this stage?
2006-11-15 18:57:02 · 6 answers · asked by drsauce99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yep, it's normal. Hopefully you can just chill, and see how it goes with her.
Have a drink, and spend some time with friends - maybe keep her off your mind when you're away from her..(if you can't, maybe that means somethin' else..)
Good luck with the chillin'.. and if she doesn't work out.. there are many more where that one came from! ;)
2006-11-15 19:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by seaofcolour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you project too much into the future. this will make it impossible for you or your girl to live up to the image you project. try mental focus exercises that help you to live in the moment and enjoy it. want what you have right now and let go of planning forward in relationships. 'Feal the fear and do it anyway' by susan jeffer is a good book for making you see that a relationship is only a small part of a whole life. family, friends, work, hobbies, spirituality and alone time are equally important. do something for each area every day and you'll find it easier to live in the now.
2006-11-15 20:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, start being yourself. If you've been acting then everything is fake, and trying to keep up a fake image is wearing you and your mind out. It is early in the game to be trying to decide how you feel. Remember Rome wasn't built in a day (or 7 weeks) and neither are good relationships. Get to know her as she gets to know YOU.
2006-11-15 20:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by just me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're that much in question then take some time off -- think about what you want and decide if this is right for you... seven weeks is pretty early ( i know it seems like forever at this point, and that possibilities are endless and all that, but really you need some time to yourself to think about things.) you just need a break
2006-11-15 19:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by misterlyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first answer is based on what you have said you want to be ready to settle closer to her, your listening to too many love song lyrics and you maybe need to concentrate on you, this relationship here, how to make it work best, sit down with your girl and ask her how she feels about where you are going.
2006-11-15 20:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you just take time out and just try to relax.You don't have to be to hard on yourself just let things flow in it's natural course, that is just the best way, be yourself and am sure everything will just go fine.
2006-11-15 19:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋