My girlfriend say that she wants to marry me and spend the rest of her life with me. We argue alot and I often try to give her an easy way out of the relationship by telling her things like, we can just be friends, maybe she should find someone that she wouln't have to argue with as much, or she may be able to do better with someone else. She says she loves me, she loved me the first time she saw me, and where bour relationship goes is up to me. Heres the thing, she lives with her ex-boyfriend(he has a girlfriend) and her close friends are guys, she says she can't get along with most females. we have been together for about 2 years. I try to trust that she tells me the truth, but under the circumstance its very difficult. She has alot of good qualities about her and I would like to marry her, but in my gut I have reservations. How deep is a womans love for her man ? Should I take the plundge or run like hell from this relationship ?
2006-11-15 18:55:09 · 10 answers · asked by ausaramenra2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well tell her you want to take things slow. If you are not happy with her staying with her Ex than get her to move out or move in with you. Arguments are healthy & add spice to a relationship. So dont shy away from them. If you two love each other, give it a chance!
2006-11-15 19:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mock-mast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure your gut feelings are about the relationship. I started dating a guy about six months ago and just before that plane hit that apartment complex I started having bad gut feelings and I thought it was about the relatlionship and I couldn't understand why I was having such bad feelings and I at first attributed it to the new relationship and then when that plane hit the apartment complex, my bad gut feeling went away, so I think I somehow was tuned into this plane crash and it was causing me to have a bad gut reaction and as soon as it happened, I felt fine again. It could be you are psychic about things and you are picking up on something. You could ask her about moving in with you and see what she says. You could try living together and see how it goes before you get married.
2006-11-16 03:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by WannaKnow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought I knew better than my intuitive instincts about one girl, who very nearly ruined my life. They were the same instincts that had kept me from ever getting involved with plenty of perfectly good girls in the past, only this time, the one I made a determined choice to ignore them, they happened to be right.
But I was actually lucky.
Another guy I know went ahead and got married to a total psycho ***** knowing it was probably a mistake, and she immediately turned 10 times worse, had a kid, they divorced, now he's in unending legal battles and drama. She's the worst person in his life and she'll be there for the rest of it because of their child, who is probably going to be permanently messed up from the whole thing.
It sounds like you don't love this girl nearly as much as she loves you, so even if nothing else is going on, that is a problem.
2006-11-16 03:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. Dont run, but dont do anything like getting married just yet. Maybe you two should move in together before marriage. As for her many guy friends, let it go. All girls have close guy friends. We see them as easier people to confide in rather than girls sometimes (often because us girls have cruel things to say even if its with good intentions.) Just wait it out, if she really loves you, and you the same, then move in and THEN if things dont work, run like mad!
Good Luck!
2006-11-16 02:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kaylie Reanne - Born 08-06-09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your gut.Dude...honestly, can you live with that knawing,aching feeling in your gut for "better or for worse"? If you can than do it, you're a grown man, you live with it.If you're not really sure though?I suggest a no go at marriage.It's not only a Really expensive mistake to make,It's supposed to be for Life. Just be Sure is what I'm saying. Good Luck.
2006-11-16 03:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by tequillajenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*** trust your gut. if you're fighting and you're not feeling u can trust her... now is NOT the time to marry her. a woman's love can run very deep... don't believe that this is as good as it can get. DO NOT SETTLE.
2006-11-16 03:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by meme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not a girl but from what you wrote it seems like there is doubt. why take the plunge into something so serious like marriage if there is doubt. let it ride for a while until you are certain on your decision as to leave or stay. you be the boss.
2006-11-16 02:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by keet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your gut instincts, they are ALWAYS correct, then run like hell.
Sorry :{
2006-11-16 02:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by computergrl69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
err.....well... de word's UR WISH! jus listen 2 wat ur heart says... de gal seems like a happy go lucky person.... n u'll b 1 lucky guy 2 get such a broad minded gal... & de argument part..hmm....... galz luv playin it hard wid der guys... dats all... but on the contrary de'r actually luvin u more n de wanna draw ur attention... de rest's up2 u........
2006-11-16 03:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by damzel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she's hiding something.
2006-11-16 02:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋