Sex before Marriage...please read my details?

Question

Saving yourself...

You may think I'm only talking about sex or physical purity...... But I'm not. There's a lot more you can save for your spouse, if that's what you choose.

Save yourself for the one God has planned for you!

I used to struggle with the idea of saving myself for my husband. I knew it was the right thing to do, but I couldn't help but think I was missing out. I thought just saving my virginity counted and evrything else was ok...boy was I wrong... it would have been only a temporary sacrifice that would have turned into a priceless investment.

sex is a very special and sacred experience between a man and woman who love each other and have committed to each other by marriage.

What if the mindset of a single person was not just "I'll save sex for marriage," but "I'll save myself" for my future spouse?

Saving yourself, means that you save more than just sex. You save other special things like kisses, touches, and "I love you's." It may sound far-fetched or even very old-fashioned, but can you imagine the feeling of joy and love you'd have if you knew that your spouse had not even kissed another person? Ever? Or if the first time he/she ever said, "I love you," it was to you! ( I know what that is like!!!)

~~~Imagine this~~~

your purity is like a piece of wood...when you are emotionaly or sexualy involved in a relationship...your two pieces of wood are super glued together.....you guys break up and you wood is torn from his. some of his chips are still on yours and yours on his....your in a new relationship...now you glue your wood to this persons. The chips from both of your last relationship are still their between the new relationship.. break up tear up...not only did you get some of his chips but you also got some of everyother woman he was with before you.

Imagine the privilege and honor of having a spouse who didn't just save sex for you, but saved absolutely everything! You can take this as far as you choose. Maybe you don't even want to hold another person's hand before you hold the hand of the one who commits to you for life.

I can tell you that if more couples saved everything for each other, many marriage-harming issues would not exist in their relationship. There wouldn't be haunting memories of past sexual encounters. There wouldn't be feelings of jealousy towards those who had physical experiences with someone's husband or wife. There wouldn't be the mindset that says, "Since I've had sex with someone else, what's the harm in doing it with another someone else?" Or, "Since she's had sex with someone else, what does it matter if I do, too?"

If he doesn't have enough respect to say "no" for you...then he doesn't have enough respect towards you!

Perhaps the best part would be the sense of sacredness that saving oneself completely brings to a marriage. She doesn't have to share him with anyone – past, present or future. And neither does he.

Trust me, people don't LEAVE marriages like that. Why would they?

I'm not saying it will be easy. In fact, I imagine it will be extremely difficult. But on your wedding night, when you give yourself to your spouse without bringing someone else's memory with you, you'll probably consider it to be your greatest accomplishment in life.









What does the Bible say?

Along with all other kinds of sexual immorality, sex before marriage premarital sex is repeatedly condemned in Scripture (Acts 15:20; Romans 1:29; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13,18; 7:2; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible promotes abstinence before marriage. Sex before marriage is just as wrong as adultery and other forms of sexual immorality, because they all involve having sex with someone you are not married to. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations that God approves of!

(Hebrews 13:4)

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers.



(Corintians 6: 18-20)

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins people commit are outside their bodies, but those who sin sexually sin against their own bodies. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.

Answer 1

Preach it brother.

Answer 2

I believe sex before marriage is wrong, but I still think that whole cow/milk phrase is so wrong and offensive. Does she realize that "buying the cow" is basically agreeing to sell your sex for a price. If you are negotiating the price than you are A WHORE. If you are going to go with the whole barnyard logic, then why should the girl BUY THE PIG if all she wants is a little sausage now and then!??

Answer 3

I was raised to believe in waiting for marriage, but I didn't make it. I have had sex with 5 guys. Most of it was premarital. It has been a great ride. I have no guilt or regrets about it. Sometimes, I wish I had started sooner.

Answer 4

What wonderful morals and what a beautiful idea, but in todays society where sex sells, and the more you show, the better, ideas like that are scoffed at. At 28, I wish I could have been strong enough to wiat until marriage, but then again , I had only been with 1 other guy by the time I married my hubby, (which isn't bad) but yeah, I have no regrets, but I will be sure in try to install what you just typed to my kids. Thanks

Answer 5

it sounds like a nice ideal world, and i would love to be in something like that but this is the real world and alot of ppl now a days have sex before marriage(im not one of them im still a virgin and i plan to be till im married)i think it would be awesome for a virgin to lose their virginity to another virgin because not only have u guys slept together and done something like this but you have another special bond because u were eachothers firsts. i do wish that all my firsts were/will be with somebody who also has his firsts with me, i know its not gonna happen(im in love with somebody who has done everythign already) but i dont mind. i think somebodys past shouldnt affect the future. also, the longer u wait the less chance that u will lose it to a virgin cuz the older they are the more likely they had sex. so all i can say is save it for the special one, the one who you think u will not regret giving it to. if you want to wait till marriage then wait, i think its all a matter of personal choice and their beliefs. well yea i dont know i just rambled here but i hope this made sense.

Answer 6

interesting, but too late for me, but not for my GF, i have truely fallen in love with her, she'd not the first that i've said that to, she's not the first that i've kissed, she's not the first that i would have sex with (we still havn't and i'm really sure she wants to wait) but i really want to marry her, everything that i said she wasn't my first of, i'm her's and in such short time (11 months, nearly a year) we've grown so close, i love her and i know she's the one i want to be with, we are so compatable on so many levels. just that i am more sexual then she because she is capable of waiting, i am too but to me it would feel like i'm losing parts of my body as i wait, i have a high sexual drive

Answer 7

its always better to stay a virgin until marriage

Answer 8

Assss someone who has been married to someone for Nineteen years I can give that answer;
wait was there a question?
no... still don't see it...
WAIT... there it is!: Preach to the choir and have an arranged marriage when you are 15...

Answer 9

finally finished readin dat thing....though i dint get a word of what u sed....cz by the time i reached the end...i forgot the beginning....so where exactly were u gettin at?

Answer 10

Wow, what an essay.