The problem is that we're really close to the extent that he will even tell me about girl problems. Should I assume that because he talks about other girls with me that he does not think of me as a possibility and never will?
2006-11-15 18:04:36 · 11 answers · asked by marie_hall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dear, i dont know the exact chemistry between yu two, but i will suggest that u stick with friendship and not go for love.
i did the same and paid for it dearly. i lost not only my love but a best friend.its easy to live without love. its very tough to live without friends.
when we have been friends for so long and so so close then there is really nothing to explore afterwards.. no surprises and the expectation is just HUGE. right now u enjoy it even when he talks about his girls... but later u wont. and this will send him away as he wont be able to share everything with you.
it ur call.... u choose... love or friendship
best of luck. god bless..
2006-11-15 18:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Gia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not neccessarily. I had a very god guy friend who did the same. I was there for him and helped him through hard times. I listened to him complain about women. After a while he came out and asked why I never said anything about the fact that these qualities he wanted these women to have were all ones that I held. I explained I was being a good friend and listening. It never went any further than friendship as I felt weird about taking it farther. He still says that he is more than happy to have that, and this was 15 years ago.
2006-11-15 18:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he might only think of you as a close friend. but it doesn't mean that he can never fall in love with you too. just be careful with your feelings. because you might just be hurt in the end. let your closeness develop some more. problem is, it is really hard for a girl to initiate something.
2006-11-15 18:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. I know exactly how you feel. I had a male best friend for almost a year and during that time, i was single n he had a gf from the town he'd moved from. He would talk to me about her all the time, they'd been together for almost 2yrs, n i always assumed that he never thot of me in that way. then completely out of the blue, i told him i was having doubts that our relationship was strictly platonic n that i may have feelings for him. Then, he told bout how he's had feelings for me forever n that wen he told me he loved me, he hadnt meant it as just a friend. So yes, it's very much possible for him to want u n is just hiding it by talkin to other girls. i dont mean to say that that's wut hes doing, but dont eliminate that possibility unless it eliminates itself.
2006-11-15 18:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by kween 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 04:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't assume that he will never think of you like that. It seems to me he doesn't think of you like that currently. I could be wrong. The only way to find things out for sure, is to talk to him about it. Maybe tell him how you feel. It may be awkward, but isn't that worth the risk?
2006-11-15 18:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_bella06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on your thinking and his too. He may feel that u r some1 who he can really trust or speak to, that's why he told u about all his problem. But that doesn't mean he's interested in you. Maybe you can hint him and see how he response over it. Of coz, his character you should know too. As some may get irritating and ignored or even avoid you. So you have to be self prepared for it too..
2006-11-15 18:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by porridge0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eww very risky if you like him you cant help who you like but your risking your friendship.. They all say no matter what they will be there for ya but if you two go out it will never be the same if you two split,,, Good Luck though
2006-11-15 18:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's too hard to tell. He might be testing you. Maybe if you introduced the idea of you as more than friends, that would be all it takes?
2006-11-15 18:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like it...But if you made the first move...maybe not!
It depends on how YOU want him to feel about you. You can definitely change things!
If you want to.
2006-11-15 18:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by BadBill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋