Hi... I've been friends with this bengali muslim girl for more than year already and we see each other in school... and recently for the past 2 months we've been calling each other everyday and talking for 2-3 hrs every night about anything and everything and she is someone I can see myself with. However, she's muslim and she can only marry another muslim I think? I never brought up about me liking her or what not.. but I just really like her company and I would do anything for her. Can anyone give me any thoughts on this and if there are any muslim girls, can you please give me your opinions? I'm chinese and I would marry her, but I wouldn't want to bring it up until I get some clarity on this issue because I wouldn't want to jeopardize what we have now. Also, I noticed in school, she doesn't really talk to me much when her muslim friends are around. But when they aren't, we would always talk... And I would also like to know if us talking so much on the phone means anything. Thanks!
2006-11-15 17:59:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And I don't know if some of you know this, but muslim women can't date, so I can only get married.. And I am chinese and I have no religion =X so... I wouldn't mind converting
2006-11-15 17:59:28 · update #1
I see all this happy feet answers, but...
I wouldn't advise anyone to become Muslim. Rather she should quit being one. Why does it have to be you yielding to her religion? She does love you, right?
2006-11-15 18:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by cibercitizen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup... a chinese guy and a muslim girl r able to get married. However, there's alot of procedure to go about. Of coz, converting into muslim is a must. And your name have to include muslim name too... Eg. Abdullah Alan Bin Setiah... Where Alan is your name and Setiah is the surname of hers. Meaning, your surname will be change to Muslim surname too instead of Tan or whatever.
2006-11-15 18:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by porridge0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of you have to willing to move religion. It is a very difficult decision. For me, religion is very important. You must have deep thought about it. Just pray, ask God what is the best for you. I know love can be blind. But you must think about the future, yours and hers. Think about your family, can they understand and accept this? Because married is not all about you and her, but also about your family and hers. How about your children??
You mentioned that she doesn't really talk to you much when her muslim friends are around, do you know her reason? have you ever ask why?? Because if she really loves you, she wouldn't did that. Well, its just my opinion.
At the end, it's all up to you.
2006-11-15 18:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the mixture will be beautiful. Chinese and muslim? Smart and with a big butt? What is there not to like?
2006-11-15 18:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...i think you should ahve the guts if ur a guy to go up to her and tell her. if i really is true that she can only marry muslims, talk to her about it.. and if she really REALLY likes you, then you know.. u might marry her.. the future holds ANYTHING..just cross ur fingers and hope for the best!!
2006-11-15 18:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by swim4llife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be a good husband, you have to first understand what you are converting too, before the act.
2006-11-15 18:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by triniqueen40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are one of those forbidden passions. She wants it but knows that she cant have it. When her friends are around and she does not talk to you, it means nothing is going to happen. If she is like that around her friends, she is going to be worse around her parents. There is nothing wrong with being friends but that is all it is going to be.
2006-11-15 18:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by NEED HELP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the Justice of the Peace.....they do not care what religeon you are. I am sure your talking on the phone means something. If not to her it means something to you.
2006-11-15 18:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by dkf2222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is love, get married. It doesn't matter what nationality you two are!
2006-11-15 18:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't see why not
2006-11-15 18:00:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋