I just called a shrink to get an appointment as i feel i have depression. She asked for brief background and then asked if i will continue the sessions. I said i hope to. she said no hopes, "we cant waste appointment after someone who is not confident about following through" these were her exact words. I felt it was rude. m i overreacting and is it a my way of not taking sessions? do u think it was wrong on the part of d shrink to talk like dis wit a perspective patient?
2006-11-15 17:57:22 · 19 answers · asked by danny's mom 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I would have considered it rude too to be insulted like that. Like you would be a waste of time and she wasnt really interested in helping you, like she is supposed to be.
I can understand a tight schedule but how can someone who is going through a hard time be ''confident'' without even knowing how to deal with it?
I dont think you are overreacting and I dont think that you should not go to sessions, just find someone else.
Horrible ''bedside'' manner by the way.
2006-11-15 18:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by chiara 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
CLEARLY she is only interested in her financial gain. You are the patient and YOU call the shots, not her. It is Very rude of her to try to impose her controlling personality on you. She doesn't care about her patients. No one will know if they will want to continue or end the sessions until they have experienced the interaction with the therapist. It's important to have good chemistry and feel comfortable with them, SO if she is asking you that question then clearly she has had a lot of people stop their sessions with her (to the point where it has aggravated her) and that should bring up the question "why are people leaving her so often, does she just suck?" and from her personality, it seems like she does. So her anger is being taken out on you. There are TONS of therapist and psychs out there, don't even think about going to her.
Also: if you can, you should forward all these answers to her. :) if you know her email. Some people need a reality check!!!!
2006-11-16 03:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by lea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all how depressed are you? If you are just feeling down and need to feel good about yourself take a class that you think you might be good at. If its a little more than that go to your doctor before you go throwing darts at the phone book for someone who will be , for lack of better wording, screwing with your mind.I feel that was rude on the part of the shrink but, at the same time she may have just had her fill of those who say they are ready to feel better, seem to be making great strides, and then stop treatment. Its very disappointing to a good shrink to invest all that time and think wow we might be getting somewhere and then find out you weren't ready. Not always the almighty dollar when it comes to shrinks sometimes its the heart of a good one. Example, if you called a orthopedic dr. to help you mend a broken leg that you keep breaking over and over. He fixes it and tells you to stay off of it x amount of time so it will heal properly. You don't and it breaks again. All that hard work put in to repairing you was for nothing.
2006-11-16 02:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by hlaslie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go with your gut feelings. Keep looking until you find one you are comfortable with. Both of you will be investing time and money to get results and a good therapist should be able to have no more than 6 or 8 sessions to get results. After that is just throwing money at the problem, not curing it.
A PSYCHIATRIST can prescribe medications if needed. A PSYCHOLOGIST cannot. Many depressions are MEDICALLY treatable.
2006-11-16 02:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel offended you should not go to that shrink whether she is good or not and whether she intended to be rude or not. It would always be in your craw as long as you counseled with her and the resentment you carried would not allow you to open up, which is so necessary if you are going to get the most out of the sessions.
2006-11-16 02:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by syrious 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not wrong on her part. She wants someone who will not waste her time. That is her prerogative. You have choice. Can you give that commitment or not? Do you want to? Not every shrink is right for everyone. Believe me, it takes a while until you find one who is going to actually help you and not waste your time or theirs. If this made you uncomfortable with her then she is probably NOT the one for you.
2006-11-16 02:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was very insensitive. A person seeking mental health services is generally NOT of a mind to take such unnecessary commentary from a potential care provider.
I would say "Never mind. I'll look for a dr with a heart."
2006-11-16 02:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by Angela M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call a different one. They seem more interested in making sure they have a steady supply of money from you than your condition. I wouldnt go near that place. He doesnt even know whats wrong with you and he's assuming you will need help for months?
You need someone your going to be comfortable with and its already uncomfortable.
2006-11-16 02:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it sound a little on the rude side. Find someone else. You need to be comfortable with he person you will be confiding in, and you are already uncomfortable with this one.
2006-11-16 02:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by Lawgirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Main thing really is that you need a doctor you can get along with. Forget about that one and find one that is right for you. Yes probably was rude but nothing to dwell on.
2006-11-16 02:05:59 · answer #10 · answered by 601 B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋