Ive been with my bf for 2 and a half years..but we are both 19.so were very young.but we both want to get married,not just yet,but in a year or 2...theres just so much stuff to think about.Like how much money should you have to get married?I guess thats one of the biggest issues..is studying 2 days a week and getting married possible??anyone in the same situation? any advice would be greatly appreciated!
2006-11-15 17:38:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think in a couple of years you'll know when to get married. I've been with this girl now for 3 years. and I'm in my mid 20's . I know I love her, but I'm personally not ready to commit.
2006-11-15 17:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by wjb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about age at all. I'm almost 23 and will get married in less than 2 months. We both study. We both work. Love is super important but sadly love do not feed you of pay the bills. So you need to be economically stable to be able to handle all of this. You can keep studying while you are married if you have your husband's support. If he understands that you need to dedicate time to your studies, then OK. But, a piece of advice, DO NOT HAVE KIDS TOO EARLY. Sometimes I get all sentimental about having kids immediately after marriage, but I know that things are going to get complicated. So, I'll wait. It's very important that you are absolutely sure about the step you are going to take. If he is a certain way, you cannot expect him to change just because you are married. I hope everything is okay with your relationship. I wish you the best. If you want to discuss anything, here's a friend.
2006-11-15 17:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Di 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "right" or "wrong" age - aside from legal age. Since you are legally able to marry you can.
That being said... People go through alot of maturity changes between 18 and 25 (or even to 30). You might feel he is the one for you but in 2 yrs when you plan to be married, you might feel differently.
This is what I would personally recommend....
Figure out what you would like to have saved up to spend on your wedding (National Average right now is approximately $22,000 and it rises about $2000 - $5000 per year. Typically the weddings I have done range from $2000 - $10,000 - not the national average - and they are just as nice.) Then start saving for it, but aside from that dont make any "wedding plans". If it works as you want you will have the money saved for it, if it doesnt you will have a nice amount set aside for a house, car, early payment on student loans, etc.
Always remember a fairytale is fiction, reality isnt usually as "fanciful".
Good Luck
2006-11-15 18:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is a huge commitment. You and your b/f need to be sure that you are financially ready to accept living together, etc. The national average cost for a wedding is 20k but most are above...I've seen them as much as 100k+. If you are both so inlove, then why not just wait unti you're both ready financially and mentally. Go to college and start your careers first...you have to become stable on your own before you'll be able to support someone else. I have been with my b/f for almost 4 years and we aren't looking to get married until 2010/2011, for financial reasons. Think long and hard about marriage.
2006-11-16 01:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think there is any thing so call "right age" to get married. As long as u'r all the way ready. Mentality is very important, no matter how hard the life is.. both of u n ur hubby shld morally support each other in a way. Find a answer to a solution and its not quarrel. To advise, quarrel can be good in certain way as it boost up the thoughts and feeling. But!! too much is unhealthy.
2006-11-15 20:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Its me! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-22 04:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
21 & over is a good age to marry. Plus it would be a good idea to finish all your studies first because it will be better if you don't start off married life with extra bills to pay...always work out your bills & put that money away plus rent & shopping money & all expenses but ALWAYS stick to your budget & then things will work fine
all the best to you
2006-11-15 21:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by ausblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking, you are not ready. If you were ready, you wouldn't be asking because you would know.You wouldn't care about age.Wait until it is time!!!you will know.I would say after 21 because you know exactly what it means to get married.My parents got married at 17 and 19 and they went through alot because they were too young to know what they were actually doing.They made alot of mistakes.
2006-11-15 17:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah i thought that a couple of times too.
you may be right. but seriously, what's the rush... you've got your whole life to figure that out... get your life together as an independent person first... and whatever relationship you end up with (hopefully for you this is it) will surely benefit...
marriage is a delicacy, not a priority... not at your age at least....
2006-11-15 17:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jonny Propaganda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its nice to know that u want to spend your life with the person u luv .wish u best o luck fr it.but my advice wud b think of all the responsibilities cumin your way.give your relationship a lil more time cause mariage is a big responsibility.try a live in relationship first if u can.and bliv me it wud b really difficult to study when ur maried.
2006-11-15 17:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by ash_83 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋