Perfect proposal...?

Question

I dont know if you read my last question but i decided to propose to my g/f and i want to do it right. i could go for something romantic like writing roses in the sand and taking her to the beach where we met OR i could just be honest and tell her how i feel. Either way i know she's going to say yes. Which one do you think i should do? Oh yeah, her parents dont like me because I am chinese and she's italian, and my parents dont like her because they think she's not good enough for me... but i still feel i should ask him for his approval. what are your suggestions?

Answer 1

I think you should go for the very romantic approach rather than just flat out telling her how you feel. It's going to be one of the most memorable moments of both of your lives. You want it to be the best it can possibly be. Keep in mind this doesn't mean it has to cost a lot. I think most girls would rather something very sweet and thoughtful than extravagant.

If you two have a special spot, like where you first kissed, where you asked her out that kind of thing. Maybe you can do something romantic based around that location.

Perhaps you two have a hobby together that you can incorporate the proposal into. The most important thing is to make it personal, don't make it cliche like proposing at a restaurant. Make it private and make sure she can see that you've put alot of thought into it and that it shows how well you know her.

Try these sites for some proposal ideas: http://weddings.about.com/od/marriageproposals/a/proposalideas.htm
http://scripts.lovingyou.com/mdb/search.cgi?mdb=ideas&cat=proposal

There's plenty of ideas on the net :)

As for asking for the fathers approval.. I think you should ask him even though he doesn't like you. It will show respect towards him and even he does say no you can at least walk away knowing that you did the right thing.

My boyfriend has told me that before he proposes to me he's going to ask my mother and brother for their blessing because they're such important people in my life. (I don't have a relationship with my Dad so he doesn't get asked.)


-Elise

Answer 2

What about writing 'Will you Marry Me' in large letters made by candles on a dark night? You can do that on the beach you talked about. Take her to the preparations blindfolded and ask her not to cheat. Play soft romantic music for her to pass her time and feel the beach air. Lit all the candles and remove her blindfold. It will be best if she is on a higher altitude so that she can get the aerial view of the illuminated candles. Then give her a dozen roses and say whatever you like. You seem to have some good ideas up your sleeve as well. Asking her father, even if he does not accept, and try to convince him that you will keep his daughter happy, is a good idea.

Answer 3

Definetly ask her dad, I couldn;t have gotten engaged if I knew derrick skipped the askin the dad part, it was really important to both of them, and I'm glad it was done. Not saying this is gonna be the most comfortable situation, but you should do it. You may have to be able to prove why your the best for his daughter, be prepared to do this! As far as for the proposal, why not combine both....do somethind really romantic (not necessarily expensive) and tell her how you feel, get on a knee and ask. I wish my fiance had put more thought into his proposal, we were just layin around the house and he asked, no knee or nothing, it doesn't really matter, but it would be way cooler to tell my friends something more interesting! She will tell this story to your kids and grandkids, make it a good one to tell! good luck!

Answer 4

I would say do both.... the romantic roses ideology will be nice, but telling her your honest feelings for her is the foundation and the best part.
As for her father.... don't ask him for his approval, he is likely to tell you he wont give it if he thinks it will stop you from asking her... Instead ask for his blessing. Explain that you love his daughter with all your heart and you want to marry her and spend the rest of your life with her and take care of her. That you would like his blessing though. Make sure you state your intentions to marry her, so he doesn't feel he has the option of stopping you. Above all though, be respectful. He can hate you all he wants, but if you never bad-mouth him (in front of him OR behind his back) eventually you will earn at least a little respect from him.

As for your own parents... you need to support your bride and let your family know (as you did her father) that it isn't their decision who you marry. That since you love her you expect them to treat her with respect. From there it is your bride's job to "win them over" by being her wonderful self. Don't kiss up, people lose respect for each other when they are given insincere affections.

Answer 5

I think that you should atke her out to dinner and ask her to marry you which is the romantic way. As for the parents look you are the ones that have to live together for the rest of your lives. Sure it would be nice to have family behind you and supportive but all you need for your wedding is the two of you. Don't you love her? Then just do your business.

Answer 6

I think the beach idea is beautiful, I would love that...and you can tell her how you really feel there.
And I wouldnt ask for his approval...I would ask for his blessing. That way its like youre still asking so he still feels respected, but if he says no, its like ok well thanks for nothing, as opposed to being like oh crap what do I do now, I never should have asked in the first place.

Answer 7

Firstly, it is determined by the style of woman. Does she love to be round men and women and be the core of concentration? Or does she select to be on my own and quiet with you, discovering the highlight an embarrassing position to be? If she's the primary sort of woman... Make the notion public and get as many men and women (strangers or peers) worried as feasible. A massive construct up of a few kind from the strangers, you then eventually showing with the massive query will bowl her over - chiefly because the complete crowd cheers the 'sure' reply. A lovely situation I noticed as soon as used to be in which the woman used to be assembly the man on the airport to decide upon him up. He had purchased a massive bouquet of flora and made certain he used to be the final one off the aircraft. He acquired all of the passengers forward of him to take a unmarried flower and provide it to her as they got here off the aircraft (have to have had a % of her for them to understand). Then he used to be the final one off the aircraft and proposed while he acquired to her as all of the passengers stood round and he or she stood surprised with an arm stuffed with flora. If she'd as an alternative now not be within the highlight... Make it as in detail romantic as you'll be able to. Only you would be competent to understand what she reveals romantic. Pick a place that suggests some thing to either one of you. For me, a night picnic on a hot night time with a stylish setup (champagne & glasses, cheese platter, and so on) might be fairly candy. A pal of mine proposed in a similar fashion. They had a unique love/reminiscences/connection to a specific seashore. It used to be simply round his birthday, so he made the excuse to visit the seashore concerning that. He setup a fine picnic and proposed because the solar used to be surroundings. Of path it additionally is determined by what quantity of money you need to spend. I noticed an complex notion in which a man took the woman for a personal aircraft experience and flew over a patch of land in which he had organized flora to mention 'Marry Me?' I suppose the fundamental factor is to understand your woman and understand what makes her 'soften'. Ask her peers/household if she's ever had a fable or unique wish in how she desired a person to recommend or what she determined impossible to resist from a film (believe me, ladies have inspiration approximately it). Just the truth that you are seeking to make it additional unique already will imply volumes to her.

Answer 8

Ask her dad, it will go a long way with him. My hubby asked my father, and he still talks about that. The beach is nice, flowers are overrated to me anyway :)

Answer 9

i would take her back to where you met...it shows her that you remember that great day. as for the parents....yes out of respect and tradition i would ask, but also you are goin to be living her not the parents...the parents are there for support, not to make the choice of who you spend the rest of your life with.

Answer 10

DEFINITELY ask for his approval.
You guys love eachother. That is all that matters. I think whatever you decide to do, get down on one knee when you ask her. AW! GOOD LUCk!