ever caught your parents?

Question

I caught my parents a couple times when I was a kid, but the REALLY disturbing times have been within the last few years. I not only heard my parents doing it, but my mum was talking dirty, like some terrible porn star!!! I know this might be funny to you, but I was traumatised! I couldn't talk to them for a couple of days. Then, last week, my sister found an old pornographic note hidden away in a suitcase my parents leant her. How to handle such kinky, gross parents???!!!

Ok, some people are being a bit mean. I wasn't snooping. I WAS minding my own business. Their business was FORCED on me against my will. And I am aware how I was conceived! I don't mind that they still have sex. I was referring to the PORNO talk. I was traumatised upon hearing filthy, cheap porno talk coming from my mother's mouth.

Answer 1

Honey, most of us catch our parents believe me. I caught my parents and my daughter has walked in on us. She's grown now and she isn't traumatized. Matter of fact she laughs about it now (to me, not her Dad)and keeps wondering when one of her children is going to catch her and her husband. No matter how careful you are it's bound to happen. Your parents are only "gross" because it's your parents. We all think that. You can't undo it and sex no matter how old you are is a very natural act, it's not just for the young so just do your best not to think about it. Thank your lucky stars you didn't catch one of them (or find a note to) with someone other than the other parent. Now that would traumatize me.

Answer 2

That is a hard situation to be put in. Try to remember that your parents are adults and if they are still enjoying eachother that way, that would usually mean that they have forever been working on keeping the 'fire' in the relationship. I would venture to say that they are a very happy couple. I do understand how traumatizing it could be, as I have walked in the room once when I was in high school and I saw everythin! its not a pretty sight, mainly b/c its our parents and they 'aren't' suppose to be doing that...right? If it has come to such a big problem, I would suggest talking to your parents about it first. Let them no how it makes you feel so you could maybe ask them to lay some rules down about it all...like make special nights for it while you and your sister are at a friends house, or after hours when you are all asleep. They more than likely won't stop their excitement w/eachother, but maybe they will work with you to come up with a compromise...just an idea. Good luck with it all.

Answer 3

wow you poor girl.....The one time i caught my parents....I was fourteen and it was fourth of July. My buddy and i just turned the door nob and started walking into my house, and bam there it was mom getting it dogie style in the middle of the living room floor...MY step dad started yelling i thought u locked the door....I looked at my buddy we turned around and walked out...OK now ur laughing lol...but on the serious side u have 2 things u can do....u can tlk 2 her or block it out of ur mind.... I choose 2 block it out and now when i think about it i almost laugh my ass off....Ps its not like my mom never caught me....so i guess were even...but i did want 2 tell you a little some thing when it comes 2 the bed room you let out a whole nother side of yourself no matter how kinky or sexy your mom tlks in there those words were not ment 4u...what happens in a bedroom should stay in the bedroom or where ever else u choose 2 let yourself be sexual free....I think u should turn up or stereo and let ur mom be...how many things has ur mom gave up for u don't ask her 2 give up this could make things worse 4ya.... i get real ***** if i don't have good sex

Answer 4

Thankfully, I have never caught my parents doing the hanky-panky. And we lived in a pretty small house.

Also, my step-daughter (now 21) has never had reason to even suspect that her mother and I are sometimes intimate. We figured she already has enough stuff to deal with in her life, and rather carefully prevented her from having to deal with this one more thing.

With that said: "talking dirty" is a fairly normal thing to do -- and you oughtta cut your mom some slack about it. It sounds like your parents have a normal, healthy relationship. They slipped up by allowing you to become privy to a part of it that they should be taking some extra effort to keep private.

Answer 5

Maybe we will understand our parents and what they do or say when we grow up you think? Also it is their private time so stay away parents deserve this just like us younger ones do to. Also for the love of me i can not figure out why even once you heard and knew what was going on you stayed long enough to listen because you sure didn't hear that much just passing by their room...

Answer 6

Hey...I think you should at least respect your parents more even though you have seen some stuff you might not wanna see. Without those sexes, you wouldn't have been here in the first place. Look at the bright side, it seems to me that your parents have had a very healthy relationship, which is a great thing.

If you really can't get over that, I'd seek a counseling.

Answer 7

I heard my parents once but I was old enough to know what was going on, and thought it was funny. When people are married for a long time, they have to spice it up sometimes so things won't get boring. I think it's great that they still have it for each other. I hope me and my husband will still be into each other after that long.

Answer 8

Accept the fact that they are very very normal people who enjoy sex. The fact that they are still doing it and to add to it, doing it the kinky way means that their marriage is rock solid and you should be happy for them. Agree that it can be disturbing and disgusting since they are your parents but try to keep out of their way. If its unbearable, you could mention to your mom (without embarrasing her) that perhaps they should turn down the volume a bit.

Answer 9

Why is it that kids can go out and have sex--practically for sport and parents aren't allowed to. While I agree they need to quiet it down and keep it to themselves - thank goodness they have a healthy sexual relationship.

To keep this kind of thing quiet - you might have a brief chat with mom and let her know that their sex life isn't being kept behind bedroom doors. She most likely will be embarrassed but will make sure things stay private from now on.

Answer 10

OMG, Yes I know what you mean. I was like 3 years old and I still remember it like it was yesterday. I am now 24 years old and let me tell you it really does traumatise you. Don't worry about what other people say. They don't know you so don't take any notice of them.