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Question

Online relationships do they really work.

Answer 1

Honestly, from a shy person's perspective, it's a great start. It has it's pros and cons though.

1. PRO- By knowing basics such as if they smoke (I don't like smokers) or drink, if they have kids, if they've been married or not, you get to know more about them from the start and that can help you weed out those who don't fit your qualifications. Sometimes it makes for good icebreakers on a first date, as you already know a bit about them. Compare this with finding someone out in public, the chance of both you and the person being single, the chance of you or them approaching, the chance of both you and them liking each other or being attracted to their physical traits, getting so far with phone calls and getting your hopes up.. ...only to find out that they have kids when you don't want any, or that they smoke when cigarette smoke turns you off.

2. PRO - Less chance of a blind date. More often than not you'll see pictures of those that interest you. If their pic looks too good to be true, have them send you more pictures of them in a natural setting like at a bar with others or in public. The pics might be dated, but I haven't seen this so far. In most cases it's a person's physical traits that initiate an interest, but don't leave out other choices as well. Technology is too advanced for anyone not to have a picture of themselves anyway. If they don't have a pic then chances are that they might be insecure about their looks, (which is only human), or they're totally secure and want to meet others based on what they have to say and don't want to be judged on looks. It's a crap shoot, but I've had a few blind dates turn out to be lookers.

3. CON - I believe that you don't fully know a person until you've experienced ups and downs with them. If you and your partner are travellng somewhere and your tire blows, I'd prefer the person that says, "oh well" and offers to grab items while I affix the tire, as opposed to the one who curses and yells and throws a fit, even if it's not my car. So, you may find out sociable traits if you meet them in person first and how they handle the approach and such, which you may not find out when talking to them via IM chats and email. Sometimes you can pick up on this when initially approaching someone or them approaching you, but this stuff happens eventually on and after the first date.

4. PRO - When you approach someone in public, there's always that chance of rejection as the person might be married or in a relationship. When you're looking through online dating sites, 99% of the people are looking, so you won't get hit with, "sorry, I have someone", when you show interest online. Now those same people you're interested in might be dating multiple people or might just be starting a serious relationship and haven't updated their profile, but if you plant that seed, hopefully your interest will still remember you if you're both single and on the same site again. If you get rejected online, that's one less person to ask = 1 less rejection. It's not so easy asking out multiple people and getting multiple rejections in the real world.

As far as dating multiple people, it has its pros and cons as well, but you have to do what makes you comfortable. Just don't allow the odds to be against you in the dating game.

5. PRO - You'll know what they're looking for if you search multiple dating sites. If they have profiles on other sites (which only broadens your own horizons as well), they might have other pictures or information that they didn't copy and paste from the first dating site you see them on. They might want a strict physical relationship on one site but another might advertise them wanting a long term relationship or just casual dating. Try finding that out from the start when you first ask someone out and see how far that gets you.

6. PRO/CON - It costs money, but it speeds up time. Why wait at your favorite library or coffee shop waiting for the person of your dreams to walk in, when you can pay an average of $20-$30 per site and cut to the chase and weeding process? Most sites allow you to check profiles, but communicating with your interest via email will cost you a membership. That's 7 pints of Ben & Jerry's in exchange for a month of talking to single, available, interested people.

7. PRO/CON - As a shy guy, it's been my experience that women want men who are confident but not cocky. Now all women want the same thing though. And I believe most of us guys want a princess in front of the parents and a tigress in bed. So despite the number of people online looking to date, there may be some things you'll have to accept that you may normally not be into. Keep in mind that there aren't as many girls as there are guys on dating sites (unless you're in Alaska. I don't know why), so girls have a large number to choose from whereas guys are more limited.

8. PRO - Why not get a bit of an edge over the competition? If you're a guy, you can pose as a woman and look at guy's profiles and see which ones are funny, witty, and might attract the most women, then write a better ad than that when you make your own profile. And vice-versa for women of course. Writing a profile is an art, and there seem to be more DONTs than DOs, but you can find a lot of info about this on the internet. Some dating sites even have their own advice columns on how to make an ad that stands out.

Good luck in your search whether it be on the net or in person!

Answer 2

Nowadays many people begin relationships online. It is very possible to meet your perfect match, granted you keep in mind the basis and eventually meet offline.
Keep in mind:
- almost everyone is more talkative online and loses some of their inabitions
- many people hype themselves up a little or embellish
- if you see a picture, it is the best picture that person has ever seen of themselves, not what they look like on an average day
- you can be taken for a ride by someone, so do not get too wrapped up in them until you meet in person

Answer 3

I don't know never tried it. It might work but in my opinion I prefer face to face contact. You get to see the real person and get to know the real person. When you have online relationships you don't get the real picture and they can tell you anything. How do you know if they are real or not it is online????

Answer 4

I met a guy online a couple of years ago and we dated for a year before he got posted away, he was in the RAF... neither of us felt we could handle the distance. Pity really as he was very nice.

Answer 5

No. All my online relationships failed. Most because we figured out it's better to have a real life boyfriend or girlfriend.

Answer 6

no i don't think on-line relationships work. How do you really know what the person is saying is true. When you are talking to the person face to face you can read if they are lying to you. On-line you can both pretend to be someone you are not and then what happens when you fall for the person. Not many people tell the truth on-line.

Answer 7

to start with it can. it doesnot matter where you meet, be it in a party online , through frind . it could be anything....but to persist one should meet the person...
afterwards the rest follows..

anything can work ... if the feelings r mutual...

Answer 8

most of the time no but for some they do. i would not count on it working out though.

Answer 9

not really cos you have to live near eachother as well or it gets boring and you may be tempted to have an affair

Answer 10

I have never tried it, but i guess it can work my cosin tried it and now she is married to the guy and they just had a kid.So i guess it can work it just dependes on your luck, it's a risk.I mean life it'self is a risk so ..................................., why not.