My boyfriend is a sweetheart in many ways, but he's not very romantic. When we are n the midst of a romantic moment he will avoid it, or blurt out something very off. He's 31, and I.m 21, so it's not immaturity. I just want romance what do I do?
2006-11-15 17:10:44 · 10 answers · asked by kayla_ann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he's uncomfortable with romantic moments, despite his maturity. Many men are. But they have other ways of showing they care. One former flame of mine bought me twenty dollars worth of sundried tomatoes, because they're my favourite food, and as a student, I couldn't afford them. I guess that's a kind of romantic gesture. You can't force your man to bring flowers and chocolates, or write mushy love poems if he's not the type. But on the occasions he says or does something sweet, tell him that you really appreciate him, lavish him with attention, and he'll soon get the message that you respond positively to romance.
2006-11-15 17:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When ever u meet him appear in a romantic manner i.e romantic dresses so that he should stun by seeing u OR invite him to dinner and serve him "both" in a way so that u can show ur beauty to him. These are the samples. If u want more, I can guide u.
So after romancing wit ur boy friend, dont forget me.
Bye. All the Best.
2006-11-15 17:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Prince 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kayla, I am a man a little more maturer than your dude and it still puzzles me how to be romantic. the truth though is that we do not try or we just don't want to.
What I try to do is to "fake it", I assure myself that it is not real that it is not me who is doing it it's just an act and then it will be over and I will be seated. And guess what, it works.
Encourage him to just do it Even for the sake of doing it,. The thing is practice makes perfect. the more he tries the better he gets and one day he will be like what the heck, I love this babe, I might as well buy her the roses and carry them three blocks down the road..and so on.
If you bug him to be romantic he will rebel, men don't like being pushed (that's why they are called big babies) they want persuasion and encouragement a little cheer leading and he will get there..promise me then that you wil write back and tell us what you did to your man who will the be a hottie!
Go Kayla!
2006-11-15 17:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he is very immature!! just because he's 31 u think he should act like a grown man no way!! some men never grows up!
2006-11-15 17:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just don't like all the romantic stuff. They look at it as a cheese ball. I've tried before, but it seems to be that I am teaching a cave man how to drive a car.
2006-11-15 17:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is immaturity, only it's on your part, not his.
DO NOT try and change someone you are dating. It doesn't work and it is just irritating. You could try and encourage any little signs in that direction, but give up thinking you are going to turn him into a hearts and candy kind of guy.
2006-11-15 17:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it day by day - He maybe a dark horse, but he probably has it in him. Somewhere.
He's probably shy about it as it makes him uncomfortable. If you get him in a place hes comfy - and relaxed, he will open up eventually when he realises what he has with you :)
2006-11-15 17:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by kiwinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a long gap inbetween so he is treating you like a sister
well leave him and join with me
i'll be a nice romantic guy as you like . . .
http://sndn21.hi5.com
2006-11-15 17:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by sndn_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're 21, then you know you can't make a man do anything he doesn't want to do
2006-11-15 17:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
emm..
exactly like my situation..
i was in ur shoes long time ago..
what i did is...
1st...
im da one who starts to be romantic...
looks at his reaction..
2nd...
try ask him to be like one...
say that it is ur dream to have one..
3rd..
buy or read him da articel or books about ROMANTIC..
i bought my boy one, and its kinda works..
4th...
whenever he try to be one, react and if it fails,,
dun straight burst out..
be calm..
5th...
if all above doesnt works...
confront to him....
tell him what u felt...
and how it effect u in that relationship...
6th...
give him a choice if still it doesnt work..
good luck..
actually
im 18...
and my boy is 20..
also..
my boy is a pilot in army..
so if it still doesnt work on your boy,
i dunno what to say..
im happy now...
he is my dream man...
best of luck
and
dun ever give-up.
2006-11-15 17:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by MiSsY fLiRtY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋