I am sleeping with this guy who continues to cross his legs like a girl. He claims that its comfortable. He also makes gay gestures (quite frequently) but in a joking manor (or so he says). What should I make of this? Any good suggestions on how I should go about finding out if he is straight? Another question: Should I dump him or continue to sleep with him?
2006-11-15 16:56:08 · 22 answers · asked by purpleshopper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep sleeping with him, i doubt hes gay or he would obv. be sleeping with guys, not you
2006-11-15 16:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by dirtyblondxo4lyf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the fact that he's sleeping with you isn't enough? Isn't that the usual test?
If you sincerely have problems with his mannerisms, if it really bothers you *that* much..then do him a favor and break it off. He probably deserves better anyway.
But for the record, there are plenty of straight men who cross their legs, though they might not want to be caught doing it (my best friend's husband, for one). And gestures you consider 'gay' really may not be. Also, he could just be bi..and what's wrong with that?
2006-11-16 01:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by BrightEyedBlasphemer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys make gestures like that and cross their legs. It doesn't mean he's gay. But if you are that uncomfortable with the situation maybe God has someone else in store for you.
2006-11-16 01:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you whether you should dump him or not, but I can tell you that he may have some awkward tendencies.
he may be bisexual.
i was reading up on this just the other day, about gay men who've been married to women for years and their wives didn';t find out they were gay until years later.
My aunt married this guy (this was about 20 yrs ago) and then she moved like 7 states over for him, ended up catching him with a man! divorce, nonetheless.
it's up to you, really, because we can't tell for sure or even say if you should stay with him or not. this is completely you're decision.
good luck though hun!
2006-11-16 01:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by Bitterly Sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some (very few) straight guys have what one would call "gay tendencies". The only way to really know is to ask outright. Something like, "Just an observation, but you seem to have a strong feminine side to your personality. Anything you'd like to tell me?"
I think you deserve an answer, don't you?
2006-11-16 01:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh?, thats funny, im sleeping with a girl named purpleshopper. hey wait. i hate you. im not gay. im not bi either. i just think gay jokes are funny, and i try not to cross my legs all gay like in public but in the privacy of my own home (or yours) i should be comfortable.
WE NEED TO TALK.
2006-11-16 01:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by FJ40spencer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Purple, He's not gay,he a person who likes sex with a man or a woman. If you want to know if he is want i stated, Just come out and ask him. About dropping him. That is intirely up to you.Only you can answer this question. One question: Did you enjoy having sex with him??? You answer that and see.
Clowmy
2006-11-16 01:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go down the dirt road and if he is too hurry to oblige then he is gay. Also ask him to have a three some with other guys involved and listen to him idea of it then you would be sure. If he is then you can't trust him with anyone and that shitt wouldn't make sense so kick his asss to the curb.
2006-11-16 01:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if your sleeping with him hes probably not gay. the worst he could be is bi. just try to see if he does more manly things.. like sports and stuff like that. let him go to a bar or something with his friends. get the man side to show more. lol
2006-11-16 00:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is gay does it really matter? obviously he wouldnt be just gay. he would be bi sexual if he is doing you too. sounds like he has gay tendecies. but does this matter. the real concern should be him cheating on you with a guy or girl ya know. obviously it bothers you if he is bi, so dump him or learn why it bothers you and see if you can live with it.
2006-11-16 00:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are more effeminate than others.
If you enjoy his company -- and the sex must be good or you wouldn't be sleeping with him -- lay off and just accept him for who he is.
2006-11-16 01:08:24 · answer #11 · answered by some chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋