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Please, be kind and thoughtful. I'm not looking for attention. This is a real life situation and I would really like some inspirational answers.

My best friend's dad just died from cancer. The sad thing is he died while in a coma, so we couldn't even say goodbye.. I was looking for two things. One, what should I do to help my friend? What are some simple gifts I could give to him and his family? And two, if you have any good scriptures or quotes to help uplift he and his family, they would be so appreciated.

Thank you for reading, maybe you could help me?

2006-11-15 16:47:29 · 24 answers · asked by cady 2 in Family & Relationships Family

Oh my goodness, I didn't expect so many answers! Thank you all soo much!

The update: me and a few other friends got together and bought him a journal, a picture frame, and we made him a video. In the journal we all wrote a note to him on the first two pages. The picture frame had writing on it, I just can't remember what it said. And the video, was all of us just talking to him, and telling him we'd be there for him no matter what.

OH! You might know the boy! If you watch Extreme Makeover Home Edition, the one that took place in Bountiful, UT.. The Harrison family? The dad, Gordon Harrison, he's the dad that died. Ben Harrison is my friend.

Ben and the rest of his family are doing good, and they really appreciated what we did for them. Thanks so much for your answers!

2006-11-16 14:59:21 · update #1

24 answers

Send flowers to the funeral home.....my grandmother died recently and my family received flowers to the funeral home....they are expensive though so if you cant do that then just send a thoughtful card......this is not really a situation that warrants a gift......if all you can do is send a card telling them that you are thinking of them in their time of sorrow then that's good enough...

2006-11-15 16:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by Tripping Billies 3 · 1 0

Firstly, I'm sorry about your friends dad.

The most important thing you could do for him is to give him emotional support. Let him cry it out with you. Talk about things, don't let him keep it inside, it's not good for his health you know.

Crying is a healing process. I'm not saying he will ever heal completely, but I'm sure his father wanted to see him succeed in life. So tell him that he must be strong, to take care of the family, and keep the spirit of his dad alive.

His dad will ALWAYS be there with him, in his heart. So keep him alive. Be happy, and his dad will be happy too.

When his father looks down at him from heaven, he should feel satisfied and proud. And that is what should keep them going.

It's a tough time, and you being there could help him thru all the pain he must be suffering inside.

Once, a friend of mine's dad died. They couldn't sleep at nights. I gifted her a pillow on which I stitched a quote; a therma, with hot chocolate, and a quilt that said God Bless You. It made her smile, and made her feel happy that I was doing all that I could. See, it took a small gesture to atleast put a smile on a face which hadn't smiled in days. The healing will start something like this, Slowly.

Remember, these are the times of trial. YOU must be strong. I'll mail you if I can find any more quotes. God Bless You.

2006-11-15 16:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by Yvonne Mystic 4 · 0 0

Your best friend is probably feeling lost, alone, and a bit hollow right now. Most of the time people grieving get a lot of gifts, flowers, and quotes, so they seem to flow together meaningless.

The best thing you can do is just be a best friend. Say "whatever you need, i'll be there" and wait. Go to the memorial, or funeral or whatever and just be there. Whenever your friend needs to talk, just listen. Don't be overwhelmed by your friend's tragedy, just be yourself and do the normal things you do as a friend. Whenever you are in a group and people act awkward because they are not sure what to do or say, be the conversation starter.

If all else fails, tell him "your dad knows you love him. He's watching over your shoulder right now." And if he still needs cheering up, crouch behind his shoulder and do your best impersonation of his dad to make him laugh.

2006-11-15 17:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

That's sad. the best thing you could do is be there for whatever they might need. Call when your not around to see if they need anything, cook for them, babysit, whatever to make life a little more bearable. I don't think a gift would be necessary and you don't want to make them feel as if now they have to be all polite and appreciative. when someone you love dies you for the most part want to kick some a@* and not have to watch your p's and Q's. I'm not very good at quotes or scriptures but I'm sure if you searched online you can find many

2006-11-15 16:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0 0

You can continue to be supportive of your friend and help her through this hard time. Some simple gifts could be something personalized, like a card or an item that is meaningful to them. I know this quote doesn't sound uplifting, but it's sweet: The best memories are the one's you can't explain, you just had to be there.

2006-11-15 16:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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2016-10-04 00:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

sorry to hear that your friend's dad died of cancer. My dad was diagnosed with cancer too. The best thing for you to do is to always be there for your friend and his family. Sometimes gifts is not necessarily the case of trying to make them happy again. Try looking online for good qoutes on spiritual beliefs hopefully it will make things better. Try to help out in your friends house or even with the funeral preparations. It will show them that you really care for them as a friend.

2006-11-15 16:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by lipzykins 2 · 0 0

As hard as it is, the best gift you can give him is yourself. If you want to do something, cook a meal for them. People in grief find it difficult to do every day tasks as thier pain is all consuming. Just be there...let your friend pour out his soul to you if he needs to. You don't have to say anything. Just sympathize. Believe me, just not being alone with your thoughts is what they need right now, as they have every minute of the day to be alone with them when you are not there.

You can buy nice little books with sayings in them and lovely pictures too...but doing little things for them around the house or running an errand will be so much more appreciated. Don't ask, just go over there, see what they need and do it.

2006-11-15 17:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'm truly sorry about your friend. My mom passed away from cancer about 14 yrs ago. I was pretty shaken up when it happened. As the years advanced, I learned to cope with the pain of loss. Someone told me that when a person leaves us it's like a hole in our lives. When it first happens, we keep falling into that hole, but, later on, even though that hole is still there, we learn to walk around it.
The best thing that you can do for your friend is to just be present. Reassure your friend that her father is watching over her.

2006-11-15 16:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

WOW! I'm very sorry for ur loss. I don't even have anything that I could say to help but I just know if I were in a situation like that I would just like to know that u were there in case I need u. But don't push,just be available. And lots of hugs help. Sorry I wasn't much help.

2006-11-15 16:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by same girl/new name :) 5 · 0 0

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