ive been in love with my closest girl friend since i met her 3 yrs ago. At first, i didnt know her too well but for some reason i was attracted to her a lot. She's not a typical girl that cares so much about her looks, its the emotional connection that i fell in love with.
The thing is that, last year i told her that i loved her with all my heart. She said she had to think about it and after a week or so, she rejected me (kindly) but it was the single worst feeling i have ever felt in my life.
We grew so close as we opened up to each other and we talk about everything and anything. I have never felt so close to someone as i do to her. Ive had crushes and i know that this is NOT at all a crush. I would have been over her in a week or at the most a month but for some reason i cant get over her.
I, being my dumb self couldnt take the pain and asked her not once but two times after the 1st time she said no(same answer). We are still really close friends but everyday it hurts
2006-11-15 16:30:11 · 9 answers · asked by My Answers are always right. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im not sure what to do, she's been through so much in her life that in some ways i can relate but in others I never thought a person could go through so much pain, i always tell her that im there for her and that whenever she needs to talk ill be there waiting and listening to every word she has to say. Ive questioned my love and thought about it being infatuation but every day that i look at her and talk to her, it makes me love her even more.
ive tried not talking to her but when ever i do this the pain is unbearable to just stand there and not talk to her about everything. She means everything to me and i dont know if leaving her alone would solve anything. She depends on me so much as i do her. its a desperate anguish to stand there day after day trying to get over her. I love her endlessly and hopelessly. im always going to love her. She's so different from every other girl ive ever met and she's the only one that i can see myself spend the rest of my life with
2006-11-15 16:52:45 · update #1
the hardest thing in the world for you to do is to move on and stop speaking to her, but you need to do the hardest thing. I was in a similar situation, It's going to be very hard at first but it's what you have to do. Learn to live a life without her, until you are able to view her as just a friend, because you will probably never get over her being around her all the time.
2006-11-15 16:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, I feel for ya! I know this doesn't help to tell you it happens all the time, but it does! The problem is, is that people always want what they can't have. It's some kind of challenge thing, so the "nice" people kind of get left behind. Especially women are like this. At least until they get much older. Right now, your just a plain Mr. Nice Guy, who she would miss if gone, but mainly because you are her "friend". Putting her on the spot like that is causing her to be uncomfortable, because she does not feel that way about you. (sexual) But, time goes on, and if I were you, I would put your feelers out, and leave the door open for other opportunities! What will you do when she starts dating someone more serious? Be prepared? Just maybe if you did, her heart might wake up!!??
2006-11-15 16:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand, but do you want to lose a friend in the process of gaining a love??
Listen, I can't tell you to stop loving her, it's not possible, is it? So, hang in there, since you're great friends, show her everyday that you really care about her.
Women don't realize it, but they end up falling in love with their best friends most of the time. Its because you know the other so well from before, and you're comfortable with them.
Everyday is a journey, pull yourself thru'. She will fall in love with you sometime. But untill then, if you fall out of love with her, it's OK, don't worry about it.
It's really painful, I know. Atleast you get to see her everyday. I've been alone for 3 years now, and everyday the pain gets worse, coz I never really did give it a shot. I gave up to early. :-(
GoodLuck and God Bless.
2006-11-15 16:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Yvonne Mystic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to stay friends. Is this really worth losing your friend over? Man, I was in the same situation as you with one of my guy friends...the only thing is I asked him once and then we haven't spoken since. I wish I hadn't, though, because now he feels awkward around me, and even though I still talk to him, all he does is nod and shake his head now. Losing him as a friend hurt far worse than him rejecting me. I regret it now, and I hope you don't make the same mistake I did.
2006-11-15 16:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kayari of Midnight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actual have been in that place in the previous and that i could say, I hated it. the reality the guy i grew to become into deeply infatuated with felt no longer something grew to become into heart breaking. I felt insecure by way of fact I couldnt comprehend why 'X' didnt love me. Felt emotionally exhausted after making alot attempt and getting so linked.specific, its lonely.
2016-10-22 04:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This my friend is why we date. Clearly you are in love with her but she is not in love with you. That is why we date different people. Some girls have been madly in love with you and you haven't cared for them--other times YOU'VE been in love with a girl and they haven't been so hot for you. But If you keep at it and just be yourself, you will meet someone that is ga-ga for you and at the same time you are ga-ga for them. THAT is who you marry. If you marry a one-sided romance it will last a couple of years and then you will get divorced and keep looking.
2006-11-15 16:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Curious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's harsh...As a girl my best advice would be to quit asking her if she has feelings for you.. i don't know what she feels towards you or anything but if i were you i'd stop risking what ya'll have going on.. because she might start to feel awkward about it
2006-11-15 16:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by alejandra0026 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i think u should give her more time and maybe after all she has some feelings for u..for now u should still befriend her and shhow to her that u love her and wait for her..show ur good qualities and maybe she will fall in love with u...
2006-11-15 16:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by ruth r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help your attraction, and she can't help not being attracted. You might have to start weaning yourself away so you don't go through hell all the time.
2006-11-15 16:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋