Guys? This is for you...?

Question

I sometimes get to the point where I hate how I look. I wonder how my boyfriend is still attracted to me. Sometimes when I'm really frustrated about it, I mention how much it bugs me that I feel too thin, or that I broke out. (But I don't complain all the time or anything) I do what I can to take care of it, but I was just wondering if you guys get turned off more when you hear us mention things like that. or does it sort of let you know that at least we're trying to look alright?

Should I just learn to forget about my imperfections? What would you think if it was your girlfriend that did this?

Answer 1

I'll be straight to the point here. When we hear girls saying 'i look like this i look like that' thats an instant turn off, along with the classical male-destroying question 'do i look fat?'

What you need to realise is that EVERYONE has imperfections, whether it be mental/physical etc. They may seem perfect on the outside but you dont know exactly what they're going through inside. So, dont put yourself down like that, you're better than that. Have some self confidence! We like to see girls that are fun and playful to be with, and as for your boyfriend, if he didnt like the person you are, do you think he'd be with you?!? The answer is staring you right in the face! Take care and B Positive =D

Answer 2

I'd sell off him asap. If he likes yet another woman and she or he him, WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? Real love does not play video games or have wandering eyes, it is dedicated and difficult paintings. You MUST see this as a pink flag, a deal breaker, strike 3. Your younger, i am guessing, you should not also be for the reason that a SERIOUS courting that's going to intent you lack of confidence. Have a laugh, do not grow to be overly invested on this, WHAT? you can not flirt? Move on, the writing is at the wall and it spells main issue. Do your self a desire and reduce the man free, whether it is destined to be, it is going to run it is path and he will be again. But why you might take him again most effective you'll reply.

Answer 3

1) You are a girl; you're supposed to care about how you look, (it's not you, it's your package).
2) To mention it is o.k. to make it a part of your relationship is not. - You do have a boyfriend right?
3) He is probably fine with how you look or he would/should be mentioning it.
- I had a situation where she would actually get pissed-off about her weight (mostly) and being un-fit athletically.. I really did not want to hear it because I couldn't do anything about it.. She would never stick to any routine exercise and always made the comment that I should do it with her (not my thing).. It didn't help the relationship but it wasn't a "deal breaker" either; it was just a little frustrating for me; I'm not going to be responsible for how you look.
She was a little over weight but as far as I was concerned she carried it in all the right places.. I sure wasn't complaining.

Answer 4

I hate it when girls do this. They think they are too fat or too ugly or too whatever. Because if your boyfriend really loves you he will still be with you even if you broke out or whatever. So in my opinion you should just learn to forget about the imperfections.

Answer 5

Just try to be the best 'you' that you can be, but don't get too caught up in it. Its ok to make mention of whats on your mind, but keep the negative comments about yourself to a minimum. You are looking at what you see as your bad points. He is with you because of the good things that he sees. If your comments or actions are interfering (sp?) with your relationship, then you are definitely carrying it too far.

Answer 6

I had/still have the same problem. My self esteem gets so low that I wonder how I could POSSIBLY be attractive. At our wedding, someone said TO MY Face, "good LORD! What happened to you? You got FAT?"

Now to your question...

Don't forget your imperfections. They are a part of you! Learn to love them. In fact, learn to love yourself NAKED. Seriously--some night strip down and look at yourself naked from all angles. Ones you are able to love yourself naked, it doesn't matter what imperfections you have. You are beautiful no matter HOW you look.

Honestly, my husband stopped me from saying "God I'm so far and ugly." He told me one night, "You know I love you. You are beautiful no matter how you look. You are the muse of classic painters, and I couldn't ask for a better partner" From then on, I didn't care what other people though.

You ARE gorgeous! Those imperfections? Nothing--you may think you have those little problems, but some people are jealous of you because you are YOU! Don't let other people's insecurities get to you.

EVENTUALLY you'll learn to love yourself just as you are, no matter how what your flaws. Remember: we all have our flaws!

Answer 7

sonelleno: You are lacking love in your relationship .. that is why you are focused on your looks to gain self worth from. I would hold you close to me and snuggle you, look into your eyes and tell you just, how much you mean to me then, give you such a kiss, that you would get dizzy from it - that's what I would do to you if you were my girl. As far as, looks go, you have to keep your self neat and clean - that's all. Be YOU ! Don't beat yourself up !

Answer 8

i believe that you must try to forget about your imperfections... coz i'm sure no one in these world is perfect.. sometimes man are looking for a women not only because she is beautiful but how much he can enjoy the togetherness...

Answer 9

forget the imperfections- if you are still going out with your boyfriend, he probably doesn't care about minor imperfections

Answer 10

I believe it is okay to want to feel good, but its annoying if you continue bragging about it. Especially if you keep telling it at us, we might think you want assurance and attention. And it looks so unconfident. Confident women are very attractive. So try to look good by doing your things, but dont brag about feeling ugly. And lastly, feel good about yourself, it shows how confident and attractive you are.