ladies, i need your honest opinions?

Question

there's 2 girls who i have a chance with.

the first girl is 1 year older than me and she goes to my college. she's smart, mild-mannered, and actually quite pretty. i have a great time with her and feel confident that she won't cheat on me because she's a virgin. but she doesn't like to go to parties and gets really jealous anytime i even mention another girl's name.

the second girl is 3 years older than me and she's smoking hot, but she lives back at home which is 3 hours away. she has a job and is out in the "real" world. she gets me into clubs and buys me drinks. she's a lot of fun and is very experienced in bed. but she does a lot of things i wouldn't do (like drugs) and feel she won't wait for me to come back to have a little "action."

who do you think i should pursue? i have no idea and it boggles my mind. i'm usually against people posting questions of their personal problems on the internet, but i'm desperate! please help me!

by the way, i'm 19. the first girl is 20 and the second girl is 22.

Answer 1

neither sounds all that great.
drugs.bad.
jealousy.bad.

If you can find girls that are so different, and they're both so good looking. I'd hold out and wait till I find someone that's the whole package.

But if you do pick one or the other, don't give in to doing drugs cause she thinks you should, and don't give in to cutting yourself off from all other girls cause she thinks you should. just don't change for anyone. that simple. :)

Answer 2

Honestly, I think you shouldn't pursue either one. You're not ready for the first girl. You sound like you still want to play the field and she's ready to settle. So someone's gonna get their heart broken and if you two do end up getting together and you're not finished sowing your oats, you'll feel like she may have held you back. Then, you may end up breaking up and somewhere down the road, you may end up feeling like she's "the one that got away". So that's a catch 22 waiting to happen. Don't open a can of worms there. Especially since no major feelings are involved.

As for the second girl, 3 hours??? That's too damn far. And on top of that, she does drugs and she won't wait for you. So you'll definitely get cheated on with her and she may end up hurting your ego with that. Which means she may ruin you for your next relationship(s) down the line. This one's definitely bad news.

If you just want to have a little "action" don't go with either. Explore other options. Find someone who's in the middle. Not too cold, not too hot. But just right. Right for now anyway. You're still young so enjoy it and have the time of your life.

Answer 3

Girl 2 on drugs.... the answer NO comes to mind. There is nothing good coming from her & she want be smoking hot long if she keeps up!
Girl 1 a virgin.... Good ole fashion girl Yes! The jealousy thing might become an issue so I would let her know up front that it bothers you. Good Luck

Answer 4

Hey, u have the answer in your question itself! U have understood the difference between them.. I think u should think straight.. Like, what kind of relationship are u expecting? Faithfull Or just the FUN part?? U had mentioned that the 1st one is in college, So dont u prefer someone who is committed to u & her studies. Maybe she has a good reason to not attend parties.. I really think you should stay away from the 2nd girl, she might drag u in to drugs. Or may be your only ONE of the guys in her list. I'm happy that your trying to take only one side. So make your choice..

Oh,,., dont think too much about the JEALOUS part.. (We dont like to share somethin very precious to us) once she 's convinced that your love is true & pure & is only upon her, She'll be proud of u. But u hv to work on that,, really really hard..

Good Luck...

Answer 5

WHY WOULD YOU HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT I GUESS EVEN GOOD GIRLS COME IN LAST I WOULD SAY GO FOR THE FIRST GIRL EVEN THOUGH YOU MIGHT NOT GET ANY ACTION FOR A WHILE IT WOULD BE WORTH THE WAIT. I'M THAT KIND OF GIRL I HAVE A GREAT JOB MAKE GOOD MONEY GOOD MORALS WILL NEVER CHEAT AND I LIKE TO GO TO CLUBS ONCE IN A WHILE BUT NOT ALL THE TIME VERY JEALOUS THOUGH NO VIRGIN BUT I KNOW ONE DAY I WILL FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL APPRECIATE ME MY FUTURE HUSBAND WILL BE REAL HAPPY.

Answer 6

Depends on what you are after, you could pursue the first one and maybe have a wonderful girlfriend who turns out to be a complete psycho, or have fun with a hottie who may want to settle down after all. You just never know, play the field and have fun in college.

Answer 7

Looks are'nt everything. In 20 years do you want to be with someone is still weraing mini's and smoking pot. Choose the intelligent girl. the key to any great relationship is trust and conversation. Besides the great ron white says you just cant fix stupid. And on my own note doing drugs is stupid and a waste of money and your life.

Answer 8

I'd go with the first girl. After all, girl #2 could get you into more trouble than she's worth if she's into drugs.

Answer 9

i think the second one would end up breaking your heart. and why would you want to have a long distance relationship with a druggie, who apparently parties alot, that you would only see sometimes and spend the rest of you time wondering what, or who shes doing. when you could have a sweet girl, that lives where you do, that you can spend tiem with, that isnt a slut.... hows that a hard question buddy?

Answer 10

What is it with the older girls?

I think you go for the one a year older than you. She sounds nicer, and if she likes you back she might go to some of the parties with you...if you are nice.