i have a boyfriend that is moving for a year...what do i do?

Question

well he is leaving in the summer and coming back the summer of 2008 i am scared that i will lose his love if he meets someone else or that he wont come back like he says he will. what do you think i should do? and do you think he will actually come back?

Answer 1

here is my advice, advice from a friend who has been put thru a similar situation. my bf almost went to Michigan or TX State University and all i could do is break up and cry behind closed doors. look, in his eyes you have to be strong and if you love him you should be able to trust him and in your heart think that nothing bad will happen! if you keep on wondering what happens wherever he is and who he is with and if he is cheating on you you come out as really insecure and push him away after a while! you should be happy for him and for what what he is doing not sad! be a good gf and spend lots of time with him before time runs out, surprise him with a nice dinner or a picnic or something simple yet where you two spend quality time together! here is what my mom told me and for me it came true because my bf went to the same university as me, but her words of wisdom are: if he loves you he will come back to you ! and yes i think he is coming back! it will be hard and difficult on both of you and him too but he will not show it,trust me! you have to go through this and let him go and grow and you grow as a person too and in the end he will come back to you! do not think of the negative outcome but rather of the positive, be happy that he is happy or for him, spend time with him, trust him, do not question him and remember that the Bible says that "....love never fails" in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8!

Answer 2

My girlfriend is a year into her 27 month "tour of duty" in the Peace Corps, so I've got some experience in this arena. I'd say you two have to talk and decide on the rules, so to say, when it comes to seeing other people. If you're both cool with seeing other people than go ahead and do it. Just try to trust him and to not drive yourself crazy with jealousy wondering what he's up to. If you're going to try to stay committed than you have to have an extreme level of trust. Try to stay in contact as much as possible through e-mail. Handwritten letters are also great since they are more personal. You may also want to consider investing in some "toys" because it is a very long time to go without intimacy... trust me!

Answer 3

Hey I can't say that he would come back but if you are that insecure then you should go along with him.It could be a good thing for you two so that you could bond more if you are at age to do so anyway.Long term relationships are hard but if you are going into it then I have one thing to say dig your heals in because surprise, suprise you have to be strong and trusting as well as understanding that he would ahve friends as you will also you have to be trust worthy and always honest.
1. Be strong because you have to be there for him as well because you aren't alone in the relationship.
2. Be trusting because its the foundation of every relationship and it should be for yours as well.
3. Be understanding that he would have friends because its going to be very tough on him not to have friends out there and because of it you are having a war.It would distroy your relationship.
4. You have to be trustworthy because you need to be for the both of you so that he would be expexcting you to be faithful and he would do the same.
5. Honesty is always the best policy. You see if he finds out that you ahve told lies to him he might loose trust in you and slowly loose trust and faith in your relationship. That is also a way to destroy your relationship.
These types of relationships take time and a lot of effort and I'm telling if you aren't ready for this and you can't go with him then you can wait for him to come back. But my suggestion is that you go along or try having a long distance relationship because there is nop rel;ationship that is easy.

Answer 4

i would terminate the relationship now....u will both miss each other at 1st but after a while u will both gradually realize that u can live without each other...when u do meet up again after a year ur relationship will not be the same as at least 1 of u would have been unfaithful & it will upset the other 1 too much as ur trust will have gone...

Answer 5

Do you trust him?

What I think you should do? I think you should trust yourself AND trust him. Without trust, your relationship and your sanity are going to crumble.

He's coming back in the summer of 08--you said so yourself.

Listen, honest--you really need to trust him. You need to get over these insecurities. He loves you, no? You are a couple, no? Then he will be faithful to you. You NEED to trust him. You are going to KILL yourself with worry if you don't.

Answer 6

hey dear...relax yourself..dnt ride a horse...when it comes to relationships..it is all about the keyword TRUST..if he is of the kind who might ditch you and get another gal ...well..in that case,i would say u r lucky that u escaped the dude in time..what if such a thing happens post marriage?..god forbids..consider urself lucky in either case sweetie..if he goes away..let him go..that means he is not worth..and if he comes back..then he is ur true love...dnt try to bind things..u can never inject feelings...it either exists..or it does not...jus cool ur self and let situations take its course...and i m praying here with all my heart that u will get what u deserve.
all the best
cheers

Answer 7

Wish him luck, give him a kiss and send him off. Date other people and write often. Once he comes back, if there is something there then go for it.

Answer 8

You should find another boyfriend. A year is a long time in our short lives.