how can i become a better daughter?

Question

Me and parents are arguing like most teens do, but the arguments are a constant nonstop with me and my Dad, i mean most of the time its seems he just doesnt seem to care about whats important to me, but I know that God doenst want me to disrespect him, but its so hard not to talk back, because i want him to understand, i pray for strentgh to not get upset and to please him and agree with him even though i completley disagree with him in my mind, but i still need some advice, what do i do?, advice or link to websites with articles would help, i just want to be a true christian daughter.

Answer 1

IS EVERY BODY CHRISTIAN IN THE FAMILY ,?IF SO SEAT DOWN AND TALK ,WITH BOTH OF THEM,SEEM THAT YOU HAVE MORE PEACE OF MIND THAN THEY DO

Answer 2

How sweet of you to worry about being a better daughter. You are probably already a wonderful daughter. How can you know what is in the mind of an adult or your father? You are a teenager and have your own teenager concerns (school, grades, taking care of your health, family responsibilities). Many adult concerns are not teenager concerns. These adult concerns tend to make adults crabby and bad communicators. I have heard of a Buddhist exercise where a person in conflict mentally "steps back" out of the situation to observe the situation without passing judgment for a period of time (minutes, days,weeks - whatever you can stand). This way you don't react to your parents thus fueling their arguments with you. You can think about your observations of the situation later when there is less pressure to act impulsively during the argument. This is a big thing to ask a teenager to do -- most adults can't do it -- but I think it will help you diffuse your side of the arguing. You really can't control your parents (or anyone for that matter), you can only control yourself. I am not a religious person, but you sound like a respectful, caring and loving daughter to me. I suspect your father feels the same and his conflict with you is based on trying to protect you in some way whether he is wrong or right.

I will go give my own teenage daughter an extra hug and try to find out what is important to her next time we argue. Thanks for the reminder.

Answer 3

You are probably just fine the way you are. Pray about something more important, like world peace. As long as you get good grades, stay out of serious trouble, and do your chores, there is no reason to argue! Parents can be stupid sometimes. Sometimes if you just bite the bullet and look like you are agreeing... It's better to not argue all the time! It's a fine art to learn to pick your fights.

Answer 4

You are a great daughter just for asking this question. What about telling your dad you love him and want to stop arguing with him. Ask him if the two of you can designate times to talk to each other freely about what is on your mind and how you are feeling.

During an arguement, it is hard to communicate effectively but if you can have times to sit and talk outside of arguements then maybe it can repair your relationship.

If nothing else, write a letter. it seems weird to write a letter to your parents but sometimes we come across much more clear in writing. Good luck to you and your dad!

Answer 5

The best thing you can do is to show your parents you are a responsible level headed girl and reinforce this at all times by doing well at schoolwork, dress and speak modestly and avoid committing anything against your parents wishes.
This is not the time to teach them lessons. This is the time for you to learn discipline even if it seems unfair to you now.
You will be happier later on in life. You'll see.

Answer 6

Keep praying about it and if you feel you can find the right moment to talk to your Dad about the issues you are facing then do so. It would be wise to find a moment when he is relaxed and in a good mood and not when you are having a disagreement.

God bless you for diligently seeking to obey Him and do what is right in His eyes. God may soften your dads heart and allow him to see your point of view.

Answer 7

Good on you for trying to find an answer, God sees that you're trying hard and remembers that you do this in obedience to him, we as Christians do well to try to live by the Bible, do what you are already doing keep on praying to God, he will show you what he wants you to do.Your father deserves your respect him no matter what his view, he is the head of the family. unfortunately earthly fathers are human and because of imperfection act and make wrong choices at times, but by respecting your father you are following God's advice, and if you keep trying not to react you will go a long way to becoming more and more a good daughter, do Pray to your heavenly Father for strength and pour your heart to him, I know how hard it is not to talk back to your father but it might help to remember that when you show disrespect you are actually disrespecting God, because God put your father in charge of your family, try to hold your toungue, as much as you can and ask for help from God, you may even find that, if you do manage to hold your tongue and you can, do anything with God's help, your relationship with your father will improve very much, you do not say if your father is a Christian but if he is not then by your good conduct you may help him to see that it is beneficial to Follow God's advice.Your father may even seek to have a relationship with God to, many good things come out of good behaviour and conduct! The best can come only from God and he tells us the best ways to lead a happy life in his word the Bible following God's council in the Bible we can benefit greatly from God's wise instruction! and by learning self control we can also become better people.
Warm Christian Love Vesna

Answer 8

maybe if you are able to sit down and talk with your parents when things are not heated on how you feel and that you desire to respect them and you are trying hard to not be disrespectful. prayer of course is key. and possibly understanding that it is okay to disagree with your parents. as a teenager you are beginnng to see the world differently and you are now seeing your parents in a different light. it is important though to not try to prove who you think is right or wrong. timing is everything. pray for the right time to talk with your parents that you may communicate your desire to be respectful and your feelings. i'm assuming your parents are christians. if they are not, your desire to change you to be pleasing to God will show to them through your desire to be respectful. i know God is pleased with your desire to be a true christian daughter. it takes time and you are going through so many different changes in this time in your life. i too have a teen daughter and recognize that i have to listen to her now more as an adult rather than a child. it 's sometimes hard on us parents to see our little girls grow up, and we parents aren't always so graceful. keep pressing on!

Answer 9

You've got a good head on your shoulders. Sounds like your dad is a very blessed man. The Bible doesn't say honor your father and mother only when they agree with you and only if they are perfect. Honor your father and mother. Just be respectful of them and chances are you'll get it back.

Answer 10

Pray for your Parents to be filled with peace..And ask the Lord to take off of them what ever it is they are dealing with...Just everyday living is enough for them to be stressed out ...Bills and things and Now Christmas is right around the corner...Our Children don't think about these things because the parents don't want you to worry with them .But try to listen to what it is they are saying and pray about it for them...When things get bad just block it out by saying Jesus over and over and over and I promise it will fade away. But you have to keep saying His name and don't get discouraged keep saying it tell it goes away God bless you in your learning About our Lord...And God bless the U>S>A>and Israel and all...And may Jesus light shine own you always Sweetie...

Answer 11

Just hold your tongue. As a muslim, when we are upset, we are told to sit if standing, lay down if sitting, or stand if laying down. Basically, just change your posture and position (of course not there on the spot) and get a cool glass of water.

Good for you for actually caring and trying to be a good daughter. Not too many teens like you anymore.