How can I stop my 2 1\2 year old to just stop it all?

Question

MY DAUGHTER TENDS TO BEAT HER HEAD ON WHATEVER SHE IS CLOSEST TO WHEN MAD. I AM SO AFRAID SHE IS GONNA END UP WITH A CONCUTION. SHE WILL NOT LISTEN TO ONE THING WE TELL HER. IT WOULD BE DIFFERENT IF SHE DIDN'T KNOW WHAT WE WERE SAYING BUT SHE DOES BECAUSE SHE DOES WHAT WE ASK WHEN WE BRIBE HER. SHE WILL POINT HER FINGER IN OUR FACE AND SAY THINGS LIKE...HUSH YOUR MOUTH ...I'M NOT..ETC.... I KNOW SOME OF THE THINGS SHE SAYS IS WHAT SHE HAS HEARD BUT HOW DO WE STOP HER FROM SAYING IT? SHE WILL ALSO SAY EVERY CUSS WORD SHE HAS HEARD. EVERYONE SAYS WELL SHE IS ONLY REPEATING WHAT SHE HAS HEARD AND SHE DON'T KNOW ANY BETTER BUT SHE DOES BECAUSE SHE WILL SAY EVERY CUSS WORD SHE KNOWS ALL AT ONE TIME NOT JUST CASUALLY REPEATING IT. I VERY SELDOM SLIP BUT BETWEEN HER DAD, NANNY, AND OTHERS I CAN'T HELP HER EARS NOT TO HEAR SUCH. I JUST WANT TO KNOW HOW TO CALM HER DOWN WITH IT ALL...

Answer 1

First you need to STOP the bribing fo you are enpowering your child-if she behaves badly eventually she will get something nice from you-the reason this period is referred to as the terrible two is due that around approaching 2yrs children discover by the REACTIONS of the parents their Power and at the same time they are attempting to assert their individuality by rebelling. Its human nature that when we see a rection by something we do we test the effectiveness of what we do by doing it again-the same reaction and soon we discover we can manipulate the grownups.It is also the time when the child begins Negative Attention Seeking Behaviours-like when she curses she gets so much attention and why she will do it----Attention from the people around us is a much wanted thing even if its negative attention. You need to ,ater you stop the bribing,begin to consequent her. Tell her once that when she curses or bangs her head or does any behaviour that is not nice she will have to go to the Naughty Place-you can pick a area that is central to where you spend most of the time so its in your vicinity--you can even make a banner or a poster that says Naughty Place to mark that as where she will go and the very next time she behaves badly instruct her you will not curse-and to go to the naughty place-may be necessary for you to physically take her and take her and so on until she stays in the naughty place _once she realizes by you or any other adult involved in raising her repeatedly putting her in the naughty place she will stay and even if she bangs her head-has to go to the naughty place -for approx 4-8 min. for the time isn't important but that there is a immediate consequence where she stays,ignored is. when her time is over tell her to say sorry and then go about the rest of the day. She may test you quite a bit-do not waver fo the key to changing behaviour is Consistency. Also when she is behaving nicely tell her and how much you appreciate it give her a hug-But No treat for to her the Hug will mean more than a treat and eventually she will act in the way she is acknowledged as being a good and getting hugs.The treats are also off limits for you've already bribed her and that needs to be done away with. The change will not happen over night and to raise her is a ongoing thing but by being Firm consequenting, complimenting her good behaviour, PLAYING with her-most important she has shared with you enjoyable fun and games and the such. Wish you loads of success

Answer 2

She has what is called the terrible twos - Do NOT bribe her to do the right thing you are just making it worse- next time pick her up and set her on her bed tell her you sit there until you can do as you are told - as far as the head banging she is doing it to get a reaction out of you act as if you could care less - its like the old " I will hold my breath till I pass out " trick , they don't pass out.
And the same for the cussing show no reaction - and she will see it doesn't bother you and stop.

Answer 3

My almost 2 yr old son used to have that head banging problem. The best advice I could give is encourage it. My son would bang his head on he flor, tables walls, and even people. We tried everything to get him to stop. We tried time ous, getting on to him for it, just random things that epople usually say try. Nothing worked. He had huge bumps on his head, bruises, and I hated taking him places. Finally we started telling him to bang his head. then he would and we would tell him to bang it harder. After a few days of this he stopped. We think he decided that we wanted him to do that and to defy us he wouldn't bang his head.

My three year old picks up cuss words and other phrases. He used to call everyone poop head. Now its "damn" to everything. How we got him to stop with the poop head was ignoring him. We made such a big deal about him saying it he thought it was funny, so we stopped and just went on like it was nrmal. He would sit thee and scream it but finally quit.

Good Luck with everything!!

Answer 4

stop bribing her. that was a mistake, then she has the power and it takes away from you being the athority figure. take all her "cool" stuff away. (t.v., radio, fav. toy, ect...) , when you tell her something once and she does not listen then go over there and calmly and calmly "make" her. take her hands and make her pick up the first couple of objects, then tell her you expect her to do the rest, if she throws a fit then sit there till shes through. then tell her again. keep at it, eventually she will get that your not backing down and she will do what you ask of her.

Answer 5

at that age the child is expressing frustration at their inability
to communicate. their mind is developing faster then their
verbal skills. It would help the child if you would teach them how to
communicate by using their hand to make sign langusge.

for example , point to the mouth means taste, or talk ,
point to the ears means hear or listen. point to the eyes means
to see. ...teach her a richer vocabulary and make it fun.

Answer 6

ur daughter is picking up on bad habits that u shouldn't keep around her and is also seeking attention. i think she might benefit from going to a child behaviorist so she can find other ways to deal with her emotions so its not a long term thing.

Answer 7

Use the 123 Magic method. You can find it online.

Answer 8

You might be having problems within your family sometimes children throw temper tantrums just to get our attention-but it is normal for her age to have a temper tantrum....

Answer 9

sounds like she neads a spanking