I had my son nine months ago. Luckily I basically lost all of my pregnancy weight shortly after having him so I could still fit into my pre-pregnancy clothes. I love looking nice and feeling pretty--and I do but I have not bought a single new shirt, pair of jeans, or shoes since he was born. I have no clue why but I just cannot shop for myself anymore--where as my husband can (for himself) and does all the time. I really know I should be getting some new clothes but it's really hard for me. Has anyone else gone through this? What did you do to feel better about wanting something new just for yourself?
2006-11-15 15:44:14 · 8 answers · asked by .vato. 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I feel the same way. I think that my children are growing so fast that they need new clothes more than I do. I guess the best thing to do is to jsut start small. Like get yourself some new underwear or bras, then work up to the bigger stuff. I also don't like to spend a lot so I often just get a shirt or something while I am grocery shopping at walmart or somehting, Then I don;'t feel as bad as I am still getting stuff for the family then too.
2006-11-15 15:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by mktk401 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from.I have an 11 month old daughter and am having a boy in Feb. plus my boyfreinds 3 boys(ages6,4,3)live with us. When ever we go shopping and I see something I like my boyfreind says well then get it and I tell him no cause we will soon have 5 kids that will need clothes,shoes,toys,diapers,ect. and he don't understand why I feel guilty about buying myself stuff but can buy the kids stuff all the time.I don't do anything to make myself feel better cause the way I look at it is as long as my boyfreind and our kids have everything they need then thats all that matters and makes me happy.
2006-11-16 10:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by Dixie H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I want to get a bunch of frivolous stuff, I always go second hand. If I want something really nice, I think about what it is I really want and go looking just for that.
What really works for me the most, however, is to go through my closet a few times a year and gather everything I'm sick and tired of wearing and sell it all at a consignment store. Then, when they send me the check for my clothes I spend it all on new stuff GUILT FREE, because really I just did a "clothing trade."
Something else you might want to try - Christmas is coming soon, and it is so easy to make really nice beaded jewelry and earrings and stuff for female friends and relatives. I make a lot of stuff for other people, but I always keep my best creations for me, and nothing feels better than dressing up boring clothes with gorgeous accessories that people compliment you on that you yourself made.
2006-11-16 09:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 11 years and 2 children, I still find it hard to do for myself at times. Back then, I never did. I know how you feel there are so many mommies that do the same thing. It is something you have to overcome on your own. Try every time you buy the baby something, buy yourself one thing, just to break back into doing for yourself some.
2006-11-15 23:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way!!!! It's like you would rather buy for your child then buy for yourself. I feel this is a good thing. Obviously you know what your priority is and sometimes I think its our motherly instinct to do this. I had my son 6 months ago and I have only bought 1 pair of jeans since because I lost more weight and weight less then I do before i got pregnant. So now I just wash 1 pair of jeans! My mom says she is going to buy me clothes for Christmas because I won't buy for myself. But see she is like me and won't buy for herself but she will gladly buy for her kids. And so the cycle continues!
2006-11-16 13:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single dad and I have been raising my daughter for 18 years and I still feel guilty if I get something for myself. My clothes look like crap but I can't make myself buy new ones. And if I do force myself to buy something I end up feeling guilty.
2006-11-15 23:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by jare bare 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom just had her third kid within 12 years. and she shops for herself all the time. of course i dont remember if she shopped for herself when she first had me 12 years ago or 6 years ago when my sis was born, but she shops for herself all the time after just having my bro 3 weeks ago
2006-11-15 23:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Sydd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to motherhood! You are probably just so focused on your baby. Just go out there and buy something.
2006-11-15 23:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋