the thing is she says she lieks me. however, she has had bad expereince with bfs who used and dumped her. she wants to think thigns over and make sure its what she wants... does she like me and actually want to wait, or is she just putting me down softly?
2006-11-15 15:43:48 · 29 answers · asked by Robert Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is putting you down slowly, if you like someone you show them you dont leave them. So, sorry to say but, time for you to move on. It may not be you she just may not wan a relationship at all.
2006-11-15 15:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think honestly that she is putting you down softly. Which eventuates in more heartache for you by waiting. If she wanted you she would have told you there and then - no matter past experiences. Do you really need the baggage with her trying to sort her past out? The other thing is do you really want to be compared to her exes all the time - especially if you have a disagreement or anything? It's a sad fact, but if you wait for her now then you will wait for her the rest of your life.
However, I hope I am wrong and if you do wait, then I hope all is good and she is worth the wait
2006-11-15 23:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Nadia C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No,it just means that she needs time to consider whether or not youre the right man to go through all those emotional rides in a relationship all over again with..
Like you said that shes been hurt before. If you really really like her,wana be with her and think shes worth your time then you should give her some time,take it nice and slow coz you dont wana scare her away,do you ;)
Check with her again if you think shes taking way too long to consider,if she still says the same thing - you know what she means by that....."Sorry,Im just not interested in being involved at the moment.I still wana be your friend,though.''
2006-11-16 00:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it could be either. However, women do like to go slower and think things over more than men (in general-there's always exceptions!) Let her think, but that doesn't mean that you still can't be sweet, attentive, empathatic, interested, and interesting. Don't be pathetic, clingy, needy, and depressed however! Just depends on how much effort you are willing to put into it with the potential for no reward!
2006-11-15 23:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by punxy_girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes feeling insure.there may be some trust issue for her dur to past relationships.sometime a little tome apart 2-3 days may be enough to say i miss that person terribly or it may also send a feeling of relief-if the later winds up being the answer know that there wasnt anythink you could of done differently each peron is so unique due to theor enviroment and attitude during each sitation in life. good luck
2006-11-15 23:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not one to say if she's being truthful or not. Don't put your life on pause to wait, though. Doesn't mean you have to go "get some" right away just to feel better. (The only reason I say that is because I've done it in the past, and regretted it.) Go on with your life and keep your eyes and heart open to others who may come to you.
2006-11-15 23:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by swtgrl4321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably wants to wait, just to be on the safe side. If she needs to be alone to think things over, you have to respect that, but be there for her if she needs to talk. What it really comes down to is: relationships take time to develop, but if it's what she wants, she will say so. If not, you can still remain friends.
2006-11-15 23:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by Bird Brain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one, she is at least being honest with you and telling you why she is wanting to think things over. Give her time, as I am sure she has several wounds to heal from her past relationships that she probably doesn't want to dump onto your lap.
2006-11-15 23:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by phileprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say for certain, but most likely she doesn't find you as appealing as you do her. You asked the question, but I think you know the answer. Don't worry about it. If you choose to wait on her, then don't wait too long. Move on after awhile and don't dwell on it. You will find someone else.
2006-11-15 23:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Shiva07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have dumped her b4. She wants to make up her mind b4 getting in with u. She just needs time to think. If she likes u, then may in few days, she may say YES to u.. Dont worry.
2006-11-15 23:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by ashlesha19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋