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Question

My boyfriend has been caught emailing girls on myspace and text messaging girls, things that are really hurtful to me. He hasnt done anything physical but he asks them to hang out and lies to me when he gets caught. He tells me that he loves me and that he does it when hes "out of his head" I have given him a lot of chances and dont know what to do. WE live together and he has my engagement ring and is planning on proposing to me. I dont know what to do, Im very deeply in love with him and want to believe that he wont do it again, but I cant live constantly checking his phone and his myspace for other girls. Tonight I told him that I feel like second best and he got mad and told me that I just want attention and thats why I bring it up. HELP!

Answer 1

Well my dear, I am glad I am here. NOT because I plan to hit on you, because I'm not and won't, but because I have a similar story for you. I am now married. BUT, before we got married my wife and I bought our house 1 year prior to the wedding. Before that point, I had my doubts about wether or not she had cheated on me(i heard things and thought things). Well, she had and although it was not after we were engaged(I am pretty sure anyway) she had still been lying about it all the way. Finally, about 2-1/2 months AFTER we bought the house, I finally got her to admit she had cheated(much more than once) and had been lying about it the whole time. For quite sometime, I kept bringing it up . . . I just couldn't help it. I think it comes out because you are hurt. That seems to be the only way to get the hurt "out" of you by saying it or bringing it up. I knew in my heart that she was cheating when she was and I am sure now(well, 99%) that she has never done that again. I guess the biggest thing is that you still have a choice. I am assuming you do not "own" a house with him, right? if not, I would make sure you feel 100% sure in your heart that you are willing to trust him and feel like you will not have to worry about checking things like e-mails and text messages to know all is ok. Good luck!!

Answer 2

Walk away while you can. He's not treating you with any kind of respect. The claiming that he's messaging girls when he's "out of his head" is complete and utter bullshit. Even if his desire to meet with the girls was platonic, the fact that he's making excuses like that makes it seem really suspicious. And the fact that he got mad when you tried to have an honest conversation shows that he's obviously not mature enough to be in such a deep relationship. Pack your bags and leave, it's not going to get any better. Your trust is already fractured, why put yourself through the stress of always wondering if/when he's going to cheat on you?

Answer 3

i'm no longer a cheating spouse. yet tempted to accomplish that for some motives. So i'm going to respond to your question besides. a million. M husband isn't emotionally matured 2. He doesn;t be attentive to a thank you to safeguard me 3. he's not candy 4. We hardly have intercourse, and whilst we do, earlier I even get there, he's accomplished. 5. He prioritizes being along with his sister on particular occassions than be with me. 6. His mom sleeps with us interior the mattress room 7. His hair stinks 8. He does not paintings 9. He has a difficulty along with his temper 10. i'm falling out of love i think of those are 10 reliable motives that I now no longer could desire to justify to myself for leaving him. i'm an inch removed from that determination.

Answer 4

Anybody can say I love you.

They are just words.

The only way to prove that someone loves you is by showing you love.

The constant checking his emails and phone will never stop.

Deep down you will always suspect.

If you want to give a chance then go for it but if he slips again then it's time for you to take the walk.

Answer 5

Hopefully he will forget about proposing to you and maybe YOU will wake up and smell the coffee because BOTH of you are too immature for marriage and even too immature to be living together. I suggest YOU go back to your parents or get a place of your own and forget about any relationships until you grow up and know how to handle them, same goes for him.

Answer 6

from my own experience if you can't trust him let go. I tried it the other way taking his excuses and it got me alone during a pregnancy and 19months later a single mother of a beautiful baby boy who has no idea who his father is because he thinks the only way to be a part of my baby's life is if he has one with me as well I learned from my lesson follow your gut nine times out of ten it's right I wish I would have followed my gut feeling

Answer 7

Perhaps you should tell him, he** yeah you want his attention. Ask him why doesn't he start by giving you the time he's spending emailing all these other girls. Good luck.

Answer 8

sounds like he is taking advantage of u get rid of him if he really loved u he wouldnt lie 2 u or keep things from u

Answer 9

GIRL THIS GUY HAS LOST HIS DAMN MIND....DON'T LET HIM TURN IT AROUND ON YOU (THEY LOVE DOING THAT WHEN THEY KNOOOWWW THEY'RE IN THE WRONG)..THERE'S NO EXCUSE FOR WHAT HE'S DOING..HE HAS A GIRL AND SHOULD BE RESPECTING YOU!!...IT HURTS LIKE HELL TO LET GO..BUT YOU HAVE TO THINK OF YOURSELF,,YOUR SANITY AND YOU'RE HEALTH...I HOPE IT GOES YOUR WAY...

Answer 10

YOU SHOULD LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU REALLY FEEL ABOUT THIS, IF THIS IS GOING ON NOW, THEN MAYBE
YOU NEED TO THINK SERIOUS IF HE THE ONE THAT
YOU WANT TO MARRY, IF YOU LIVE TOGETHER NOW
AND HE DISRESPECT YOU. IT WILL ONLY GET WORST
IF YOU DONT DEAL WITH IT NOW.