I've made other questions about this. I just don't understand. My boyfriend hasn't talked to me today. He usually does. I don't want to lose him. I love him. If I hurt his feelings, he could at least let me know so we could work it out. We were talking about getting married and everything. Could something this small change that for him? I couldn't even sleep last night worrying about it. I'm so scared.
Is it normal for guys to do this? We had plans to see each other tomorrow.
2006-11-15 15:19:43 · 10 answers · asked by New mommy 2010! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's usually 3 days a week he spends with the guys. Since I've been working, my hours are at night, so it sometimes falls on our days. In fact, our 2 month anniversary is Friday, but I'm going to have to work and won't see him. I'm sure he will spend the time with the guys. I don't bother him on these nights. He usually comes on at close to 11 to talk some, then he goes to bed.
Also, I don't call him. He said he does not like to talk on the phone since he is a customer service rep and he talks to people at work. So we rarely ever talk on the phone. I do however get online in the mornings and talk to him while he's at work (this may be the problem actually). Of course, of a night he would ask, "Are you going to be on tomorrow?" as if he didn't mind me coming online then. His company seems to allow them to talk online because my sister's friend works there and they talk online sometimes too.
On Sundays we usually spend the day together. He says he enjoys it. Did he lie?
2006-11-15 15:47:11 · update #1
1) If you are freaking out because he didn't talk to you for ONE day, you're not ready for marriage. Marriage isn't a walk in the park. It's time to mature and learn from your relationship.
2) Has he been busy? Have you seen him? Don't get obsessed with this. When you take that he didn't talk to you as a I sign that he doesn't love you, that screams "I'M INSECURE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP!" Don't worry about it. You don't need to see each other every day to make a relationship work.
3) You need to calm down. If you love him, then great. Trust him--he isn't going to leave you just because he didn't say hello to you one day. Honestly, I wouldn't even make this a big deal. Tomorrow say something like, "Were you busy yesterday?"
4) Advice for YOU--learn to be independent. You don't need a guy to be happy. The fact that you are happy while you are with a guy is great, but that shouldn't be your whole life. You each are two seperate people. While you are a couple, enjoy the independence of being your own woman.
2006-11-15 15:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I read several things into this....first...why are you getting all freaked out? Its one day....just chill and see what happens tomarrow...if he still blows you off, as his girlfriend, you should not have to stress out about simply saying...whats going on?
If you are thinking of getting married, you should work on communications a whole lot.
Another thing I am concerned about is a possibility he is feeling smothered...and if that is the case, you need to not need him so much...maybe he feels he needs to just avoid contact with you from time to time..because you kinda freak out when he needs space
The other problem here is you are letting him hold all the cards when you worry so much. You are setting up a very unbalanced relationship this way. Think about it...he wants something..but thinks you may not go for it....so he thinks ...ok....I will just blow her off for a day or 2...then she will panic and she will agree to anything just to hang on to me? Not saying this is going on, but I think you should step back and look at the big picture and think about it hun..
Good luck...and my guess is it is probable he was just busy today and tomarrow he wil see you and not even see what the big deal was...women tend to think with emotions, and men think...in the moment.
2006-11-15 23:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get to worried if it's only been one day that he hasn't talked to you. Sometimes people just get really busy or just have a lot going on and don't feel like talking. If you are really worried, give him a call.
2006-11-15 23:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him come to you, maybe it's not about you and you smothering him. Step back and get your emotions in check. Your life should not completely revolve him. Act as if your did not even notice or care if he didn't talk to you usually in doing this it turns everything around. Worth a try.
2006-11-15 23:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys need for their girl to talk with them about problems. Guys like to feel needed...girls on the other hand normally feel the need to talk without the risk of getting "advice" from the guy.
2006-11-15 23:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap girl, the world does not revolve around you. Let the poor guy have an off day or be in a bad mood once in a while. Back off and let him breathe. Get a puppy if you want somebody to slobber all over you everytime you turn around.
2006-11-15 23:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by bdenton2k 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont worry at all .you said you and him were talking about getting married .maybe he needs sometimes to think about it a bit more to decide before contacting you .Think positive .
2006-11-15 23:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD NOT WORRY ABOUT IT SO MUCH, YOU ARE GETTING WITH HIM TOMORROW SO DONT LET BE
A ISSUES. BUT IF THERE ARE SOME SERIOUS PROBLEMS
MAYBE YOU NEED TIME KNOW TO DEAL WITH THIS SINCE
YOU ARE TALKING MARRIAGE. WHAT EVER THE PROBEM
IS DEAL WITH NOW.
2006-11-15 23:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOPE BY TOMORROW YOU TWO HAVE TALKED THIS OUT. MAYBE HE'S GETTING COLD FEET ABOUT GETTING MARRIED. IT'S BEST TO GET THIS ALL OUT IN THE OPEN BEFORE MARRIAGE.
2006-11-15 23:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he needs his space , I would not worry as yet!
2006-11-15 23:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by MagikButterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋