i know nobody cares but i need some advice?

Question

i have a girl who i love and who claims to love me but were both pretty young she's 19 im 20 i consider myself to be pretty mature for my age

when it comes to relationships im not really looking to shop around but im not willing to rush things either i let nature take its course

anyway my "as of today EX" girlfriend claims she loves me and all and says she wants to one day marry me but then sometimes says she doesnt

she feels like she hasnt gotten all the partying and dating and stuff out of her system yet
i told her i'd let her go so she can do what she wants but she didnt wanna let me go but i finally convinced her to

and i cant get over her

what am i suppose 2 do?

Answer 1

this is what people experienced too.. it called first experience.
A first step is always alittle hard to make, but after u convinced urself to step forward to have a brighter day or future.. then you'll strong and bold. DO NOT LET SILLY THINGS STOP YOUR FOOTSTEP TO MOVE FORWARD.

Answer 2

Oh my I hated this part when I was growing up. I am on my 2nd marriage, the 1st was a joke, but, in any case . . . I still don't know exactly. I was crushed by the woman I was with between my ex-wife and my present wife. DEVISTATED. I still think about her from time to time, but, I think you somehow see things after the fact that you were blind to when you were dating. I can tell you that the WORST thing you can do is to let it consume you. Don't burry yourself in the trench that keeps getting deeper and deeper or you will find yourself so depressed that you don't care about anything anymore. What are you supposed to do? Don't do ANYTHING!!!! Go on with your life as you have been with the exception of her being in it. That might be difficult for a while, but you can adjust. Hang/go out with friends. Don't go looking for someone else, but, don't just turn them down without a thought either. If you are both meant to be together, you will be, I PROMISE you that. I felt like a big loser . . . a failure . . . when that girl told me that she had thought she loved me but didn't really know what love was. I guess she expected it to feel a certian way or something. I didn't know what to do or think because I really thought we would end up being married. Then I met my now wife. Both quite different people, but, now I can't imagine not being married to her. As far as the "between wives" woman, like I said . . . I think of her from time to time, but, now I could never see being married to her. Hope that helps out a little bit. Just know that someone else knows EXACTLY how you feel.

Answer 3

This is a hard decision but girls do what they want when they dont care who they hurt. This means that she really doesnt care about ur opinion or your feelings but she will when she wants. This girl may be a girl that you love but you need to show her that you just can wait for her to ruin her life and then come crawling to u when she hits rock bottom. Kinda stray away from her and try for new but dont get frustrated if no girls fall into your lap right now just dont go crawling back to her when she wants u everytime cause then she will know that you will always be the sucker that will take her back.

I know you cant get over her now because your still fixed on what you used to have. Just try life without her and hang out with true friends and other people.

Answer 4

sounds like you were hoping for a different answer. Don't ask or don't offer if there is a chance you can't live with the answer.
Since that's too late, you will get over her. If you haven't in 5 years, look her up and what are you gonna do if you've held on that whole time to no avail? Think about it.
Move on, you sound nice and you'll find a girl that has the same goals you do..if you don't, well, doesn't sound like you would have found that with this one either.

Answer 5

Move on and dont look back. The hardest part of a break up a lot of times is not losing the love of your life but rather losing a secure feeling and you will feel lost for a time. use this experience to guide you toward the person that's right for you . know you wont find a perfect match in every way that's only a fairy tale but look for things you did and didn't like about her and apply that in you search when you start to look again.

Answer 6

Your opening question saddens me to see you say, "I know nobody cares..." There's a world of people who care about people like you who are in need of other's help. It's up to you to decipher the right answer for you and let your guts, intuition and mind be the judge of the answer -- not your saddened heart.

Your email captured me as it reminded me of me as a young woman. I never felt love from my father and it ended me in the wrong relationships. Now in retrospect, even when the best of relationships presented themselves, I ran. When someone loved me, I somehow became interested in someone else. I now realize these feelings came from my own insecurities of never feeling love-worthy. I hid behind similar excuses your ex is giving you.

You don't need to shop around if you're a young man that already has a list of standards you want from a woman. When you meet her, believe me, you'll have no doubts nor need for advice.

You'll never get over her if you don't open your eyes, raise your level of expectations and most important -- don't settle for nor accept someone who isn't bringing you happiness.

Butterflies in your stomach, 'can't wait to see or talk to her,' etc. are feelings you should be experiencing now. And these are the best parts of Love that will be forever captive in your heart.

Give yourself the right for true Love. If you do, you'll be surprised at how quickly your words, "I can't get over her," will disappear! Be happy and take the steps to do so. I have faith you'll do so. Best wishes

Answer 7

Sounds like you did the right thing. You are both very young yet. She sounds like she is confussed, so it's best you go your different ways.
Spend more time with family and friends, do an activity that means a lot to you, join a charity that means a lot to you. Keep yourself busy. The more time you sit around, the more you'll think about it.

Answer 8

first project to do is get your head strait and contained in the right position. So probable you want to ascertain a psychologist. second project is you would want to comprehend that care about you the most (assuming you do not personal a canine or a cat) are god and also you. in case you do not care then no individual else will. So popping up and alcohol are a mistake. chuffed and powerful human beings are persons that keep a schedule and look after themselves. they have some thing to look ahead to of their destiny and they are loving human beings (for my area). in case you keep chuffed concepts then chuffed concepts will develop in you in case you keep darkish concepts then they'll multiply in you. Waking up at the same time and ingesting accepted are reliable conduct to keep you chuffed. also exercising is an extremely reliable balancer. attempt yoga and meditation and swimming.

Answer 9

You just take your time young man and you will know if its the right girl,you are wise to not rush into things as 50o% of marriages in this country end in divorce as people are not ready to commit to each other or dont get to truly know each other.Or the guy gets the girl pregnant .So take your sweet time and you'll know if shes the one,

Answer 10

Okay- woman always want the EX when he has moved on. That's a standard Immature dating move, most of us go through.

Over is over. Trust your own judgement.

Move on and find the best person for you. You have plenty of time, yet its not worth you getting hurt again.
Best wishes