What if u fell in love with dis guy that when u first met him he was everything u ever wanted....and then after the years he started changing for the worst... as in all he does is hang out with his boys... smoke and hustle...and all that BS... but u can't help but think about him... hes all u think about and hes the only 1 that melts ur heart... and even though u kno u can find so much betta u don't have the heart 2 let him go... what do u do?????
2006-11-15 15:10:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump him. duh.
2006-11-15 15:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by lucky 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sometimes us girls stay with these kinds of men because we have a lack of self -esteem. Having a man in your life is not what defines you. Women who stay with awful men, are ones who usually grew up in an environment of abuse, or had a mother, or aunt, who loved a man with a displeasing attitude. They may think it is normal. Some women even feel they can't find anyone better any ways. I think it is something you need to really think about seriously. This man may be exciting, and make you feel good at times. But is he good for you? Is he willing to change his habits for you? Even though we are not perfect, love should make us better, not worse. I don't think it is love, maybe convenience and lust. It is best if you work on your inner self, and ask your self truthfully, Why are you with him? Don't think that this is how all men are, there are many good men out there who will respect you, and even love you unconditionaly. I hope you find that. Be strong, it will take courage to let go, if that is what you want to do later.
2006-11-15 23:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by woman of steel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people aren't what they seem at first.
then you get to know him better, he turns out to be the worst.
nobody can tell you what to do.
but why would you want somebody that don't give you what you deserve.
you will get tired of hanging on after he keeps treating you like a piece of trash.
instead of you opening yourself up to him. and making yourself a target. welcome matt, what ever it is that he makes you feel.
i guess my question to you is. why carry that extra weight of hopelessness only to be destroyed. if your asking me what to do. drop him like a hot potato you are to good for him. and trust me. someone else will come around and make your heart melt, and make your stomach flutter. let him go. better things will come your way. i promise.
2006-11-15 23:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by tabatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're in denial.
The guy is a jerk--it sounds like he treats you poorly too. However, you are blinded by the fact that you think you love him.
How does he treat you? WHY do you love him?
Honestly, your situation is screaming to me that you need to mature before continueing this relationship. He is not the best you can have--everyone is going to change, and there's nothing you can do about it. You can, however, change YOUR attitude and YOUR situation.
2006-11-15 23:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the same thing I told some on else. Tell him exactly what you want, then if if his act doesn't change walk your cute butt out. If he does change make sure he knows your serious and if he changes back in a few weeks then kick his *** then walk out.
2006-11-15 23:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by chromecranium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to him about what has happened over the years and why he has been doing this, instead of spending time with me, and to ask him to stop smoking if he wants to stay in this relationship. and then make out with him.
2006-11-15 23:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by snickelfritz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him...grow up....get an education...learn how to spell and then worry about having a "guy" in your life. With all that, you will find a good one who respects you.
2006-11-15 23:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to love yourself first to TRULY realize you are worth it and deserve better. PLEASE leave him. You need to work on yourself first before dating. You need to be single for a little bit and focus on building up your self-esteem. You will be happy, I promise! Watch the documentary, "The Secret". It will change your life!
2006-11-15 23:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd let him go...but then I'm not going to waste my precious heart on someone who isn't worth it...who disrespects themselves and me...
I'm worth more and nobody's gettin' my emotional love or physical affection who isn't worthy of it...
Why are you letting a loser get yours?
2006-11-15 23:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why, hon, but the song *No Scrubs* by TLC came to mind. Roll with that.
2006-11-15 23:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what u think about him and how do u feel about him. Tell him when u see his cute eyes, ur health melts.
Yam...
2006-11-15 23:14:44 · answer #11 · answered by ErC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋