i do have my grandbaby now in my custody. but as far as my daughter its very hard to say. i helped her get out of an abusive relationship before and he is in prison now. but when we went to court my daughter sat on his side to support him. so now the guy is thinking its all my doing.he gets out next year. now that my daughter is in another abusive relatioship she is supporting this. i hate to see her hurt. but this guy knows alot of people who are in gangs. if anyone finds out it was me who told it could endanger my other kids as well as me. we all live in the same neighborhood. i did take my drandbaby out of that situation. i just have to legally get custody of her. its just my daughteris protecting this guy. she protected the other guy who abused her. i have to think about my other kids also as well as my grandbaby. we could be in serious danger if i go to the cops. so i was asking some advice. not to be put down and judged as if i dont care. i just need some insight. im scared.
2006-11-15 15:08:49 · 15 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first I will comend you for taking care of your grandchildren. It's not your place but you are good for doing it. Not to be harsh but it really sounds like your daughter is craving the wrong kind of attention from men. She needs a hard dose of reality that men like that are no good and often are the ones who are crazy. As for you and the children in your care i would seriously consider moving. However you can pretty much find anyone on the internet. It's a terrible situation you daughter has put you in. I dont believe the police will do anything unless he makes threats or actually harms you. The thing that sucks is the same basic rights protecting you are the same rights he has even though he is an abuser. IN ANY CASE if are afraid for your life or your loved ones I would still call the police and see what they can do. Because state laws vary i may not be accuate on what the police can or can not do. I'll say a prayer for you and I hope everything works out ok for yoy.
2006-11-15 15:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by chenelle o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should be commended for taking on another child to raise, and for helping your daughter. One day, she will come to her senses. In the meantime, if it is possible, move away, and for now, do not tell the daughter where you are going. Your daughter is grown and can take care of herself, your grandchild cannot. I know it will probably be very hard, but get out of there. Your daughter is not part of the answer, but part of the problem. I hope you can leave, but if not, you need to take your concerns to the authorities who can help you as well, not just the cops, but social services. I wish you the best, good luck!!!!!!!
2006-11-15 15:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by pupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids are a hand-full I'm almost 40 now but once was a real problem for my parents as well,i feel you should do whatever it takes to protect yourself as well as your family give your daughter an ultimatum of having family or bad friends and let her decide don't worry if she picks him now sooner or later shell be back to you,the police wont help till someone gets hurt but most of the time they are at least sympathetic and will try to help..best you can do is dig and let your daughter fall on her face..there are gang related detectives who's whole purpose is to help with the gang problem and what to do about them..maybe they can intercede..I'm sure youv already thought about moving and are probably stuck..I'm from st Louis and have also shared that problem easier to get in than out..good luck..i hope i helped a little.be carfull..take care
2006-11-15 15:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by getbyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't even go to cop then there is only one way to come out of the is that be courages and talk to the man directly. If you show a stronge courage then definitly the person will here understand. The another way is to live the place without telling anyone about it.
2006-11-15 15:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not just leave or you'll be charged with kidnapping. The local transition/ battered women shelter will give you all the legal help, counselling and support you need. If there is not one in your area your local child and family service can work with you to end her parental rights.
2006-11-15 15:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i do know what u imply. He is simply dull and u must forget about him and it is onto him for what he does and eats and says. he simply an fool man provide him the bloodless shoulder or if he bothers you inform him that "great i will be able to bear in mind that if u bear in mind the truth that the meals u devour is haram and the matters u say are hypocritical" would set him immediately. additionally I could brain if persons inspiration i used to be whatever else however Muslim. and if ur pleasant and are the matters that u say u are and do then must permit all people realize that your a muslim and all of us don't seem to be simply going round bombing areas or w/e they suppose.
2016-09-01 13:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by golden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. that's really sticky. i'm sorry you're in this situation.
if you need to go to the police, tell them all of this. tell them that her ex has involvement with gangs and that you need protection! if the police are worth ANYTHING, they will protect you, because it's their job. i don't really see any other option other than going to the police if you feel endangered.
good luck. i hope everything works out.
2006-11-15 15:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by maria p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u can i say move as far away as possible.. i think you need to talk to your daughter and as her if this is the way she wants her to child to remember how things were for them as a child.. but i do hope everything works out.. i will be rooting for you
2006-11-15 15:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by gacountrygirly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thank you done right by taken your grand child out of that kind of home now you have to do what ever it takes to make sure that your grand child is safe.lol
2006-11-15 15:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by mommy of brats 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITs called stockholm syndrome.
more info at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome
The government would probably put you and your kids in a witness protection program in exchange for gang info.
2006-11-15 15:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋